These last couple of weeks have not been the best. But with God’s help they will get better.
There isn’t a lot that I’ve been focused on. It’s really only been one thing I’ve been focused on for the past… almost 3 weeks now; and that is getting another car. The problem is I never really bought in to the whole credit thing. I thought having credit was more like debt and less like a game. Now that I’m older I understand that a game is exactly what it is. The better you get at the game the easier things in life will happen for you. Choose not to play this game and things can become extremely difficult. Especially if you don’t have the money that could take the place of the credit.
I just hate that it took me so long to understand having no credit is just like having bad credit. I’m living through the consequences of not establishing my credit early and consistently. Because of this it is like pulling teeth trying to get the right car. The other thing I found out was even though you paid your utilities and rent on time it does not go toward your credit. I swear it feels like my eyes have been closed to the way the world has been operating for the past 20yrs.
Now I’m here trying to play catch up, and learn everything there is to learn about credit so that things will come to me easier. Because one thing is for sure, life has definitely not been that.
If you don’t have credit, I suggest you go out while you’re young or even right now and learn how to play the game that some of the rich keep beating us at, time and time again.
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I know there’s a lot going on in the world. But through it all, I hope you manage to find a way to smile. Granted it’s very easy to lose sight of the great things that happen everyday. For what ever reason, it seems like the bad always overshadows the good. For some of us that’s because we’re wired to expect bad things and others are dealt a sunshine and rainbows hand.
Circumstance a lot of the time can make or break a person’s take on life. That’s why someone that seemed to be so happy go lucky changes and becomes a “Debby Downer” sometime. But positivity is also something you have to work on daily, so you can help your mind to rewire itself. After time you won’t have to consciously remind yourself to be positive, you just will.
That’s why whenever I feel like I’m being stuffed in a box, I have to find a way out. Just incase you hadn’t realized, having control over your finances almost guarantees you to have more control over your life. Why do you think there are so many people these days starting up companies and finding ways to work independently?
Although for some, this would be too large of a step; and that’s okay. For a longtime I knew I wanted to have the type of control that came with running my own business. I can’t tell you how many ideas I’ve had over the years. A lot of them didn’t see the light of day. But for the ones that have, some of you have bore witness to them.
The first thing was this blog. I have to be honest, after 3 years this is still just a hobby (Something you like to do but your loss is greater than your gain.)… Then I decided to write my first book Loyalty, Lies, and Betrayal. I’m sure it would have sold better if I put some money in the advertising. For the ones who have read it, I’m told all the time how good the book is. I really cherish that…. Then I started YouTube. I’m not saying I’m done with it, I’m just extremely shy so it takes a lot for me to get on camera and talk about anything. Then there was my Podcast. I started it, but I realized it’s good to have a co-host because the commentary doesn’t have the chance to get boring. Now, I’m 150% focused on selling all natural handmade soap. This was one of the biggest investments I’ve ever made.
I’m not giving up on the things I’ve started before making soap. God willing, I’ll one day master them all. I just have to stop letting myself get in my own way. I hate to say it, but I’m sure some of you are probably going through the same thing i.e Not knowing when to get out of your own way.
For this company I’ve started, I’ve grown overwhelming passionate for it. I will do everything possible to help educate more of us on the health and the importance of having healthy skin. As I say on my store’s Website LuLusLavishLathers.com:
I started making soap when I realized a lot of soap isn’t made from natural resources. I found that out when I started digging more into the health world, hoping to find better ways of being healthy. So as a result of wanting to be healthy I started going to Wholefoods and bought natural soap. Mind you, this was the very first time I had been introduced to a soap that not only cleanses, but feeds your skin in the process. I wanted to recreate something like that; and the great thing now is, I can.
Come and try a bar. Every soap is made with natural and organic ingredients. Many are made with essential oil, such as peppermint, patchouli, chamomile, cedarwood, tea tree, eucalyptus, and a long list of other essential oils. The important thing with using these type of oils to add fragrance to the soap is; it also adds a long list of benefits.
Many of us don’t know this, but if you’re allergic to something many times that’s because of a blockage in the body. Do you know why many blockages start? Because of feeding ourselves things that were never made for the body to intake in the first place.
Hope everyone woke up happy and healthy this morning.
I wanted to speak about something other than the coronavirus. Although I have a lot of thoughts on the subject, I’m going to keep them to myself, for now.
Well as you know I opened an Etsy shop not to long ago. I thought at the time that was the best way to go, but it has proven to be uneventful. Mainly because all the fees that come with the platform. I know they have to pay bills too. But damn! I need to get some kind of return on investment.
