There has been so many things that have changed. I guess you can say I kind of reverted back to my old life because I’m living with my mother again. During this last week there have been so many ups and downs. Over all I am happy, because it means that I can really focus on making my business grow. As I’ve said many times before; I know this is not going to be a cake walk. This is really going to take some real hard work and dedication. I just don’t need other people trying to come in and take what I’ve taken the time to learn and make into something for themselves.
There are people in this world who are straight forward, honest, and loyal. Then you have other people who are always trying to find an easy way to make a come up. Trying to get information or free labor from those people who only have the purest intensions. Using them for their brain or what ever else they can offer. This seems like the same type of person I keep getting reintroduced to over and over and over again. I’m tired of it!
One thing is for damn sure! I’m not going down that road again! I’m tired of being that person who continuously wants to believe that all people have an honest or loyal bone in their body, when some just don’t! Every time I allow myself to think like that I always seem to be the one coming away feeling like I’ve gotten taken advantage of. This time around I’m not gonna be a fool about it; because I’ve worked to hard to create the business that I have to just work for someone else for discounted rates.
Some people believe that they have the gift of persuasion. They believe they’re so good that they can talk you into doing something for them without you even realizing it. The one thing a lot of people don’t understand is; I don’t play about my money or my business, If you think you’re gonna get one over on me, think again. I’m trying to make something of myself too.
One thing I will never do is try to fast talk someone into doing something that is going to majorly benefit me and not them. That is not the way I roll. Sometimes I’m too honest for my own good. That’s why most times I sit back and let people talk. If you listen close enough you’ll hear exactly what you need to hear in one conversation, especially when it comes to business.
Since I’ve been back home I realized I’m not to fond of the bull****. I rather for someone to come at me straight. It is true; When you get older some s*** you just can’t tolerate anymore. And I think I’ve hit my wall.
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Today is a good day! There’re things I have to be thankful for everyday, I know that, but today just feels like it’s gonna be a great one. Have you ever felt like that?
There’s plenty I have to do, but I’m not gonna let that overwhelm me. I’ll get to my desired place in life in do time. Patience is truly a virtue, because I’ve seemed to have run all out of mine. I now understand what so many others went through when first starting something that could potentially leave a legacy.
The seriousness that comes with starting something you eventually want everyone to experience at least once is a little heavy to think about in it’s entirety. I want to succeed so bad! I know it’s gonna be a fight to reach the type of status I’m striving to accomplish. Ready or not I’m coming. This work ethic is no joke and never will be. You only get out what you put in, and I intent to put everything I have into climbing that huge mountain of success.
The same goes for you. If you’re passionate about doing something you want the whole world to experience and also want to benefit off of it, there’s no shame in that. People only value things that carry a price. So if you put your time and energy in to something, never feel bad for charging a fee. I’ve learned from those have come up before me, that’s the only way others will learn to respect your craft.
Another thing, if you have a defeatist attitude, get rid of that A.S.A.P!!! You are never gonna get anywhere feeling sorry for yourself. Also what is it doing for you? I get you have to through yourself a pity party sometimes, but if you’re depressed more than you’re happy, some things need to change. Work on turning your life around so you can live the life God has for you. He never meant for you to be down and out for most of your days.
Inclosing, we only get a few days on this earth. Why spend the few good days you have miserable and unfulfilled? If life is hard for you right now look for that ‘Out’. You may not see it if you’re not looking hard enough.
Hope this week has been a good one for you. I know it’s been a very busy one for me. All week long and even before that I was overwhelming myself with the things I knew I had to do, in regards to starting my Shopify store.
I’m not gonna lie, I thought it was going to be easy, I gotta tell you it’s not. Maybe if I was dropshipping it may have been easier, but it’s a whole nother ball game when you’re putting your products out there to be viewed, sold, and critiqued. I want to say, “I don’t know why it is that this is such a trial for me?” But I know exactly why; because it’s something I put my efforts in, I love doing it and I don’t want to hear the criticism that’s gonna come with it. I know for a fact there’s gonna be criticism, cause with what ever you do there’s always criticism. Sometimes criticism can be an opinion, and other times it could be a fact, either way I’m open to it. I understand getting feedback is always a good thing, because it makes you want to do better. Although sometimes it may make you want to give up. When you feel like that, that’s the time you need to push yourself through it.
