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Finding you

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Good Afternoon, Loves!!

I pray life is treating you well…

Self love– regard for one’s own well-being and happiness (chiefly considered as a desirable rather than narcissistic characteristic).

This is one thing every person should have for themselves but don’t. Many times people or situations, cause you not to feel this for yourself. That’s the reason we have so many negative things going on in the world.

A lot of people have begun to feel complacent with not feeling good about themselves. That is definitely not a head space we need to be in. Regardless of the things you’ve been through in life, you have to learn to move past the pain, find the silver lining (there’s always one). I know sometimes the bad may out way the good, but there still is good.

I’m not sure why negative affects stay with us longer than positive ones. But you have to allow yourself to get out of that negative head space, so you can thrive and start living life with purpose instead of technicality or responsibility. Try turning that negative thought process around.

Instead of thinking, “I hate my life!” think ” I love my family. I’m so happy they were placed in my life.” or “I’m getting older. I have nothing to show for it. At this point life is pointless. No career, husband, or children.” you could say, ” I have my freedom, and I’m excited to see what beautiful blessings God has for me, because what is for me, will soon be mine .”

See the problem with most of us these days, we want everything right now. If we don’t get it when we think we should, we start to spaz out. We start to believe our time for success is never coming, we’re never going to get married, we’re doomed to live a life of poverty, we’ll always be a loner; I could go on forever. Truth is, we have so many fears, that we’re allowing them to run our lives.

You’re always going to have some fear. The key is to use it as fuel; not an excuse to not achieve your greatness. Let that fear propel you to be the best singer, songwriter, writer, actor, doctor, lover, teacher, activist.

What ever you have passion for, let your love for it guide you. Through doing what’s in your heart, you find the way back to you.

If you need further help getting out of that rut; here are a few books that are guaranteed to get you back on track. The key is to practice what you learn in these books, daily.

Also, don’t forget to LIKE, FOLLOW, SHARE, and COMMENT; so others who are going through depression or self doubt can be helped by this post. Know that a person can be laughing on the out side, but inside are empty because they feel as if their life has no purpose. Show them it does.

As Always, Love you’ll

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Creative thinking a.k.a Following the Road less Traveled

Often times we believe we don’t have a choice, and if we do it’s limited. But that isn’t true. There is always another option.

I read something today I thought was funny but true. I’m going to put it below. If you want to read more stories like this, go and check out at https://wealthygorilla.com/10-most-inspirational-short-stories/.

Thinking out of the Box

In a small Italian town, hundreds of years ago, a small business owner owed a large sum of money to a loan-shark. The loan-shark was a very old, unattractive looking guy that just so happened to fancy the business owner’s daughter.

He decided to offer the businessman a deal that would completely wipe out the debt he owed him. However, the catch was that we would only wipe out the debt if he could marry the businessman’s daughter.
Needless to say, this proposal was met with a look of disgust.
The loan-shark said that he would place two pebbles into a bag, one white and one black.
The daughter would then have to reach into the bag and pick out a pebble. If it was black, the debt would be wiped, but the loan-shark would then marry her. If it was white, the debt would also be wiped, but the daughter wouldn’t have to marry the loan-shark.

Standing on a pebble-stewn pathway in the businessman’s garden, the loan shark bent over and picked up two pebbles.

Whilst he was picking them up, the daughter noticed that he picked up two black pebbles and placed them both in the bag.

He then asked the daughter to reach in and pull a pebble from the bag.

The daughter naturally had three choices on what she could have done.

  1. Refuse to pick a pebble from the bag.
  2. Take a pebble from the bag and expose the loan-shark for cheating.
  3. Pick a pebble from the bag fully well knowing it was black and sacrifice herself for her father’s freedom.

She drew out a pebble from the bag, and before looking at it ‘accidently’ dropped it into the mix of the other pebbles. She said to the loan-shark;

“Oh how clumsy of me. Nevermind, if you look into the

bag for the one that is left, you will be able to tell which pebble I picked.

The pebble in the bag was obviously black, and seeing as the loan-shark didn’t want to be exposed, he had to play along as if the pebble the daughter chose was white, and clear her fathers debt.


Moral of the Story:

Even when there are option in front of you and none are in your favor; if you’re smart enough you’ll find a way to make it in your favor.

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As always…..

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Failure is a part of life

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What I have learned a long the way is failure is something you can’t get away from. You try to do everything to the best of your ability and sometimes it’s still just not enough. What you have to realize is failure is many times a matter of opinion. People set up loops and hurdles for us to jump through. Sometimes we fall short of their expectations, but as long as you tried and gave it all you had, that’s all that really matters.

I don’t know where it came from, but I just got inspired to write about failing. Something I seem to do a lot  of. Don’t take that as me downing myself because I’m not. I’m just saying I, like a lot of other people have seen failure and have been affected by it. To be completely honest it affects me greatly because I feel that everything I ever do should be to the best of my ability, scratch that to the best of anyone’s ability. At times I know I can be hard on myself; I guess that’s just the Virgo in me. But seriously we try to hold ourselves to these standards that just aren’t realistic, most times. Like they say, ‘When you fall down get up and try again’. We are always encouraged to try because the story never should end with failing.

If you’re like me and you want to find your way to becoming your own boss; there are going to be many times when you’re going to fail. All you can do is dust yourself off and go back at it again.

What I had to learn and still learning is, my opinion of myself should rank higher than anyone else’s of me and if I fail it’s okay. The upside is I’m trying and that’s all that matters. Sure you may fail over and over again. But if you really believe in what you’re doing it won’t matter, because if you try long enough and don’t let failure intimidate or deter you, eventually that freedom and sense of accomplishment will be your reward for not giving up.

Know you were put here for a reason, and if things aren’t working out, doesn’t mean it’s going to always be that way. Sometimes we have to jump those hurdles to get to the life we want and know we deserve.

As always……

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Hurt People

Have you ever thought of some of the things you’ve gone through in this life? How did it make you feel to experience some of the situations you’ve gone through? Would you change any of the choices you made? Also do you sometime ask yourself; ” Why me?”

 

I have asked myself those questions time and time again. When I was younger I didn’t understand why it was necessary for me to go through so many things that caused me pain. Every time something happened to me I always wondered: “What was the reason for the hurt?” As you may imagine I had a lot of talks with God. Thinking that there was a reason he was allowing so many bad things to happen to me. It felt like he was either allowing my heart to get broken over and over because he wanted me to learn something from those situations or it was my choices that were causing me to get hurt; either way it was God teaching me something.

It’s funny how you get older and things that use to hurt to think about, don’t bother you as much as they once did. I think the reason for that is the constant things we go through allows us to see things in a different light. For instance, if you had or have someone in your life that is or was treating you bad; you learn that sometimes people do cruel things because you’re everything they want to be, or they’re unhappy with themselves. So naturally because life isn’t working in their favor, they try their hardest to rain on your parade, because like they say; hurt people hurt people.

There are so many people in this world that have gone through unimaginable things; many times because of another person. But many times this person is hurting someone else because that is all they know. Other times people hurt other people to make themselves feel better, because life isn’t going so well for them. When you have someone that wants to see you hurt, learn not to take it personal because there is something in them that is very broken that needs to be mended before they can ever be happy for you. Some people will find the bad when there is only good. I understand, because for a long time I would do the same thing. Not so much with other people, but when it pertained to me.

I couldn’t tell you how much I’ve gone through. I’m sure it’s not as much as others, but I’ve gone through things just the same. And I feel God gives you tests so you can appreciated your reward(s) when he presents it to you.

Like I’ve heard so many times before: ” With great suffering, comes great reward.

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