Hope everyone is well, and getting everything they ever asked for out of life.
Today I was thinking of how we go through life and are disappointed time and time again. But I’ve learned it’s through the disappointments we learn.
You date, go out, have a great time with that person. Then later on realize they were nothing like you initially believed them to be. There are never any problems between the two of you. He loves you and you love him. There are things you noticed, but nothing alarming.
Yeah he may be a little over protective. But as women we kind of enjoy when our men get a little jealous. So you think nothing of it. Then there are other little things that start to arise when you finally take that plunge and move in together. Things like, “I don’t see a reason why you would need to stay out longer then 4 or 5 hours.” or “You should go to the gym bae. You’ll feel so much better when you do.”
Some of these things aren’t as bad in small doses. But when this becomes his or her norm, it starts to take a toll on you as a person. You may not notice it at first. But what starts to happen is, you start to feel like the walls are closing up on you, and you have no room to move or do anything you would typically do. You’re trying to save yourself from the ear full you’re sure they’ll give you if they found out you engaged in something they didn’t approve of. You may not realize it, but that person is controlling you.
Whenever you have someone telling you what they want and they’re doing it in a way that makes you afraid they’ll leave if you say “No” that is controlling, and that isn’t the person you want to waste your energy on.
Below is a clip from Divorce Court of a couple where the man was considerably older than his fiancé. In this clip you’ll see how he maintained and demanded control through the entire relationships.
If you have ever been in a relationship such as this please leave a comment below, letting others know how you got out of it. And if you’re someone who doesn’t see anything wrong with this type of partnership, I would love to know your take on the situation.
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