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Rolling with the punches

Good Morning!!!

It’s Friday!!!! Yayyy!!! We’re finally at the end of the work week!! I’m thankful this week went by a heck of a lot faster than last week.

Today’s topic as you’ve seen is “Rolling with the punches”. I feel like that’s what I’m doing and I’m sure a lot of you are also doing this at the current moment. Many times as I’ve stated before, I don’t believe it’s fair. But then again, life isn’t fair. The only thing you can do is live life the best way you know how.

Over the past few weeks there have been a few people around me who have passed away. I just have to say 2020 has been a f***** up year for a lot of us. I just thank God that my family is doing fine and I still have breath in my body ( a chance to turn my health around).

This past week I was hit with even more negative information about myself. At first it broke me down because I wasn’t sure how I was going to fix this problem. But eventually I came up with a solution.

In other posts you’ve seen that I’ve been talking about my health and the sun. Also mentioning how weak and terrible I felt. I have to say that was my own fault, because I know and have known what I have to do to be healthy. My problem is, I let my feelings guide me when most times I’m supposed to us logic.

I have to say though; I’m not going to like the way I have to eat now. But the great thing about it is….. it’s going to prolong my life, and give me a better quality of it.

At first I didn’t realize how big of a role food plays in the way you think and feel. It even is a factor in how successful you become. That’s crazy! It makes sense, but it’s still crazy. Once I learned that, I started to realize why some children were going through school like it was nothing. The answer is their health habits and a few other factors. Of course you have some kids who are going to excel regardless. But for others health is a very major step.

If you feel differently or agree, I would love to hear about how good or bad health has affected your life. I know it has affected mine.

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empowering · Experiences · Feelings · motivational · Thoughts

Treasure Hunt

Good Morning Everyone!!!!

If you are one of the lucky ones like myself and are allowed frequent paid breaks from your job; I hope you’re enjoying this free time with every fiber of your being.

As for me, I want to enjoy myself. I just don’t know how.

Question: What childhood behavior or fear followed you to adulthood?

I’m not so sure I’ve written about this in depth, but I know I’ve written about it before.

Some may already know I have many fears. But the one I’ve developed from childhood is fear of authority figures ( especially men).

All though I’m grown and I have no one around me wanting to hurt me; it’s still a fear that lives in the back of my mind.

During this break all kinds of things have been going through my mind. Some good, some not so good. One thing’s for sure, I’m becoming more unmotivated as the days pass.

I’m sure this is happening because I’m back home. Don’t get me wrong I love being back home. I just hate the comfortability it gives me being here. It makes it hard to want to accomplish anything because I am provided the things I had to work so hard for, while I wasn’t here. I know that motivation should still be there. I have to be honest; it’s dwindling.

I know she loves me and wants me to stay a baby forever. But this struggle of being an adult with unresolved issues and childhood traumas and fears, are the things I hide behind when it comes to trying something new and exciting.


The Turn Around

After spending so many years living in my past I’m going to approach this coming year differently. Instead of holding on to past hurts and traumas I’m going to find new and creative ways to let them go.

A long time ago I realized I remain stagnant because I constantly listen to my own opinions, also the person I hang around the most is myself. How am I really suppose to change if I won’t allow new experiences to happen because I’m afraid of the possible outcome?

This is gonna be a real struggle, but it’s definitely something that needs to happen. I can’t have my inner world be richer and more vivid than my actual reality. I’m not going for it. I need and will only tolerate the type of life I would accept in my wildest dreams.

This is something I’ve been feeling for a long while, but have only had the courage to say up until recently.

I bring up courage because it takes courage to change and admit to yourself you live in the hurt because that’s what you know. Not only that it’s what you’ve become accustom and started to crave. This happens when hurt is what you’ve experienced the most. Over time you begin to crave it because it’s all you know.

Please keep in mind, hurt may have been what you’ve experienced and know better than happiness; but it doesn’t have to be. You can take that power back. Make life into what you believe it should be for you, at any point.

Never forget: How you choose to live is a mindset that can be changed at anytime. It’s like have a chest of treasure with a thousand keys. You know one fits, but you have to try them all till you find the one that fits.

That’s pretty much how life works. You have to go through life trying different (keys) until you find the one that unlocks the key to your treasure (happiness).

I hope you found something you can take away from this post.

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Treasure Hunt

empowering · Experiences · self-esteem

Self Worth

Good Morning!!!

I know I’ve been M.I.A for a good while now. That was do in part to my health. But as the days pass I’m feeling better.