I just felt like I was putting in too much work for them to be benefitting like a fat rat. I mean that may be how business works for many other people. But I’ve decided I can not do all of that and receive peons!!! So I’ve decided to move to another platform; Shopify. You know, do my on thing. I know there are going to be taxes at the end of the year, but at least I have the chance to see the profit.
Ya’ll wish me luck!!
I have never wanted something so bad and felt so close but yet so far at the same time. I know with time things will begin to work in my favor, I just have to stick with it.
The shop isn’t currently ready. But don’t worry, I’ll make sure to provide an announcement when it is.
if you didn’t know, I sale handmade soaps. Many are made with essential oils and others are made with fragrances. None of the soaps are made with any type of animal bi-product. All soaps are made with natural oils such as unrefined coconut oil or premium olive oil, along with other natural oils.
As I stated on my shops front page, every bath or shower taken with a soap from Heavenly Scents is an experience. Don’t believe me? Try one.
Ever since I began making soap, it has been the only soap I’ve used. As a result of that I am constantly being told how soft my skin is and how good I smell. Sometimes people don’t even have to say anything, you can tell by how often they try to invade your personal space; which is often.
I’m not saying the smell lasts all day, but it will linger for an hour or more.
I’m hoping you will give it a try. I guarantee you will absolutely love this soap once you’ve tried it.
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There is a concept that many women have been introduced to over the years, and that is being a ride or die for the man their with.
To be honest I fell into the trap of thinking that was the way to be. But as you grow up a light goes off, and you realize you can do better by yourself. I mean really; who wants to be with someone that isn’t even trying to get themselves together? Not me, I know that for sure. I know women aren’t the only ones who deal with this; but it is more expected for a woman to deal with a man’s shortcomings then it is for a man to deal with a woman’s.
Decade after decade, we see these women who spend their whole lives trying to help a man get on his feet; only to be left for someone who is the complete opposite of her; It’s getting old. Not to mention, she can’t get back all those years she gave to you. Those years are forever gone. True there was a lesson that came from it; but once someone has been through something like that it’s hard for them to trust and love again. I’m not saying it’s impossible, it’s just hard.
Then you have other women it fazes, but they don’t let that instance or instances stop them from finding love; they just become more cautious about the type of person they choose to entertain. To those women, I take my hat off to you because it takes a lot to give all you believed you had. Then muster up the courage to go out here and try it again.
Relationships aren’t easy. I always say they’re like a job.
Just because you haven’t doesn’t mean you don’t have to work to keep it.
Many times you have to work harder to keep it, than you did to get it.
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The first thing a lot of people think of when I say ‘Healthy is a lifestyle’ is their food intake. Although that is one aspect of healthy living it isn’t the only one. Healthy living consists of having great influential people in your life, positive thinking, being excited to live another day because you operate from a place of gratefulness and humility. Also making sure to take time for yourself is a must. Many times we have forgotten to take time for ourselves because we become so concerned with making sure the next person is okay. But how can you take care of someone else if you’re not?
Recently I’ve been thinking, ‘I would love to be a child again’. Reason being, this adulting thing is not what I thought it was going to be. I thought when you became an adult things get easier; but they actually get harder. Just think about it; when you were a child you woke up didn’t have a real worry because most times it was your parents doing all the worrying. It was their responsibility to take care of you. So many times your day would be pretty easy. I know everyone did not have an easy up bringing. For the ones who did, you know exactly what I’m taking about.
Now you’re an adult and it’s like you’re stumbling and you can’t gain your footing to save your life. Most days are met with anguish and frustration because you have no choice but to do things you’re uncomfortable with to make life a little more bearable. Just incase you’re not following, here’s an example.
Paula is a friend, lover, and mentor. Even with being all these things she still hasn’t managed to find happiness. Sure she feels moments of happiness, but she hasn’t managed to recreate that feeling of happiness for herself. Many times she finds herself going through bouts of depression and anxiety.
She later on realized her depression is caused by her financial situation. You see, Paula was very hard working. Truth be told this woman gave her all to her job, no matter what type of job it was. She stayed late, went above and beyond in every way, for others. Did not do the same when it came to herself though. It seemed she always got the short end of the stick, because people would love the work she did but it never reflected in her finances.
So one day Paula finally came to the realization she no longer wanted to work for others. She figured if she was going to be slaving for anyone it was going to be for herself. So she decided to start a pet grooming business. Besides, she always loved animals and knew she wouldn’t mind having them around her, because they brought love and peace.
Months went by, and finally that dark feeling of depression stopped looming over her. Finally she knew what it felt like to be internally happy.
For some of us this may not be the case. You may be extremely happy with your financial situation. But my question is, “Are you happy with every area of your life?” If the answer is ‘No’ you got some work to do.
Nothing is impossible. Every vision was given to you for a reason. What you do with it though is up to you.
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