Why am I not able to separate myself from feeling bad because someone may be mad at me or doesn’t like me? That has been a problem of mine for a long time. There’s something in me that wants everyone to love me. Deep down I know that isn’t possible, because someone is always going to dislike you for their own reasons. Most times it has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. I guess you could say that’s something that I’m learning more and more about as I get older.
Growing up, I felt pretty much the same. I always wanted people to like me. Most times, I bent over backwards. Kids and adults treated me poorly. At the time I didn’t realize it wasn’t me who had the problem, it was the people around me. There are so many of us that just want acceptance, but you have to first accept yourself. Once you do that, it won’t matter that the next person doesn’t like you. The reason that is, is because you will love yourself so much that it won’t matter what the next person says or does. You’ll be so secure in yourself that what they’re doing won’t shake yourself confidence.
I know your probably thinking, “How is self confidence developed?” and “What can I do to improve mine?” There are so many ways to improve self confidence, but I’m gonna give you four right now.
How To Increase Your Self-Confidence:
Think Positively– Control the things you choose to think about. Most of us don’t realize it, but our thoughts control our mood. Choosing to take in positive things and information can make you a much happier person.
Eating Clean- Eating clean brings you to a higher frequency. When you choose to eat in a cleaner way, you don’t feel weighed down and tired by the heavy toxic, nutrient deprived food you were eating before. If eating a diet high in live foods you feel alive. Don’t believe me? Try it for a month.
Exercise- I know that everyone else is saying this, but it does make a difference. I’m sure plenty of us have had that high after finishing a workout. It makes you feel good, light, and re-energized. It also helps to clear your mind. Remember you’re never too old to start anything, and you don’t need a gym membership to do so.
Surround Yourself with Positive People- This helps sooo much! Have you ever been around someone that always has a sad story to tell? You don’t realize it, but their energy becomes your energy. That’s why you can walk in to a room feeling the happiest you ever have and two minutes later feel sad and your not sure why. It’s because your soaking up other people’s energy around you. That’s why it’s important to hang around light hearted positive people, because you become what you surround yourself with.
In the long run you’re going to become a better person. Working on yourself is something that we all should do, and don’t worry if you haven’t gotten to the point of accepting yourself yet. It’s just a matter of time before that happens. There’s no rush. Take the time to grow into the person you want to be and know that everything is an experience you can learn from.