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Fear of Failure

What’s up Everyone? As always, I hope you are doing well and having grand life experiences.

 Frustration is something I live with on a daily basis. I thought to make it in this world during this time in history was going to be a lot easier than it has been. I find my main problem has been staying consistent. I’m working on it. It’s been a constant problem in trying to grow my audience. In the past there have been so many things I’ve started, but stopped because I lost interest in them. 

Like I’ve said in so many blogs before, if there is something you want to do, work towards it everyday until you’ve reached that goal. I find that to be easier said than done. I try to follow my own advice, but many times my emotions get in the way of my success. This is never something I count on happening, it just does. But the good thing is, I’m making strides to change that. I’m tired of my emotions setting me up for failure. 

Once I heard this girl say, “What you’re doing right now is what you’ll be doing in the next 2 to 3 years from now. So what that means is; If you have a crappy job now and you want to be your own boss, but you’re not doing anything to create that reality; don’t be surprised if all you have is that crappy job that pays you minimum wage. Remember in order to reap any benefit you have to put in work. The harder and more you work towards your goal, the bigger the pay off.   

I’m sure this is something that many of us know; but we’re just not ready to take on the responsibility of creating our own reality. This usually happens because we are afraid of failing. I know I am. That might be the real reason why it’s hard for me to be consistent; because I’m so afraid that I’ll continue to put in maximum effort and never be good enough to make a career out f this. One thing I’ve learned though is that you have to throw caution to the wind and  do what you want to do anyway. Learn to do it because it feels good. I know that’s why I write.

 If it makes you feel good, no one should be able to tell you anything. Remember, just because some don’t like it enough to help you grow, there will be others that will because they believe in you and what you stand for.

 

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Good Morning everyone!

As you know sometimes life has a way of seeming too heavy sometimes.

Well for me, now is that time. I only created this video out of desperation. Mainly to relieve the pressure of obstacles I’m facing at the current time.

I may not say it always; but I really appreciate and love every single one of you who take the time to check in on me from day to day.

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Enjoy the moment

Good Afternoon!!!

Hope everyone is having a beautiful love filled holiday break. I can not express how happy having this time off from work has made a difference.

There are people that I’ve met during this time that have really made me appreciate living and all the appreciation that has transpired from getting to know people different than me. I have to catch myself sometimes, because many times I can only see the forest for the trees. Meaning; I can only place value on the things in front of me at the time. When in reality life is soo much more than we can grasp. There are so many complexities and we struggle on the daily to make sense of them all.

It’s the same when it comes to people and the way they may act towards us or treat us. For a long time I was raised to believe and be mindful of what other people may be going through. I really believe growing up with this in mind helped me to not judge people for how they react in certain situations. It always kept me aware “No one is perfect”.

The crazy thing is, even though we know none of us could ever be perfect we still continue to beat ourselves up even though we know it is something that could never be possible.

So the next time you find yourself being just a little to hard on yourself, please keep in mind, “You have room for errors. Also there is no reason for you to constantly beat yourself up for something you didn’t get right. The main lesson is to keep trying til you do.

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Sun and Women’s health?

Good Morning!!!

I hope everyone is enjoying their Marvelous Monday!!

Today I wanted to speak about Sun and what affects I’ve noticed it has on me and many women like me.

Many of us don’t give it a second thought. We know that it’s a big ball of heat and light. But we haven’t come to realize how important it is when it comes to fertility and regular menstruation.

I’ve been looking all over the internet trying to find articles on how the sun influences how long your menstrual stays or if it comes at all.

I was surprised to see there weren’t that many articles on the subject. So for this blog I want to let you know vitamin D plays a huge part in your reproduction. You need vitamin D in producing healthy blood.

What tends to happen when you don’t have healthy blood is you loose it. This can either happen because of anemia or a menstrual that will not end. I know this because I’ve experienced both.

I’ve known for a long time food should be your medicine. But I never applied my knowledge to myself and health.

Since life has been nothing but monotonous for me, I figure I will finally put what I know to good use.

I’m not guaranteeing weight lose or anything. But I will post pictures of myself before I started taking my health seriously and my progress going through this transformation.

Please pray for me and hold me accountable. Because this is something I always wanted to do but never did because I allowed the way others feel towards me to dictate the way I felt about myself.

