This gets on my last nerves…. I never understood why some women think it’s their place to fight over a man. I could only understand fighting over someone in the case of that person you’re fighting is trying to do something to harm your other half; but if they’re cheating that’s a ‘No Bueno’. There are women out here looking like fools fighting over men who clearly don’t want them. If you don’t see the signs, let me point some of them out for you.
Signs he doesn’t want your a** anymore
- He lets you walk in with out trying to stop you; when he knows he has someone else he just had sex with or plans to have sex with, in the facility.
- He hides nothing from you. You constantly find his phone unlocked with text messages, pictures, and calls from different people he has had sex with.
- He’s affectionate to the person he was creeping on you with out in public; because in actuality a part of him wants to get caught so he can be done with you.
- In the mist of a fight he sides with the other woman/man and helps them fight you.
There are so many more to add, but I think you get the point. What I’m trying to get people in situations like this to understand is: Love you more than you could ever love him, because at the end of the day your happiness is all that matters. If that happiness isn’t with him/her, so be it. Maybe you weren’t supposed to be with them in the first place. Know that love isn’t supposed to hurt and loving someone is supposed to build you up, never break you down. If that is happening in any relationship you have, you gotta to put on your big boy/ big girl draws and walk away from them and that situation. Think about it like this: A relationship is like a job. If it no longer serves you; why are you putting in your time and effort for something that you aren’t going to reap the benefits for? I understand emotion can make you do some crazy things, but you need to eventually take over and think logically. I get wanting to save your first true love. Me for instance, I feel as if I did everything knowingly possible to save my past relationship; but he just wasn’t into saving us like I was. That’s why it’s important to pay attention and watch a persons actions to find out if their intentions for you are the same as your intentions for them. Let them lead with action rather than words because it’s a whole lot easier to say “I love you”, “I only want you”, and “I wanna marry you one day” rather putting in the work to show that you hold a special place in their heart and life.
I really hope this helps someone who might be on the fence about leaving a toxic relationship.
Have you ever gone through a time in life when you thought it was okay to fight the accomplice and not your other half for what they did?
If so, how did you feel when it was all said and done?