Well let’s get to the blog; shall we?

I’m sure this isn’t the first time I’ve written about it or you’ve read something else from someone else regarding the same topic. But, I want to give you my viewpoint.

We always want someone who’s gonna do for us what the next person won’t.

But….. have you ever thought of it from the viewpoint of; “I’m that person who won’t do those things for myself?”

We hear it over and over again about self worth. How we’re not suppose to allow someone to come in and take up space if they have no respect for us. But we never think of; Why does it  happen in the first place?”

Many of us allow these time wasters and cum critters to waste our time because we weren’t taught from young how to spot and what to do when they come your way. That’s why you have so many Good women and men out here marrying and wasting decades with ain’t s*** people.

As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned; If you can’t have a great time by yourself, how the hell are you supposed to have fun with somebody else?!

So many of us are looking for another person to save us. Many of us go whole life times expecting to find that one person who’s going to take us away from all the sad, upset, confusing things or people that are our life. Not realizing we are who we’re looking for.

See, one of the saddest things to learn when you’ve lived all your days and still haven’t found happiness is;

You are your own hero. You had the power to change your reality all along.

So to those who don’t believe happiness begins with self worth and discovery. Please reevaluate your values and morals.

I’m really just trying to save those of us out here who have the mindset of, “If he/she leaves me, what kind of life will I have without them?”

There are people everyday taking their own life or someone else’s because the person they chose made a different choice and decided to be with someone else.

I understand love makes us do some crazy things while we’re in it. That’s why the best person for you to fall for first and always is YOU. One thing’s for sure, you’re never leaving YOU.

Might be a little corny but as long as you keep this in mind breakups will be way easier. “Self Worth Makes the Dream Work”.

Remembering that and really practicing it will put people on high alert as to how to handle you. What that means is; once people realize you’re good with them in or out of your life, they’ll either straighten up real quick or exit stage left. Keep in mind no love lost. It’s just you have found your voice and realized your worth; and you’ve realized you’re not down for the Tom Foolery anymore.

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Short stories

The beginning of Shadow Work

Good Morning!

How is everyone doing this morning?!!!…

It’s FFFFRRRIIIDDAY!!!

If you’re not able to tell I’m extremely happy that we are about to start the weekend. The only problem is when the weekend ends and we have to report back to work on Monday.

The other bad thing is; the only time I feel inspired is when I’m at work. I guess it’s because there are so many other things I wish I could be doing while I’m there. Like you, there are things I tell myself I’m gonna do when I get off, but it just doesn’t happen. Once I get off I’m singing a different tune. I’m sure it’s because I have to be there and not because I want to be. Not saying I have a had job. It’s not hard at all. I just know I could be doing so much more with my time.

I have recently started engaging in selfcare. Something I never thought too much about until now. I love the things I’m starting to find out about myself. I found out my personality type and also that I am an empath a while ago. Now I’m doing Shadow Work. I’m sure some people may feel like this is a little unorthodox. Trust me, it’s only because of the name, because there’s nothing witchy about it. Truth be told, the only thing I really care about is if it’s going to help me find the pieces of me I lost as a child. I guess we’ll find out.

If you’re interested and want to know more about my journey back to me. Or you already know about Shadow Work and it’s helped you.

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Feeling Enlightened

Hey everyone!!!

I hope you’re having a great day, year, life;all that good stuff.

I thought I would leave you all some inspirational words. Sometime we need words of affirmation and inspiration to help us through.

Often times we are ripping and running so much we don’t take the time for ourselves to know what we really need.

So I’m gonna say these few words and I hope it brings a spring to your step and a lightness to your heart.

You are capable of every and anything you ever think or thought of.

Never allow someone’s opinions or negative self talk dictate the way you move through out your life.

Allow yourself to think freely. No one way is right for everyone. Their way may not be your way and vice a versa. And that’s okay.

You were put here to experience life the way you know how.

Never forget that.

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Experiences · Informative · motivational · relationship · self-esteem

Never Settle

Hope you’re having a successful Sunday!!!!

Question of the day: Why is it necessary to give your all?

That question comes to mind because as far back as I can remember every woman around me has always been expected to give their all to the man they’re with. Why?

Many times these men don’t seem to do nearly as much or give as much as the woman they’re with. It’s like you keep giving and giving until you have nothing left for yourself. Now a days they say; “Take care of you before you think of taking care of someone else.” I’m happy that’s something that’s stressed now, because it wasnt back then.

