Emotional Stagnation- Is when a person, people, or situation causes you to feel like you’re emotionally bound to remain the same.
F.Y.I: That definition is completely made up. But if this were or is a real combination of words, this would be my definition for it.
Have you ever had times when you felt like emotionally you were stuck doing the same thing because it was what others expected of you?
You realize you don’t have the freedom you crave, but you stay because it’s still better than what you have known all your life. If you’re not clear on what I mean, let me give you some examples:
Being with him is better than living with my mom and step dad. At least he takes care of me. Sure he may knock me around sometime. But I don’t have to worry about someone coming in my room in the middle of the night fondling me.
He’s a great provider. So what if he cheats. At least I don’t have to worry about where I’m going to lay my head at night.
These are just a few examples of the things we reduce ourselves down to, because we are so use to being treated as less than. That we start to think that is the type of treatment we deserve. But you have to know what ever you take at the beginning, is what you’re going to have to continue to take as long as you have any kind of relationship with them; including work relationships.
You have to teach people how to treat you. So if you feel some type of way about anything, you need to make it known, so people can start to respect your opinion.
Q: What happens when you never have an opinion about anything?
A: People start to label you as a pushover and loose respect for you. In the long run this makes working anywhere harder than what it has to, because you’re the person that will do what ever you’re told without any push back.
Now because of this heavier work load, you start to hate work and the people that are in positions that are over you; all because you were too fearful to open your mouth and let them know how you feel about the amount or kind of work you’ve been given. When in reality the only person you can blame is yourself, for not speaking up when you had the chance. I understand some of us don’t speak up because we’re afraid of loosing our job. But keep in mind, if they want to fire you, their going to fire you. Also know; That isn’t the only job on earth. You can get another job. It might not be easy, but it’s possible.
Inconclusion, always do what’s best for you. Even if a situation seems a lot better than your last, you can always place yourself in a better on. Do not stay emotionally stagnate when you know you can do better. Don’t do yourself the disservice of staying in a situation that isn’t serving you, when you know you are capable of more.
The sky is the Limit
Love you all, always.