Question of the day: Why is it necessary to give your all?
That question comes to mind because as far back as I can remember every woman around me has always been expected to give their all to the man they’re with. Why?
Many times these men don’t seem to do nearly as much or give as much as the woman they’re with. It’s like you keep giving and giving until you have nothing left for yourself. Now a days they say; “Take care of you before you think of taking care of someone else.” I’m happy that’s something that’s stressed now, because it wasnt back then.
When I was growing up; hell even now women are taught to cater to their man or another woman will. I mean really what kind of s*** is that?! So you’re telling me if there’s some nasty perverted thing he wants to do and I don’t, he has the right to cheat on me?…. I think not!
If you’re with a man that thinks like that it’s time for you to throw away the whole man Honey. What’s the use of trying to make it work? Clearly if you feel differently than he does about the situation; his view on it is never gonna change…. unless he loves you and is willing to do without.
But to all my women making it who realize they’re the prize, keep doing you. The right man in time will find you. Just keep your head up and never settle for less.
I never know quite how to start out these posts. All I know is I have something I want to say….
I was a little amped this morning. Maybe it had something to do with me finally going to the gym. Well anyway, I was just thinking how I want life to be for me in the next couple of years There are so many things I want to change. First of all, I want to roll out of bed and already be at work. Working for myself is the goal. Like I have said before, time and time again.
I’m working towards the goal I have set forth for myself. I’m sure it’s going to be a fun journey learning everything it entails being an entrepreneur.
For many years I never pursued being the leader of my own company, because honestly I was to concerned about finding love. Well as I’ve said before, that time has passed. It’s now time for me to put myself first, learn me before I decide to give all my time and energy to someone else.
A lot of times we don’t realize this, but as women we have been brought up thinking that family and a husband is the thing to have; and if you don’t have that by a certain age you have failed.
That is a flawed way of thinking.
Thinking and believing that being someone’s other half is your life’s purpose leaves you vulnerable to all the time wasters and f*ck boys/f*ckgirls. What ends up happening is you start to question yourself (Well I know I did). You start thinking and believing that you aren’t good enough because most of these time wasters want to do just that; waste your time. But you as a woman have to be mindful of how much of your time you’re wasting on these people who aren’t looking for the same things you are. If you’re not careful, you could easily loose your chance to have children, following behind someone who wants to play house but doesn’t want the responsibilities that come with it.
I started thinking long ago… “Do I really want to be married just for the sake of saying I have a husband?” I thought and thought about it for a long time. I actually had someone I wanted and thought I was going to marry; but the longer we stayed together the more it became clear to me that, that was something that was never going to happen.
You see, a lot of us look at these social media posts, the families, kids, husbands, big promotions, lavish gifts; and jealousy starts to stir in our spirit. The next time that happens, I just want you to think, ” What did they have to do to get (him, her or it). Keep in mind, ” All that glitters isn’t gold. You don’t know what is going on behind closed doors or what that person had to do to get that promotion or that huge house.
It’s a sad reality, but many times people forget to live for themselves, because they’re too busy try to live for everyone else. So if there’s anything you take from this post, I would love for it to be ” Live everyday as your last. Without any inhibitions or doubt that the way you choose to live is wrong; because there is no right way,
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So many of us believe that the only way to make money is through someone else. But think about it,
“How did they start making money?”
I’m sure they didn’t start off with a lot in the bank. Many times these big companies had an idea, and they took that leap of faith.
That’s all it takes is to believe in yourself, and you will go far. Many people seem to have forgotten that or just don’t believe. It’s sad that we have so many people going to jobs they hate everyday, without taking time out to invest in something they love doing. Always know if you promote heavily and you continue to perfect your craft, the customers will come. Kick the doubt out of your mind. Even if they don’t seem to come as fast as you think they should, keep pushing. Your break through is right around the corner.
That is what a lot of us are. We work day in and day out making money just to pay bills, Sure we’re thankful that we have a job, so that we have the means to take care of ourselves. But that isn’t the answer to living a long fulfilling life. I never understood how people who don’t make much have to pay so much in taxes. I would love for someone to explain that to me. The people who have these business and more money to spend in one life time, are the ones who should be paying these outrageous taxes, because they don’t seem to work as hard as the people who work the minimum wage jobs. I know some people would say, “If you don’t want to end up at a dead end job, apply yourself and get a degree or learn a tread.” Although they may be right in some sense, doesn’t mean that getting a degree or learning a tread is feasible for everyone.
Life happens, and the things that we dreamed of doing when we were growing up starts to turn into, “What can I do right now to make money?” When you’re young, you think getting paid a couple hundred a week is okay. But when you get older and find out how this world really works, you start to realize that your time is worth a lot more than a few hundred dollars a week. If you really start to do your research, you would know their are people out here who have no degree or trade, they’re just really good at what they do, and people pay them accordingly. That’s all there is to it; you have to fake it until you make it.
Anything is possible as long as you have the motivation and determination to make it so.
Key thing to always remember: People believe in you when you believe in you.