I hope everyone is enjoying their Marvelous Monday!!
Today I wanted to speak about Sun and what affects I’ve noticed it has on me and many women like me.
Many of us don’t give it a second thought. We know that it’s a big ball of heat and light. But we haven’t come to realize how important it is when it comes to fertility and regular menstruation.
I’ve been looking all over the internet trying to find articles on how the sun influences how long your menstrual stays or if it comes at all.
I was surprised to see there weren’t that many articles on the subject. So for this blog I want to let you know vitamin D plays a huge part in your reproduction. You need vitamin D in producing healthy blood.
What tends to happen when you don’t have healthy blood is you loose it. This can either happen because of anemia or a menstrual that will not end. I know this because I’ve experienced both.
I’ve known for a long time food should be your medicine. But I never applied my knowledge to myself and health.
Since life has been nothing but monotonous for me, I figure I will finally put what I know to good use.
I’m not guaranteeing weight lose or anything. But I will post pictures of myself before I started taking my health seriously and my progress going through this transformation.
Please pray for me and hold me accountable. Because this is something I always wanted to do but never did because I allowed the way others feel towards me to dictate the way I felt about myself.
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It may sound a little corny for me to always start my posts with this. But I have to greet you all. It wouldn’t be me if I didn’t.
I never want my blogs to be something you read just to pass time. I want them to always be something you can relate too. So here we go.
Recently I have changed my view on food in the most drastic way. For years I’ve struggled with eating healthier. It would usually only last for a couple of months.
What’s different about this time is; I feel like I’m fighting for my life.
As I said before I’ve always been interested in being fit.I just never cared enough to put in the work. Well times are changing and I realize now there is no other choice but to be fit and active.
This especially rings the truest now, because I’ve started to wake up to the fact I won’t be here forever. I’m sorry if that puts a bad taste in your mouth; but it’s true (I say this just incase you’re thinking your life expectancy).
For years I’ve hidden away from people. Secretly wanting to be noticed, but only for the good, never the bad. Also I was hiding from rejection and ever thing I could experience that would excite and scare me at the same time.
I’ve finally come to the realization that things are only as scary as you make them. The best way to over come that fear is to do it anyway. Think about the consequences later.
Many of us don’t realize this, but thinking is the thing that stops us from doing. I’m not saying thinking is a bad thing. But too much of it has the tendency to paralyze you, leaving you at a standstill. As a result Never accomplishing what you truly want out of life.
I hadn’t taken notice, but for a long time I’ve been caught up in the emotions of my past. I knew I had quite a few issues with the way I was brought up. But I never took inventory of my life. It wasn’t until I moved back home my “eyes” began to open and I started to see how I allowed past experiences to over power current encounters and situations.
So here’s to the future cause we got through the past.
If you need time to work on you. Take the time.
Also please take the time to look at life and really think on your current setup. Is this what you want or is it something else. If it is, the time to act is now.
I’m sure at the time I’m writing this it’s probably bed time for most of you. But I had to get a post down for the day. Just incase you’re not aware, many times I only write if I have something to write about. As some may know a lot of my posts have something to do with what I’m experiencing at the time. So this will be no different.
This is something hard for me to talk about, because I feel that it’s letting you know a little bit too much about me. But I figure I’ll go ahead and get it off my chest. Let me start of by saying,” I’ve always been a big girl. At one point in time I use to be into health. But for the most part that has changed in the past couple of years. I guess you could say, “I allowed my emotions to get the better of me. So naturally like most people I allowed the way I felt to lead me.
This was not a good thing, for obvious reasons. Me allowing my emotions to dictate the way I feel or felt doesn’t keep me in a mind frame of being accountable for everything I do and consume. As a result I allowed myself to go crazy with the eating and the cold foods and drinks.
If I’m honest my diet consists of about 85% to 90% processed food….. Wow!! I never really thought about how much processed food I eat. That’s mind blowing. I’m just coming to the realization now that I eat way too much junk.
Well I’m sure you’re trying to figure out why I’m mentioning this. It’s simple really. I’m bringing this to light because a lot of women these days are experiencing infertilely. Many of them don’t realize it’s the food they eat that play a huge part in why they’re not able to conceive.
I remember reading a study years back, about the fertility difference in women who eat natural food appose to women who eat a diet high in processed foods. Naturally the women who ate natural foods most of the time were the ones with a higher fertility rate. As for the women eating the processed food, they’re fertility was cut in half . What’s sad is, it wasn’t a 100% to begin with.
