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Take life By the Gonads

Good morning!!!!

As always hope your day is going the way you intended.

Isolated Happy Family With Newborn Baby. Royalty Free Cliparts ...Question of the day: Family putting pressure on you to get married and have kids?

This is something many women and men have gone through at some point in their life. I’m having to deal with that question being asked more frequently because I’m in my late 30’s. Some people may not understand how invasive that one question can be. Truth is, you don’t know what kind of issues that man or woman could be going through in attempts to be considered normal a.k.a fertile.

Making sense of a miscarriage | MosaicJust to think back; once I was at a past job and a guy asked me my age, at that time I was 27. The next question immediately was; “Do you have any kids?” When I said “No” he looked at me as if there was something wrong with me. To be honest it pissed me off, because here you are , you don’t know me from a can of paint but you want to get all in my ovaries and find out what’s going on down there before you have the chance to get to know the person.

Sometimes it’s not easy to get pregnant. Just because a person has a little difficulty conceiving doesn’t mean they are less than a woman or man. I never got that, so many of us believe that we aren’t a real man or woman because we’ve had problems with conceiving children.

Signs That You're Killing it at Living Life – That Awkward Tan LineTo be straight up with you, life is too short to sit up here and be concerned with things you can’t change. I understand that not being able to get what you feel you want or need is a bummer, but there is way too much life to live to focus on the things you have little to no control over. That’s why it’s important to always look on the bright side. You’re more likely to grow in the right healthy direction if you do.

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Stir Crazy

There isn’t much to write about except the infamous COVID-19. It seems to be the only thing of concern.

But I ask you do you believe what we’re getting sick from is a virus or radiation poisoning? I still have to do my research, but the video that came my way made me think.

The video I’m talking about was one concerning the G5 towers and the high amounts of radiation poisoning it gives of. Below is a link to a video depicting the effects of the G5 towers.

Tell me if you believe this could be the source of our current situation.

https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=3298482650180751&id=100000571455008?sfnsn=mo&extid=rsf0XZtaglifvCx4

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Medicinal Daily Dose

 Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional.

 

Looking for ways to stay healthy through this health scare?

 

Healthy Eating

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There are things you can do to make your immune system stronger. Exercise, and keeping your hands clean have been two main things I’ve been hearing over and over again. But there are other things you could do in this time of stillness. What you should do is take time to read about different herbs, fruits, and veggies that have the ability to potentially save your life.

Image result for herbsSome of us know this, but many of us have not taken the time to realize just how powerful our immune system could be once given the right sustenance. People who are real vegetarians understand they have to do way more then eat healthy some times or most of the time; they have to do it all the time.

To be honest I know living a lifestyle like this is a stretch for a lot of us, myself included. But it is something we should strive for. Just thinking about all the benefits of eating healthy makes me happy and motivated to do better. There are so many things that come with eating better.

Below are some of the benefits I know of first hand.

  • Energy all day long
  • Healthy more stable mental state
  • Weight lose
  • frequent bowel movements
  • Positive emotional state

 

Aside from the things I’ve listed, I’ve also heard eating this way 100% of the time has the ability to cure life threating illness’. I believe this to be true. The only thing about this is so many of us are food addicts that it would be extremely difficult to eat only what has grown from the ground for the rest of our lives. I’m not saying it isn’t possible, I’m only saying it would taking a lot of determination to put down everything manufactured and grow your own food.


Environmental Changes

 

This one is simple in theory, but is not so simple for those of use who do not have the means to have a choice.

A lot of use know that it would be better for the planet if we did away with all unnatural substances like plastic; This is one material that is causing the deterioration of the Earth. Many of us don’t think about it, because we feel like what we’re doing isn’t on a catastrophic level. Just imagine how much damage is being done when there’s over 5 billion people doing the same thing. It’s kind of scary when you think about it.

They say we have a few years before we really start to see the affects of our carelessness. I believe that it’ll start showing its self long before we begin to expect it.

But to avoid that from happening, wouldn’t you like to take a step in the right direction today?

Remember everything you do affects everyone and everything. You are never alone, no matter how much you feel you are. We are all one.

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Social Anxiety!!!!

Hey everyone. Hope you’re having a lovely productive day.