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Good Morning!!

It may sound a little corny for me to always start my posts with this. But I have to greet you all. It wouldn’t be me if I didn’t.

I never want my blogs to be something you read just to pass time. I want them to always be something you can relate too. So here we go.

Recently I have changed my view on food in the most drastic way. For years I’ve struggled with eating healthier. It would usually only last for a couple of months.

What’s different about this time is; I feel like I’m fighting for my life.

As I said before I’ve always been interested in being fit.I just never cared enough to put in the work. Well times are changing and I realize now there is no other choice but to be fit and active.

This especially rings the truest now, because I’ve started to wake up to the fact I won’t be here forever. I’m sorry if that puts a bad taste in your mouth; but it’s true (I say this just incase you’re thinking your life expectancy).

For years I’ve hidden away from people. Secretly wanting to be noticed, but only for the good, never the bad. Also I was hiding from rejection and ever thing I could experience that would excite and scare me at the same time.

I’ve finally come to the realization that things are only as scary as you make them. The best way to over come that fear is to do it anyway. Think about the consequences later.

Many of us don’t realize this, but thinking is the thing that stops us from doing. I’m not saying thinking is a bad thing. But too much of it has the tendency to paralyze you, leaving you at a standstill. As a result Never accomplishing what you truly want out of life.

I hadn’t taken notice, but for a long time I’ve been caught up in the emotions of my past. I knew I had quite a few issues with the way I was brought up. But I never took inventory of my life. It wasn’t until I moved back home my “eyes” began to open and I started to see how I allowed past experiences to over power current encounters and situations.

So here’s to the future cause we got through the past.

If you need time to work on you. Take the time.

Also please take the time to look at life and really think on your current setup. Is this what you want or is it something else. If it is, the time to act is now.

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Healthy or Convenience

Good Morning!!!

I’m sure at the time I’m writing this it’s probably bed time for most of you. But I had to get a post down for the day. Just incase you’re not aware, many times I only write if I have something to write about. As some may know a lot of my posts have something to do with what I’m experiencing at the time. So this will be no different.

This is something hard for me to talk about, because I feel that it’s letting you know a little bit too much about me. But I figure I’ll go ahead and get it off my chest. Let me start of by saying,” I’ve always been a big girl. At one point in time I use to be into health. But for the most part that has changed in the past couple of years. I guess you could say, “I allowed my emotions to get the better of me. So naturally like most people I allowed the way I felt to lead me.

This was not a good thing, for obvious reasons. Me allowing my emotions to dictate the way I feel or felt doesn’t keep me in a mind frame of being accountable for everything I do and consume. As a result I allowed myself to go crazy with the eating and the cold foods and drinks.

If I’m honest my diet consists of about 85% to 90% processed food….. Wow!! I never really thought about how much processed food I eat. That’s mind blowing. I’m just coming to the realization now that I eat way too much junk.

Well I’m sure you’re trying to figure out why I’m mentioning this. It’s simple really. I’m bringing this to light because a lot of women these days are experiencing infertilely. Many of them don’t realize it’s the food they eat that play a huge part in why they’re not able to conceive.

I remember reading a study years back, about the fertility difference in women who eat natural food appose to  women who eat a diet high in processed foods. Naturally the women who ate natural foods most of the time were the ones with a higher fertility rate. As for the women eating the processed food, they’re fertility was cut in half . What’s sad is, it wasn’t a 100% to begin with.

If I can find the study I’ll make sure to leave a link.

This isn’t the same study from so many years back, but it is something you can read to get a better understanding.

https://www.livescience.com/62476-fast-food-diet-infertility.html

How does this affect me?

Well at the current time I’ve been feeling all over the place. Having to deal with imbalances, menstrual problems, mood swings and the list goes on. I can not fully explain what I’ve experienced waiting for my period to come every month. This puts the stress level at even a higher high because my mother wants grand babies, and I’m at an age were that could easily not be possible at anytime. As for me, I’m not sure if I want any children. I feel like that ship has sailed. Also mentally and financially I’m in no place to have children at the current time.