If I can find the study I’ll make sure to leave a link.
This isn’t the same study from so many years back, but it is something you can read to get a better understanding.
Well at the current time I’ve been feeling all over the place. Having to deal with imbalances, menstrual problems, mood swings and the list goes on. I can not fully explain what I’ve experienced waiting for my period to come every month. This puts the stress level at even a higher high because my mother wants grand babies, and I’m at an age were that could easily not be possible at anytime. As for me, I’m not sure if I want any children. I feel like that ship has sailed. Also mentally and financially I’m in no place to have children at the current time.
The only thing I’m going to say is, “if God sees it fit to provide me with a child, I will love and do every and anything I can for that child. The other thing is I don’t know how it’s gonna happen, because I have taken the longest time from dating in my whole adult life.
I thought it was time I take some time for myself, because my whole life I’ve been living for someone else. I’m so tired of that. So I finally said, “Enough is enough! It’s time for me to learn how to love me without me needing the affection of someone else.
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Today’s post is about the obstacles you’re going to face while trying to make your mark in this world. As you should know, nothing and I do mean nothing is going to come easy. You’re going to have to fight tooth and nail to get to where you want to be. I understand for some of us it comes easier than others. But you’re going to have to fight sometimes harder to keep your spot than you had to get it.
Don’t feel discouraged, because everyone has to go through this point in life. As you know this wouldn’t be a Shads Short Stories post if I didn’t put an example of myself in here; so here it goes. At the current moment I’m fighting to stay motivated to make my mark. There are so many things I want to accomplish; as I’m sure you do as well.
The thing that stops or causes me to procrastinate is myself, my emotions and my job. Many days I come home and I’m so tired that there is nothing I want to do more than come home and go to bed. I also understand by doing this it’s pushing the manifestation date of my dreams back significantly. This is a hurdle that I’m going to have to learn to jump, because I don’t want another year to go by and nothing that I have worked on has been manifested.
The one great thing I have manifested was my first published book. Something I thought was going to be near impossible to finish. But… I finished it. That’s why I have such an optimistic personality. Cause I know anything you put your mind to you can make happen. You just have to keep a positive attitude around that thing you’re trying to manifest, and it will come.
Too often we allow our mind to run away from us. We let those negative thoughts fester and later on don’t realize how continuing to think negatively gets us lost in our minds and emotions. All emotions are, are the body following the brain. Causing us to expel or energy in uneventful ways.
So the next time you’re overthinking something DON’T. All it does is throw your body out of wack and riddle you with anxiety. Overthinking too much also causes internal dis-ease. That is why it’s a great idea to read, meditate, sleep, or exercise to decompress from the day.
I’ve recommended this book before, but I’m going to recommend it again along with another book. The first is:
Breaking the Habit of being yourself: This book was a real Eye Opener for me, because it allowed me to realize people weren’t reacting to me; they were reacting in a learned behavior, that is also known as a program. This helped me to realize I had also allowed my mind to program me in such a way that every time I met someone new I became overcome by anxiety. I can’t express how much of an insight this was.
The 2nd is The 4 Agreements: The great thing about this one is it helps you to see and understand every time you do something wrong against someone else you’re actually hurting yourself. This is another one that helps you to get out of your head and start living. It helps you understand there is NO one holding you back but YOU.
As for what I’m currently reading The Power of Now. There isn’t too much I can say about this book as of yet, because I’ve just begun to read it. But trust if it’s a GREAT READ you will know about it.
Today’s post is about falling and learning the failure isn’t in falling. The failure is in not getting back up. I’m sure a lot of you have heard that saying over and over again. Let me put a spin on it. Brake it down so that it will mean more and hit you deeper.
We all have something or another we want to accomplish in life. Some of us go through life and don’t even scratch the surface of our greatest potential. Do you know why that is?….
We may try to say something else is the reason for us not being great, but in actuality fear is the poison that seems to paralyze us all when that time comes to let others know what we’re really capable of. There’s No denying fear has been a large part of how I’ve lived life up to this point. There’ve been many things I have wanted to do but have not, because of fear. Fear of what you may ask; To be honest I really don’t know, but it’s fear just the same.
So what I ask of you and I will practice this too. Work on seeing yourself as more than just your physical presence. Work on looking deep with in yourself. Take the time to get to know YOU. Once you carve out the time to truly get to know who you are, no one can tell you anything about YOU that’s gonna shake your spirit.
