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Rolling with the punches

Good Morning!!!

It’s Friday!!!! Yayyy!!! We’re finally at the end of the work week!! I’m thankful this week went by a heck of a lot faster than last week.

Today’s topic as you’ve seen is “Rolling with the punches”. I feel like that’s what I’m doing and I’m sure a lot of you are also doing this at the current moment. Many times as I’ve stated before, I don’t believe it’s fair. But then again, life isn’t fair. The only thing you can do is live life the best way you know how.

Over the past few weeks there have been a few people around me who have passed away. I just have to say 2020 has been a f***** up year for a lot of us. I just thank God that my family is doing fine and I still have breath in my body ( a chance to turn my health around).

This past week I was hit with even more negative information about myself. At first it broke me down because I wasn’t sure how I was going to fix this problem. But eventually I came up with a solution.

In other posts you’ve seen that I’ve been talking about my health and the sun. Also mentioning how weak and terrible I felt. I have to say that was my own fault, because I know and have known what I have to do to be healthy. My problem is, I let my feelings guide me when most times I’m supposed to us logic.

I have to say though; I’m not going to like the way I have to eat now. But the great thing about it is….. it’s going to prolong my life, and give me a better quality of it.

At first I didn’t realize how big of a role food plays in the way you think and feel. It even is a factor in how successful you become. That’s crazy! It makes sense, but it’s still crazy. Once I learned that, I started to realize why some children were going through school like it was nothing. The answer is their health habits and a few other factors. Of course you have some kids who are going to excel regardless. But for others health is a very major step.

If you feel differently or agree, I would love to hear about how good or bad health has affected your life. I know it has affected mine.

As Always

Short stories

Good Morning!!

It may sound a little corny for me to always start my posts with this. But I have to greet you all. It wouldn’t be me if I didn’t.

I never want my blogs to be something you read just to pass time. I want them to always be something you can relate too. So here we go.

Recently I have changed my view on food in the most drastic way. For years I’ve struggled with eating healthier. It would usually only last for a couple of months.

What’s different about this time is; I feel like I’m fighting for my life.

As I said before I’ve always been interested in being fit.I just never cared enough to put in the work. Well times are changing and I realize now there is no other choice but to be fit and active.

This especially rings the truest now, because I’ve started to wake up to the fact I won’t be here forever. I’m sorry if that puts a bad taste in your mouth; but it’s true (I say this just incase you’re thinking your life expectancy).

For years I’ve hidden away from people. Secretly wanting to be noticed, but only for the good, never the bad. Also I was hiding from rejection and ever thing I could experience that would excite and scare me at the same time.

I’ve finally come to the realization that things are only as scary as you make them. The best way to over come that fear is to do it anyway. Think about the consequences later.

Many of us don’t realize this, but thinking is the thing that stops us from doing. I’m not saying thinking is a bad thing. But too much of it has the tendency to paralyze you, leaving you at a standstill. As a result Never accomplishing what you truly want out of life.

I hadn’t taken notice, but for a long time I’ve been caught up in the emotions of my past. I knew I had quite a few issues with the way I was brought up. But I never took inventory of my life. It wasn’t until I moved back home my “eyes” began to open and I started to see how I allowed past experiences to over power current encounters and situations.

So here’s to the future cause we got through the past.

If you need time to work on you. Take the time.

Also please take the time to look at life and really think on your current setup. Is this what you want or is it something else. If it is, the time to act is now.

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The beginning of Shadow Work

Good Morning!

How is everyone doing this morning?!!!…

It’s FFFFRRRIIIDDAY!!!

If you’re not able to tell I’m extremely happy that we are about to start the weekend. The only problem is when the weekend ends and we have to report back to work on Monday.

The other bad thing is; the only time I feel inspired is when I’m at work. I guess it’s because there are so many other things I wish I could be doing while I’m there. Like you, there are things I tell myself I’m gonna do when I get off, but it just doesn’t happen. Once I get off I’m singing a different tune. I’m sure it’s because I have to be there and not because I want to be. Not saying I have a had job. It’s not hard at all. I just know I could be doing so much more with my time.