My topic if choice today is social anxiety. I chose this topic because it is something I battle with on a day to day basis. I can’t say that I have been medically diagnosed, but I’m sure that is what this is.

Everyday I dread going outside of my house. Not because I hate going outside, because I love nature. I’m just not a fan of meeting and speaking to new people. Don’t get me wrong I would love to expand the number of friends I have. I just become very frustrated, flustered and uncomfortable when meeting new people.

I wish socializing came easy to me like breathing, but it doesn’t. My mind is constantly filled with negative thoughts of how my interaction with the next person is going to play out.

It’s not as if I’m asking them to do something. That is definitely not the case. It’s more of wanting them to except and love me for who I am.

I never understood it, but I always have strived for approval of every person that has ever entered my life; from my Mom all the way done to the cashier at the grocery store. I know that no one has a great relationship with everyone they every met. If they do it’s usually because they are not being true to themselves, in most cases.

So at the current moment I’m working on me and taking steps to having a better quality of life.

Who has felt like this?

If you have, it would be nice to know I’m not alone.

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SoapsByShad

Hey Good People!!!

 

I know it’s been a while since I’ve last made a post. Reason for that is I am trying to get a brand and company off of the ground. I’m not sure if you remember a couple of posts ago. I was talking about getting into skin care. Well I kind of have. Everything isn’t really set into motion yet. Well… on my part it kind of is.

It took me forever to find something that was worth my time and I think that I have found something other than writing that I enjoy doing; and that thing is making soap!!! I never thought that I would enjoy it so much, but I really do! So because I enjoy making it so much I’ve started to sell it!! The only thing now is getting buyers. I know that this is going to be the hardest task, because people don’t trust just anyone or thing being sold over the internet. It’s a precaution and good thing for them, but it’s terrible for me. Because I back my product 100%!!!

Every oil that goes into each bar of soap is meant to only increase the health of your skin. I use things like organic virgin coconut oil, virgin olive oil, canola oil, Shea Butter and a list of other things that have been proven to be good for the skin and your over all health. I also am a big consumer of essential oils. Some of the soaps are scented by fragrances, but many are by essential oils. Because I don’t know about you, but I want to be enveloped in something I know is going to benefit me in the long run.  

Through out this post are pictures of different soaps I have created over the months. Some are in my Etsy shop (SoapsByShad.Etsy.com) and others are soaps that are soon to be displayed. If you are interested, please make sure to click the link and you’ll be taken to my shop.

Also if you want to leave a comment or just want to communicate somewhere other than on my blog I also have other social medias

They are:

Facebook: HeavenlyScentsbyShadrieka or L.O.W.W which is also on Facebook. Which stands for Love of the Written Word.

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Heavenly Scents

Good afternoon Good People!!!

I hope all is well. I know you’re probably looking at the title and trying to figure out how I came up with that. Well that is the name of my NEW Etsy STORE!                                       

SoapsbyShad.etsy.com All soaps have been made with all natural oils to promote hydration, conditioning, and cleanliness of the skin.

As you know it has been a little while since I’ve written anything. The reason for that is there is another business venture I’m looking into and unfortunately it has been taking a lot of my time. I have no regrets, because in the long run I think this is going to be something I can do for fun and also profit from.

The business I have been looking into is skincare. But at this current moment in time I’m only making one thing and that is soap. I’ve created an Etsy store and I’ve already had 3 orders to come in! This journey is going to be an exciting one. Last year was definitely not my year, but I believe that 2020 is going to be the year of the hustle. That is all I plan on doing this year. Because I realized a long time ago I never wanted to work on someone’s job. So by doing this it will give me an avenue to make my own currency and be my own boss.

I remember I asked a friend, ” Why don’t more people try to make their own lane?” He just said, “Not everyone has the same goal.” I didn’t understand it, and I’m not going to try to act like I understand it now, because I don’t. I much rather own my own everything, than to let someone have basic control over my life. Many people don’t realize that is what a job is many times; but that is about the gist of it.

Final thought

If there is anything you take from this post, I want you to know that anything is possible as long as you believe you can achieve it. I don’t care how extreme your dreams might be, there is always a way to make them come true. So never stop striving for the stars.

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Control- Good or Bad?

Good Morning!!!!