There is always gonna be a person or thing that will try to block you from getting to know yourself. You’re gonna have to be strong and not put so much of your focus on the outside world. When everything’s all said and done you’re going to have to make sure you’re whole all by yourself.
The best thing is always work on yourself first before trying to add someone else to the chaos that is YOU. Most of us learn this late in life. I don’t believe this is the fault of our parents, because we’re gonna do what we want to do anyway. I feel it’s because many of us are so in a rush to run before we walk, we stumble and fall before we ever take our first step.
However you choose to get to know yourself is completely fine. There is NO right or wrong way. Remember to throw the judgement out the window when it comes to the process. You may not realize it, but sometimes scrutiny or judgement can spark fear.
That’s why it’s best when going through this process to not inform anyone of how you’re healing until the process is complete; and that is only if you choose too. It’s no ones business but your own of your healing process.
Below are some ways I’ve found that work in helping you become WHOLE:
Do more of what you love
Spend quality time with yourself
Challenge yourself to do something you wouldn’t typically do.
Live in the moment
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I hope everyone has a FANTASTIC Friday! I am so happy we are finally here! Meditation here I come!
For the past couple of days I haven’t been feeling myself. I’m sure it’s because of what I’ve been eating (Donuts, cereal, chips, & cakes). I know these things aren’t good overall, but when you add a extreme social anxiety and extreme depression it gets a whole lot worse. Not to mention, lack of sleep.
At the current moment I’m not in the most ideal please in my life. See I’ve been writing blog after blog about being okay where you are right now. It is true, you should make peace with what ever part in life you’re in. But somedays I just want to be on my own again. I know the day will come. It’s just sometimes the process gets to be a little too much for me to bare, sometimes I just want to check out of life. Then I start to think how good it could be if I wait it out.
There’ve been plenty days when I just want to go faraway from everyone and be alone, because uncertain feelings scare me. Incase you haven’t realized this because you’re someone who’s always around others and are comfortable with it, being around people emotions start to stir up. This is usually time I check out, because I don’t trust many or easily for that matter.
I wanted this to be an uplifting post, but we all know some days are going to be more trying than others. So I just have to make sure to keep a positive mindset and know tomorrow will be a better day.
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Hope everyone is doing fine…. I was going through trying to figure out what I was going to write about today. There’s so many things that go through my mind, but not all of them can make it to the post. Most recently I was thinking about starting up a couple other things. The only problem with this is making sure I stay consistent. Remaining consistent has always been a struggle for me; No matter what I’m supposed to do. The only time I seem to get things done is when it’s for someone else. That is a habit that must change.
As for the things I want to start doing; YouTube. I started a channel a while ago but stopped making content because I obsess over every aspect of the video, to the point of me not posting one. I’m working on letting that perfectionist go. I tell myself there are many things I plan to do in life, but they never seem to go any further then that. So to correct that I’m working on keeping my word to myself. It may be one of the hardest things I’m gonna have to learn, but it’s something I’m actively working on improving.
One of the other things is getting my Podcast up and running. I tell you; there are so many was out here to make money, you just have to be open to the possibilities of what may happen once you let go. This is something I constantly have to remind myself of, because I always contain my real self. I do this for fear of not being accepted.
The bad thing about always silencing or containing your true reactions and emotions; you start to loose yourself. I know this from experience, because I don’t know if the person I am in everyday life is the person I am when I’m alone. The person I am when I’m alone is someone completely different. Hell… the people I create in my stories are a lot more exciting then I am.
I think I learned how to permanently silence and hide myself once I was taught to care what other people think. The hard part now is to unlearn that behavior. The only thing I want to do is be the person I would have been without the years and years of indoctrination. The great thing is; at least I understand unlearning and not doing what’s expected of me will bring me closer to who I’m supposed to be.
I know that deep down, under all these insecurities I am a free spirited, open, loving, kind, generous soul who does what she wants without the nagging voice saying; Don’t be too different. You run the risk of being rejecting when you’re not digestible. Even though I know this isn’t true, it’s still something that keeps me from showing the world who I truly am.
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I practice a mindset of gratitude and focusing on the future. This is what makes me happy. How I see myself and my reality are 2 different things. In my inner world I Am very aware, but I also get things done. I AM a successful writer, movie producer/ director, an owner of a lucrative business and so much more!!!!
My outer reality reflects something completely different. On the outside I’m a very meek quiet, agreeable, insecure, anxiety ridden, borderline awkward person. I take care of children for a living. Something I never wanted to get back into. It’s nothing against the children, I love all of them deeply. I just rather be in a lifestyle that will allow me to do things on my own terms.
