There are often times we are faced with things we wouldn’t have chosen to go through, if left up to us. There are so many things I’ve experienced during this life time. Many of them if I had to do over again… I wouldn’t have done. There’s damn sure people I wouldn’t have given a chance if I knew how they truly were.
I try to take positivity from the different events; sometimes it seems impossible. Sometimes life has a way of making you feel like all you’re going to constantly receive are blows to the head.
In short, ever since the start of this year I’ve been feeling like there was a dark cloud over me; I can’t explain it. You may be thinking something had to happen for me to feel like this; ‘Nope’ nothing happened. One thing I can say, this year my kindness and go with the flow attitude have been tested more than they ever have before.
I’ve learned, you can’t go with the flow all the time; you’re going to eventually need to have an opinion about things. Having an opinion insures others know how you feel about certain things and it also gives you more control over your life. Verses not saying anything and going with the flow living a life that is full of unwanted surprises.
I feel I’m learning this fact a little late, but I’m so happy I’ve learned it at all. This way I will gain more control over my life and what I want to do with it. Rather than just go with the flow of everyone else’s opinion of what I should do.
For those of you who go with the flow because you don’t want to ruffle any feather; learn to speak your mind. People respect you more when you do. Especially for those of you who are dating; speaking your mind is essential. If you let the other person decide everything, eventually you become boring and bland.
A lot of people will admit this and others won’t; but a lot of men and women love a challenge. So… if you’re hoping to win that person over with passivity, it won’t work. What’s going to happen is, they’re going to be entertained with you for a moment, then they won’t. They’ll be on the prowl once again, looking for that person that provides everything they didn’t know they were missing. If you don’t embody what they’re missing that is okay. Yawl weren’t the right fit.
One thing to always remember; never change to be someone’s perfect. You’ll never win. The only thing you can do is be you; if they don’t like you being your 100% self, F**K’EM! Just because you didn’t find a life long partner in them doesn’t mean you’re not going to find your princess or princess.
With relationships you have to be patient. So to find that ONE you’re going to have to trust the process and just enjoy life until they come.
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