Hope everyone is doing well…
There was a question that I needed the answer too. Not really needed the answer, but wanted the answer. And that question is,
“Have you ever or do you currently date someone that you feel more like a father or mother to rather than a spouse?”
If so, why do you think that is? I have a theory.
Theory 1: Many of us end up with this type of person because deep down we want someone who’s gonna need us just a little more than we need them.
Theory 2: We weren’t quite aware that being with this person would be so demanding. So in essence, we got blind sided.
There are plenty of possibilities, but those are two that make the most sense to me.
I didn’t want to exclude the men out, because I’m both sex’s have had to deal with someone who wasn’t taking on the kind of responsibility required for their age or that relationship. If you still aren’t feeling what I’m saying, let me give you an example. Okay…. let’s say you and your partner have been together for a very long time, and the longer you stay together the more demands they require from you. Things like; “Where are you going?” “When are you coming back?” “Don’t eat this or that.””There’s no need for you to leave this house for more than 4 hours.” “If I’m not home write a note letting me know where you are.” Then the death blow; silent treatment.
If you have experienced being with someone like this, it almost feels like you’re the child and they’re the adult. But it’s really more like having a new born baby who is in need of you every moment of every day. At first it can seem cute, but over time, it starts to really work on your nerves and self-esteem. Self-Esteem because, it’s only you and him most times; because to many outings may set him off. Then sometimes this may lead to what I mention earlier; silent treatment.
I’ve been given silent treatment so often that it’s become a norm. I know it shouldn’t be. But the good thing is, I’ve learned not to internalize it.
The Silver Lining
I’ve learned I don’t really need anyone else. It would be nice but it isn’t mandatory.
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