That’s why I’ve decided I AM going to be working for myself before the end of this school year. This is something I’ve always wanted to, but I constantly find myself procrastinating and not getting anything done. So… what is going to happen in the months to come; Promoting, writing, events, & constant advertising.
I guess you could say I’ve allowed things from my past to hold me back from becoming successful. Something NO ONE should allow their past to do. I’ve learned even when you think it’s next to impossible, think of that person who has accomplished it and know they were once in your shoes. The truth is; it isn’t impossible, but it becomes impossible because of your mindset. Once you change your mindset that’s when everything changes.
So inclosing. If you have something you’re passionate about and that is the only thing you want to do, go for it! If not, you’re going to forever feel like something is missing. Know that the struggle to get there is only temporary, but the rewards are endless!!
The struggle is Temporary but the Rewards are endless!!!
Never stop chasing your dreams….
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Often times we have large gifts we never manage to share with the world. Many times because we have other obligations or because we’re afraid too. Thinking that by sharing this thing with the world it leaves you vulnerable to criticism. True it does, but what if by allowing other people in, you learn you are actually good at what you do? Not only that you start to receive praise for it. Let’s take it a step further, you are able to monetize it and live doing the very thing you love.
I completely understand it won’t be easy. The real question is; Will it be worth it?
There are gonna be times when it’s gonna seem impossible to keep going; but you have too. There isn’t going to be a better feeling then doing what you love and knowing you’re getting paid for it.
I knew from young a regular 9 to 5 wasn’t for me. For 1 I don’t like to be told what to do. Also I like to be in control of what I do. My current job title doesn’t offer me any creative space. So based off of that I know it won’t be my job for much longer.
I will not allow a job to take away my creative spark. There are many things I want to do in this life and I’ve started doing a couple. The reason I haven’t been able to do those things full time is do to not being able to make a living from them as of yet.
A job is a job but a career is a lifestyle.
Please remember that.
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Hope things are always going in your favor. Remember if they’re not it’s because you’re wrapped up in your negative thoughts.
You are the Master of your own destiny! I know that sounds a little corny, but it’s true. If you want bigger and better things to happen you have to believe and know that they are possible. I speak about this often, because a lot of us believe life is happening to us. In reality we are the shot callers and we haven’t realized how much control we give to other people and organizations.
We relinquish power before we don’t know what to do with it. Too often many of us are stuck working jobs we hate or make little to NO money from!
Recently inflation has skyrocketed, do to COVID-19 and actions of those in the White House. The sad thing is, people like me who are not making a comfortable salary are going to have to make some hard decisions; whether they want to spend 11 dollars on that bottle of Lysol, $5 dollars on that hand sanitizer, or going back to work making it almost inevitable they will catch the very virus they’ve been trying to protect themselves from for all these months.
The point I’m trying to make is, being safe or comfortable is not going to get you anywhere. You’re going to have to switch things up; do something different. Remaining safe or comfortable leads you down a path of monotony and boredom. I understand some of us live for safe and simple; but those aren’t the people I’m speaking too right now. I’m speaking to those of you who aren’t happy with the way life is for you currently. Those of you who have a long list of woulda, coulda, shouldas.
I’m sure there’re going to be many who won’t agree or even understand where I’m coming from. That’s okay if you don’t. I don’t expect everyone to have the same opinion or out look on this situation. Your opinions are your own.
The only thing I want those who read this blog to take away from it is; Live on your own terms. F*** what someone else has to say! People love to talk about what you should do when they haven’t or would never do what they’re telling you to do. That’s why you have to do what you’re comfortable with. Don’t feel pressured to follow the advice of someone else because you don’t want to upset them or you’re afraid of making the wrong choice. In the end you’re going to have to deal with the choice you made, regardless if someone made it for you.
Also if you need help getting to the stage of manifesting your dreams and aspirations, read Breaking the Habit of Being yourself written by: Joe Dispenza (Currently Reading) & Money and the Law of Attraction written by: Esther & Jerry Hicks (Currently Reading).
I’m sure there are many books out there that can help you manifest the life of your dreams, you just have to take that first step. If your mindset isn’t serving you at the current time, you need to work on the way you think and master the art of manifestation.
I don’t want to make this too long. So I’ll stop it here.
Thank you so much for reading!! I hope this blog helps you get your life going in the right direction, if it isn’t already.
Anything is possible!!! The first step is to believe it to be so. Shadrieka Franks