Hope everyone is well, and getting everything they ever asked for out of life.

Today I was thinking of how we go through life and are disappointed time and time again. But I’ve learned it’s through the disappointments we learn.

For example:

You date, go out, have a great time with that person. Then later on realize they were nothing like you initially believed them to be. There are never any problems between the two of you. He loves you and you love him. There are things you noticed, but nothing alarming. 

Yeah he may be a little over protective. But as women we kind of enjoy when our men get a little jealous. So you think nothing of it. Then there are other little things that start to arise when you finally take that plunge and move in together. Things like, “I don’t see a reason why you would need to stay out longer then 4 or 5 hours.” or “You should go to the gym bae. You’ll feel so much better when you do.”

Some of these things aren’t as bad in small doses. But when this becomes his or her norm, it starts to take a toll on you as a person. You may not notice it at first. But what starts to happen is, you start to feel like the walls are closing up on you, and you have no room to move or do anything you would typically do. You’re trying to save yourself from the ear full you’re sure they’ll give you if they found out you engaged in something they didn’t approve of. You may not realize it, but that person is controlling you.

Whenever you have someone telling you what they want and they’re doing it in a way that makes you afraid they’ll leave if you say “No” that is controlling, and that isn’t the person you want to waste your energy on.

Below is a clip from Divorce Court of a couple where the man was considerably older than his fiancé.  In this clip you’ll see how he maintained and demanded control through the entire relationships.

If you have ever been in a relationship such as this please leave a comment below, letting others know how you got out of it. And if you’re someone who doesn’t see anything wrong with this type of partnership, I would love to know your take on the situation.

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Adulting

Healthy is a life style….

 

The first thing a lot of people think of when I say ‘Healthy is a lifestyle’ is their food intake. Although that is one aspect of healthy living it isn’t the only one. Healthy living consists of having great influential people in your life, positive thinking, being excited to live another day because you operate from a place of gratefulness and humility. Also making sure to take time for yourself is a must. Many times we have forgotten to take time for ourselves because we become so concerned with making sure the next person is okay. But how can you take care of someone else if you’re not?

Recently I’ve been thinking, ‘I would love to be a child again’. Reason being, this adulting thing is not what I thought it was going to be. I thought when you became an adult things get easier; but they actually get harder. Just think about it; when you were a child you woke up didn’t have a real worry because most times it was your parents doing all the  worrying. It was their responsibility to take care of you. So many times your day would be pretty easy. I know everyone did not have an easy up bringing. For the ones who did, you know exactly what I’m taking about.

Now you’re an adult and it’s like you’re stumbling and you can’t gain your footing to save your life. Most days are met with anguish and frustration because you have no choice but to do things you’re uncomfortable with to make life a little more bearable. Just incase you’re not following, here’s an example.

Paula is a friend, lover, and mentor. Even with being all these things she still hasn’t managed to find happiness. Sure she feels moments of happiness, but she hasn’t managed to recreate that feeling of happiness for herself. Many times she finds herself going through bouts of depression and anxiety. 

She later on realized her depression is caused by her financial situation. You see, Paula was very hard working. Truth be told this woman gave her all to her job, no matter what type of job it was. She stayed late, went above and beyond in every way, for others. Did not do the same when it came to herself though. It seemed she always got the short end of the stick, because people would love the work she did but it never reflected in her finances.

So one day Paula finally came to the realization she no longer wanted to work for others. She figured if she was going to be slaving for anyone it was going to be for herself. So she decided to start a pet grooming business. Besides, she always loved animals and knew she wouldn’t mind having them around her, because they brought love and peace. 

Months went by, and finally that dark feeling of depression stopped looming  over her. Finally she knew what it felt like to be internally happy. 

 

For some of us this may not be the case. You may be extremely happy with your financial situation. But my question is, “Are you happy with every area of your life?” If the answer is ‘No’ you got some work to do. 

 

Nothing is impossible. Every vision was given to you for a reason. What you do with it though is up to you.

 

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Change is gonna come

 

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“I love you! Don’t you get that?!”

Kayla was once again professing her love to Donovan. Something she did almost everyday. She loved him, but something wouldn’t let him except, let alone believe she could really love him.