The only thing I’m going to say is, “if God sees it fit to provide me with a child, I will love and do every and anything I can for that child. The other thing is I don’t know how it’s gonna happen, because I have taken the longest time from dating in my whole adult life.

I thought it was time I take some time for myself, because my whole life I’ve been living for someone else. I’m so tired of that. So I finally said, “Enough is enough! It’s time for me to learn how to love me without me needing the affection of someone else.

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Making your Mark

Good Morning!!!!

 

Hope everyone is doing well!

 

Today’s post is about the obstacles you’re going to face while trying to make your mark in this world. As you should know, nothing and I do mean nothing is going to come easy. You’re going to have to fight tooth and nail to get to where you want to be. I understand for some of us it comes easier than others. But you’re going to have to fight sometimes harder to keep your spot than you had to get it. 

 Don’t feel discouraged, because everyone has to go through this point in life. As you know this wouldn’t be a Shads Short Stories post if I didn’t put an example of myself in here; so here it goes. At the current moment I’m fighting to stay motivated to make my mark. There are so many things I want to accomplish; as I’m sure you do as well. 

The thing that stops or causes me to procrastinate is myself, my emotions and my job. Many days I come home and I’m so tired that there is nothing I want to do more than come home and go to bed. I also understand by doing this it’s pushing the manifestation date of my dreams back significantly. This is a hurdle that I’m going to have to learn to jump, because I don’t want another year to go by and nothing that I have worked on has been manifested.

The one great thing I have manifested was my first published book. Something I thought was going to be near impossible to finish. But… I finished it. That’s why I have such an optimistic personality. Cause I know anything you put your mind to you can make happen. You just have to keep a positive attitude around that thing you’re trying to manifest, and it will come.

Too often we allow our mind to run away from us. We let those negative thoughts fester and later on don’t realize how continuing to think negatively gets us lost in our minds and emotions. All emotions are, are the body following the brain. Causing us to expel or energy in uneventful ways.

So the next time you’re overthinking something DON’T. All it does is throw your body out of wack and riddle you with anxiety. Overthinking too much also causes internal dis-ease. That is why it’s a great idea to read, meditate, sleep, or exercise to decompress from the day. 

I’ve recommended this book before, but I’m going to recommend it again along with another book. The first is:

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself Audiobook by Dr. Joe Dispenza -  9781518936166 | Rakuten Kobo United States

  • Breaking the Habit of being yourself:  This book was a real Eye Opener for me, because it allowed me to realize people weren’t reacting to me; they were reacting in a learned behavior, that is also known as a program. This helped me to realize I had also allowed my mind to program me in such a way that every time I met someone new I became overcome by anxiety. I can’t express how much of an insight this was.

 

The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom by Miguel Ruiz

  • The 2nd is The 4 Agreements: The great thing about this one is it helps you to see and understand every time you do something wrong against someone else you’re actually hurting yourself. This is another one that helps you to get out of your head and start living. It helps you understand there is NO one holding you back but YOU.

 

 

 

 

Book Excerpt: The Power of Now by Eckhart TolleAs for what I’m currently reading The Power of Now. There isn’t too much I can say about this book as of yet, because I’ve just begun to read it. But trust if it’s a GREAT READ you will know about it.

 

 

 

 

 

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Purpose driven life

Good Morning!!!

 

Hope you’re having a beautiful day! There are so many reasons why you should. Before you say or even think of that as a false statement realize experiencing the best out of life is a state of mind. So… with that said, life is what ever you want to make it.

I tend to read a lot of self help books. I do this because I feel the need to work on myself. I’m not going to lie and say I have everything figured out sense reading these books; but they do help me to feel a lot better about myself and situations. They help me to see the world in someone else’s perspective. This in turn helps to boost my mood, which leads to me feeling uplifted and wanting to pass that feeling on. I say this because maybe you’re someone who wants or needs to feel uplifted, and this may be something you use to bring you a little bit closer to that.

There is so much you can do when you feel uplifted and free. For my followers who’ve been with me over the years (I appreciate you all immensely) you know I always say the way the world is constructed, we are slaves to the 1%ers. I’m not saying that in a way to make you feel sad, mad or helpless. I say this because most of us go to a job we hate and  trade our time for money everyday. When we could be just as privileged as our bosses or so many others who took a chance on their selves’.