When I was growing up; hell even now women are taught to cater to their man or another woman will. I mean really what kind of s*** is that?! So you’re telling me if there’s some nasty perverted thing he wants to do and I don’t, he has the right to cheat on me?…. I think not!

If you’re with a man that thinks like that it’s time for you to throw away the whole man Honey. What’s the use of trying to make it work? Clearly if you feel differently than he does about the situation; his view on it is never gonna change…. unless he loves you and is willing to do without.

But to all my women making it who realize they’re the prize, keep doing you. The right man in time will find you. Just keep your head up and never settle for less.

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empowering · Experiences · Feelings · Informative · motivational

Blessed

Blessed is that person who realizes their own potential and does something with it.

Many of us have talents others would kill for; and do nothing with it because they have lost that ambition along the way.

Don’t ever feel like you have nothing to offer the world. Even when you think all hope is lost, there is still something you can bring to the table. There are no throwaway people, just people who don’t share the same interest or values you may.

Always know you are valuable, and you deserve a seat at any table you set your mind too.

health · Informative · Thoughts

Gaining Motivation Through Your Food

Have you ever gone through a time in your life when you feel unmotivated? That’s me right now, I just don’t have the drive to want to do anything. I’m trying to find that drive again, but it’s hard. These days all I find myself wanting to do is watch TV and I think that’s because I have nothing to look forward too. Before I could count on new ideas for different books I wanted to write. Now I can’t see past the place that I’m in. I want so bad to be successful, but I can’t seem to get the drive or ambition that comes with the road to success.

Recently, all I’ve been concentrating on is getting in shape. But, lately I can’t seem to focus on that. I’m sure that it has everything to do with my diet. Ya see, I’ve been eating nothing but junk ever since the beginning of last week, I’ve been craving it. I’m sure all the women know why, but just incase you don’t; it was because of that time of the month. I hate when that unwanted “friend” comes around, it feels like you can’t get anything done. I’m not sure if all women go through the things I go through when that time comes around, but one thing is for sure, it’s no fun when it comes. Just to let you know, there are so many changes that happens to my body. Just to list a few; back pain, headaches, bloating, mood swings, fatigue, cravings, heavy menstruation, and the list goes on. I swear it takes me so far from being me that I feel depleted when it’s done. I’m sure that has everything to do with what I ate during it. But how do you get rid of the cravings? That’s one thing I really have to work on. I have no will power at all when it comes to food. I’m sure that’s the reason I’ve had such an anxiety filled life.

But, I’m hoping to change all of that by changing my attitude toward food. I’m going to start looking at food as a source of energy and nothing more. I’m sure that this change isn’t going to happen over night, but I’m willing to stick it out, regardless how long the shift takes to happen. Now, I understand that the food you eat determines the type of life you will have. I never knew that, until now. Eating for energy rather than eating for taste is going to be something that I’m going to keep practicing until I get the hang of it. By then I hope to have a very happy and fulfilling life. I’m just happy that I’m still here to make this change; because I could have easily died twice over, all because of the food I was eating.

That’s why I feel so strongly about children learning early on that food is meant for energy not so much for taste. All though there are some healthy dishes that taste amazing, but that shouldn’t be the soul purpose for the types of food you eat. If the way something tastes becomes your main reason for having it, you’re loosing focus on what is really important. Learn to let your food inspire and motivate you, because that’s what it was intended for.

Anything that comes in a package isn’t the way that we were meant to exist. I understand that’s what we are use to, but that isn’t suppose to be the way of life. Getting in fruits and vegetables are the main things we are suppose to live on, not this packaged crap! If you don’t believe me, look up the benefits of eating REAL food, grown from the ground, apposed to eating things that were made in a lab. I would love to know what you find out.

 Effects of Eating Healthy Food

  1. Increased Energy
  2. Better Mood
  3. Decreased chance of developing different types of cancer, type 2 diabetes, and high blood pressure
  4. Easier to maintain a healthy body weight

 

Effects of Eating Junk Food

  1. Laziness
  2. Loss of motivation
  3. Higher risk of developing cancer, type 2 diabetes, and high blood pressure
  4. Unstable periods
  5. Endometriosis
  6. Fibroids
  7. Gallstones
  8. Kidney stones
  9. Weak bones
  10. Osteoporosis
  11. Infertility

 

I’m sure there are a lot more good effects that come with eating healthy, but I’m even more sure that there are more bad affects from eating junk. So be kind to your body because it’s the only one you have.

Thanks For Reading!!

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