I have recently started engaging in selfcare. Something I never thought too much about until now. I love the things I’m starting to find out about myself. I found out my personality type and also that I am an empath a while ago. Now I’m doing Shadow Work. I’m sure some people may feel like this is a little unorthodox. Trust me, it’s only because of the name, because there’s nothing witchy about it. Truth be told, the only thing I really care about is if it’s going to help me find the pieces of me I lost as a child. I guess we’ll find out.

If you’re interested and want to know more about my journey back to me. Or you already know about Shadow Work and it’s helped you.

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Peace of mind

Good Morning!!!

As always, I hope you all are doing well, enjoying your summer and everything.

I have to say that I’ve learned a lot this summer. More than I ever thought I would. Hate that I had to go through it. But that’s what has to happen for you to learn from your mistakes.

I’m in a much smaller space right now, but at least I have peace of mind. I haven’t had that for a very long time.

See I thought the thing to have was a relationship, regardless if it was good or bad. I was trying to hang on for fear life, be cause I thought that was what validated me. It wasnt until I was all the way on it that I realized I could do bad all by myself.

See that is something many people need to be reminded of. So many people feel like they’re not of any worth because they haven’t found they’re Mr. Or Mrs. Right yet. I’m here to tell you don’t rush it. It will happen when it’s supposed too. You rushing it only pushes you closer and closer to the wrong person you were never suppose to be with in the first place.

During that time find out what makes you happy. You don’t have to be attached to someone in order for you to be happy. You have to first know how to give yourself love before anyone else can give their love to you.

Over time I’ve realized people only value what is not easy to get or obtain. So if you have an opinion about something or are strong against something speaking so that it’ll be clear!

You get way more respect when you respect yourself and dont allow others to walk all over you. I know that it’s gonna hurt. But it’s something that’s gonna have to happen if you want respect from those around you. This is especially true when dating, because once you’ve shown them you have no boundaries they’re gonna keep pushing until they lose interest and then start looking for another person that is the complete opposite of you.

You know what’s gonna happen then? They’re gonna marry that person, because they didnt not bind to their will and follow what they said like a good little concubine. They thought for themself and came up with they’re own conclusion.

I get it’s easy to fall into that mode of submission because you want to make your significant other happy. But don’t give up what you love and how you truly are to hold on to someone that never really deserved you in the first place.

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empowering · Feelings · relationship · Thoughts

Infidelity V.S Rape

Good Morning!!!….. I apologize for my absence. Been enjoying my freedom a little to much.

Well todays post is going to be about two different things, that are different sides to the same coin. As you know, I’m constantly thinking. Most times I feel like I can’t turn my brain off. I’m always thinking about something. I already know why that is. If you think you know the answer, leave a comment below.

Anyway, like I was saying…. Why are certain people given a pass when it comes to cheating, and others are expected to except infidelity?

For years, men have been given the upper hand when it pertains to doing the morally right thing. They have been allowed do overs, for centuries! Women on the other hand, are expected to be loyal; and at the first encounter of infidelity, are cast to the side. Thrown away like a peace of trash.

I understand some women may deserve that type of treatment. But women who have been violated had no choice in the matter.

For starters, an astounding number of women and girls in the Democratic Republic of the Congo were raped back in 2018; 605 women, and 436 girls. There were also men and little boys who were violated; 4 men and 4 boys.

Just think about that for a minute….

Think of how these women’s and girls’ lives changed after something so horrific. Many times in countries like that, they view the woman as tainted after something like that happens. As a result, they believe the women/girls did something to make the rapist believe they had the right to do what they did.

I never understood how men can’t see how rape is a power play. It’s something men or women (yes women) do to assert their power over someone.

So think of those men who have no empathy, or understanding for something like this happening to the women they “love”.  Many men aren’t able to move past this, while some are. It won’t be easy, but it’s doable.

Some reasons men can’t get past their spouse getting violated:

  1. They see them more as something to own, and not a person with feelings.
  2. They’re more concerned with their feelings and completely out of touch with how this ordeal affected you i.e-ego.
  3. This one kind of goes with number 2. They’re concerned about what other people are going to think.