Past relationships, broke his heart beyond repair. So now that he had someone who was really there for him and would never dare think of hurting him in anyway; he could not and would not believe it.

“Kayla I love you too. But you’re going to have to give me some time. Being with you has been like a dream. I have to be honest though; you are my dream girl in everyway…. except….”

Kayla had issues herself. She often found herself falling in love with men who were emotionally unavailable or extremely mentally and emotionally abusive. So far Donovan hadn’t seemed like he was either of the two. But they had only been together for 5 months.

Things with him had been so perfect, she was literally waiting for the other shoe to drop. She hoped it never would, but deep down she knew otherwise.

“Except what?!.. Spit it out!”

“Baby you know I love you?”

“Yeah… Just say it!”

“Baby…. you gotta work on your body.”

“What’s wrong with my body?! You always claimed you loved it before.”

True he had always seemed to be in love with every inch of her. But now that he had become comfortable with her and realized her loyalty; that’s when he knew it was a good time to dig his claws in.


1 YEAR LATER…..

“You changed. You aren’t the woman I thought I knew!”

Kayla hadn’t realized it, but she allowed herself to get lost in Donovan’s madness. In the beginning things were ideal. She loved and trusted him; he could do no wrong. She hadn’t realized it, but slowly she had become his chameleon. She learned how to bend and blend into the small pockets of space he allowed her.

By this time she learned all his likes and dislikes. There was very little she could say and do that wouldn’t upset or trigger a negative reaction.

The more time passed, the angrier and more detached he became. Things like random arguments about trivial things were common place. Right a long with Donovan taking multiple shots at Kayla’s self-esteem; through name calling, mostly pertaining to her weight. 

By this time Kayla had grown tired of his disrespectful underhanded antics. She wanted so badly to leave, but feared being a lone and loosing her independence.

How many of you are stuck in a situation that is unbearable? But you stay anyway because of your resistance to change or you believe the discomfort is only temporary and will eventually dissipate.

If that is the case, I’m sorry to tell you; you need to get more uncomfortable or even give up. In order for you to move through that or this dark time in your life to make it to the light.  

No one situation stays the same. 

Change will come….

 

If you let it.

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Mirror

Have you ever spent most of your life being someone’s other half?

If so, why did you feel it was important to be linked to someone in that romantic way?

Are you still with them?

Does always being in a relationship mean you’re codependent?

If given the situation, could you walk away from an unhealthy relationship that isn’t serving you, to take the time needed to better yourself?

Does being attached to someone make you feel complete?

If you’ve answered ‘YES’ to most of these questions, most likely you are a codependent. What that means is you need the attention and affection of others to feel at ease and that you belong. For a long time I was also a codependent. It wasn’t until I got a lot older and started researching the term when I found out it was not such a good thing. One thing I’ve leaned is, it’s always better to make sure you’re covered before you take care of anyone else. Always remember people are people and that no one is perfect. So if you’re with someone you love right now; you maybe even picture yourself getting married to them. Make sure you have all your ducks in a row just incase he or she does not feel the same way.

I understand it may be a depressing thought, but it’s real, and that is what life is. You can’t be blind to the possibility of things between you and them not working out. Like my Momma always told me, “You shouldn’t put all your eggs in one basket”. The sad thing is a lot of people know this saying, but choose to interpret it in a disloyal way; by cheating. Not having all your eggs in one basket doesn’t have to mean that, it could also be becoming a boss about this money game. Or having strong long lasting connections with others; so you don’t lose yourself if something like a breakup was to happen.

Long story short, people are people. It’s your responsibility to either learn from the situations or let the overwhelming emotions of disappointment and hurt take over. But you would do much better learning how to use those emotions to better you. Use those negative feelings as fuel. Also, keep in mind another person can not complete you. You have to have done that for yourself. Truth be told, when you have a strong sense of who you are, what you like or don’t like, and what you would deal with or wouldn’t deal with; it makes it easier to choose someone who reflects what you feel for yourself. So if you’re broken, more than likely the man or woman you choose is going to be broken. There are very rare occasions where a broken person marries or dates someone who’s confident in who they are; but many times it doesn’t last if that broken person doesn’t find a way to mend their brokenness.

Inconclusion, our relationships are mirrors; what you see or feel about yourself always seems to show in the type of person you date.

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