If you are like some, you might be okay with working for someone else. That’s okay if you are. But if you’re like me, you crave to be in the center of everything great. Even if that means you have to experience some things that aren’t so great. 

Your journey is your own. Don’t get discouraged if the ones around you can’t see or understand your vision. Just remember it wasn’t given to them, it was given to you. 

Never doubt yourself, because you’re capable of doing things you’ve never even dreamed possible. 

Learn the ways of the world through trial and error, when ever possible. When you start living this way, your whole life doesn’t turn out to be a long list of woulda shoulda coulda’s. 

I get that many of us live in our heads. This is even more detrimental when you’re an introvert who suffers from social anxiety, like myself. Just remember these are obstacles that can be over come. You don’t have to sit and bathe in misery (unless you want too).

You control you’re destiny. Stop giving it away!!

Live and be Limitless.

 

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Manifest your Abundance

Good Morning!!!

Another rainy day here in WPB FL. I’m not here for it. I don’t want to end up with a cold by the end of the day.

As always I hope you all are getting everything and anything you’ve always wanted because the possibilities are endless! It’s us that seem to put limitations on the things we’re capable of doing and receiving. When in reality our limitations are endless. I’m sure some may think it’s a little bit of an airhead thing to say, but it’s true!

Society has taught a great deal of us to continuously live in lack. So instead of trying to change that outlook many of us learn to work around it. We get drunk, over eat, become addicted to certain things we use to escape our current reality; during the times we’re supposed to be creating or making room for our blessings.

Many of us have become so present in our physical world to the point were that’s all we see. We start to believe, “If they don’t like me then I need to find a way to make them like me.” When in reality it’s not up to us how that person feels toward us. What we have to understand is, no matter how great of a person we are to some, they’ll never like you…. and that’s Okay!

The goal is to concentrate on you and make sure you’re a solid human being. My NEW mantra, “Selfcare is the best care.” Reason being, if you can’t take care of yourself how are you going to take care of someone else.

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FEAR of being GREAT

Good Morning!!!

 

I hope everyone is having a marvelous Sunday!

 

Today’s post is about falling and learning the failure  isn’t in falling. The failure is in not getting back up. I’m sure a lot of you have heard that saying over and over again. Let me put a spin on it. Brake it down so that it will mean more and hit you deeper. 

We all have something or another we want to accomplish in life. Some of us go through life and don’t even scratch the surface of our greatest potential. Do you know why that is?….

FEAR

We may try to say something else is the reason for us not being great, but in actuality fear is the poison that seems to paralyze us all when that time comes to let others know what we’re really capable of. There’s No denying fear has been a large part of how I’ve lived life up to this point. There’ve been many things I have wanted to do but have not, because of fear. Fear of what you may ask; To be honest I really don’t know, but it’s fear just the same.

So what I ask of you and I will practice this too. Work on seeing yourself as more than just your physical presence. Work on looking deep with in yourself. Take the time to get to know YOU. Once you carve out the time to truly get to know who you are, no one can tell you anything about YOU that’s gonna  shake your spirit.  

There is always gonna be a person or thing that will try to block you from getting to know yourself. You’re gonna have to be strong and not put so much of your focus on the outside world. When everything’s all said and done you’re going to have to make sure you’re whole all by yourself. 

The best thing is always work on yourself first before trying to add someone else to the chaos that is YOU. Most of us learn this late in life. I don’t believe this is the fault of our parents, because we’re gonna do what we want to do anyway. I feel it’s because many of us are so in a rush to run before we walk, we stumble and fall before we ever take our first step.

However you choose to get to know yourself is completely fine. There is NO right or wrong way. Remember to throw the judgement out the window when it comes to the process. You may not realize it, but sometimes scrutiny or judgement can spark fear. 

That’s why it’s best when going through this process to not inform anyone of how you’re healing until the process is complete; and that is only if you choose too. It’s no ones business but your own of your healing process.

Below are some ways I’ve found that work in helping you become WHOLE:

  • Prayer
  • Therapy
  • Meditation
  • Practice Gratitude
  • Do more of what you love
  • Spend quality time with yourself
  • Challenge yourself to do something you wouldn’t typically do.
  • Live in the moment
  • Have FUN

 

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