There are always going to be reasons to leave someone. Some people aren’t worth the fight. But I tell you, if you feel like that person is worth it and you know you’ll never find any one like them. You need to fight for what is yours. When love is involved, no one else’s opinion matters, but you and the person you love. Also stop allowing these men and women the chance to treat you like crap. Hold them accountable for their actions. That’s how they learn.

Final thought: If you’ve ever cheated or continue to cheat on your spouse, there is no way you shouldn’t be able to go through a traumatic experience such as rape with them. I feel if you love them, you will do anything in your power to help them work through their PTSD that is associated with the incident. But if that isn’t the case and you were only with them because it was convenient. You’ll find a way to make it about you just so you can leave.

Just some things I want you to think about.

Go crazy in the comments.

Do you believe rape is ever the victims fault?

Should a couple take a break, break-up, or stay together if rape has taken place? 

In regards to infidelity, should it ever be tolerated?

Should both women and men be held accountable equally, when it comes to infidelity? Why or Why not?

As Always….

All information provided by: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-is-2020/201705/loving-or-having-sex-woman-whos-been-raped, https://www.un.org/sexualviolenceinconflict/countries/democratic-republic-of-the-congo/ 

Photos Provided By: https://tableforchange.com/6-characteristics-of-an-unfaithful/, https://anchalproject.org/blogs/news/60771523-what-is-rape-culture

Thoughts

The Aftermath Of Hurricane Maria in Puerto Rico

Wow!! That’s all I can say when it comes to what the island of Puerto Rico has gone through since Hurricane Maria. It’s been almost a year and all power has not been restored. I’m not quite comprehending how this could be possible. They’re apart of the United States right?…..

The people of Puerto Rico should have been treated as more of a priority. There’s no way those people should still be experiencing hardships because of something that happened almost a year ago! If we had someone in office that led with compassion and empathy these problems would have been taken care of a long time ago, but that doesn’t seem to be the case. Now what these people are faced with is trying to find other people that are willing to donate and help get the island back on it’s feet.

There have been a countless amount of people who I speak to daily, who tell me they had to pick up and move to the states because it became unbearable to continue to live without all the amenities. And this is coming from people who have lived and grew up there. Imagine how emotionally painful and stressing that could be, moving because you can no longer bare the primitive way you had to revert back to living, because your government is doing you and the land a disservice. I have an idea of why the government isn’t in a rush to fix the destruction Hurricane Maria caused. I’m thinking it could be, either they want people to abandoned the land they own so that it can be seized, they don’t have the man power for the repairs, the government and it’s leader aren’t concerned about the wellbeing of the people, or it could be a combination of, they aren’t concerned about the wellbeing of the people and they want to seize the land to make profit off of it. That’s one thing that I’ve noticed that’s very prevalent with the American society. Without monetary gain most people won’t budge, doesn’t matter if it’s the morally right thing to do.

Acts of kindness these days are few and far in between. You know why that is? It has a lot to do with being so busy with daily tasks and chores, that we lose focus of what should be taking place, which is human connection. Everyone is so worried about their self and loved ones they don’t allow too many people in. That in turn makes us cold and unaffected by tragic things that happen to strangers, over time. Also there are so many scams out there, that programs the average person to always be on guard for someone who’s trying to take advantage of their kindness.

When it boils down to it. The U.S Government has done the people of Puerto Rico a huge disservice in every way. It’s like the fact they’ve had over 4,000 deaths because of this catastrophic event doesn’t faze the leader of this supposed free land. Like the lives lost didn’t mean anything. It’s so sad that you can plainly see the lives lost didn’t mean anything to our “President”. Through his actions you see he could care less about the people (including the people of the states). It appears the only person he’s concerned about is his self, his children and wife. I could be wrong, but I highly doubt it.

Below is a link to an article questioning the actual death toll of the people lost to this tragic event.

https://www.msn.com/en-us/news/us/puerto-rico-death-toll-those-lost-to-hurricane-maria-remembered-as-new-reports-question-official-count/ar-AAy95Ef