Just know I’m scared. I’m scared of failing. There’ve been other things I’ve tried my hand at, some I’m currently working on. But this is the only one a larger number of people have seemed to take interest in. Please don’t think I’m dismissing you (my followers a.k.a my beautiful people). I’m only saying this is the only way at the time I see I can make money while doing something I love.
As many of you know I enjoy writing, but this isn’t paying the bills. I feel bad everyday I don’t check in with you all, but I’m working towards something I see someday becoming something bigger than I could ever imagine. Please understand if I could be here writing posts, without financial concerns, I would be writing everyday all day. Unfortunately I don’t have that luxury. So all I ask is for you all to be patient with me. Starting up an online store isn’t easy.
Also this whole shy thing I have going on, something I’ve dealt with ever since I was a child; Is something that hinders you a great deal in business. What I’ve learned is the extroverts are the ones who seem to do very well in business because they’re not afraid to be the center of attention when need be. Many times for them it doesn’t matter that their product may be garbage; the most important thing is how well you can sale yourself while selling the product. When it comes to business it’s all about trust.
So at this time I’ve been trying to find a less debilitating way to become more extroverted. I know it’s gonna be a struggle, I just hope in the long run it comes full circle.
I’ve been at this thing for a couple of years now, but nothing seems to be taking off. I’m sure that I could have put more effort into the things I’ve started. To be honest I know the only way that I’m going to get seen is if I do something that involves more connectivity.
Meaning: YouTube, or a Podcast. Those I feel are going to be the only things that are going to help me to get to the level of success I want to reach.
Some of you may know what I’m talking about, but I’m sure a lot of you don’t. I’m speaking about all the things I’ve tried to do over the years to make life a lot more bearable for me. For example: Writing books, creating this blog, starting YouTube, and my most recent endeavor; soap making.
When I say I want to be my own boss, I mean it whole heartedly. I’ve always said this from the time I was little. It’s only in the last 5 yrs that I’ve had the opportunity to put effort towards this quest.
What worries me, is there are going to be some changes in the next couple of months. I’m praying these changes won’t hinder my growth or disrupt my focus.
I’m worried because, for the past couple of years my family and friends haven’t had access to me like they will once this move takes place.
I have to be honest it’s been nice not getting the surprise pop-up visits. Don’t get me wrong I love my friends and family. It’s just sometimes I want to be by myself, and I fear that there won’t be much time for that soon.
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I hope all is well. I know you’re probably looking at the title and trying to figure out how I came up with that. Well that is the name of my NEW Etsy STORE!
As you know it has been a little while since I’ve written anything. The reason for that is there is another business venture I’m looking into and unfortunately it has been taking a lot of my time. I have no regrets, because in the long run I think this is going to be something I can do for fun and also profit from.
The business I have been looking into is skincare. But at this current moment in time I’m only making one thing and that is soap. I’ve created an Etsy store and I’ve already had 3 orders to come in! This journey is going to be an exciting one. Last year was definitely not my year, but I believe that 2020 is going to be the year of the hustle. That is all I plan on doing this year. Because I realized a long time ago I never wanted to work on someone’s job. So by doing this it will give me an avenue to make my own currency and be my own boss.
I remember I asked a friend, ” Why don’t more people try to make their own lane?” He just said, “Not everyone has the same goal.” I didn’t understand it, and I’m not going to try to act like I understand it now, because I don’t. I much rather own my own everything, than to let someone have basic control over my life. Many people don’t realize that is what a job is many times; but that is about the gist of it.
If there is anything you take from this post, I want you to know that anything is possible as long as you believe you can achieve it. I don’t care how extreme your dreams might be, there is always a way to make them come true. So never stop striving for the stars.
Hope everything and everyone is okay, and things are going superb in your lives.
Well as for an update on me; I’m venturing into the soap making world…. I love it!!!
To be honest I already knew it was going to be something I would do on the regular, because I love to smell good. But the process alone is so satisfying.
It’s one of those things you do to feel relaxed, especially if you’re stressed. The other great thing about is being about to mold and alter it in anyway you choose. You have complete creative control.
Here’s a picture of the first batch I made, just a couple of days ago.
Hope all is well…. As I stated before I will be starting a skincare business. It’s in the works. I’ve been trying to figure out what I was going to market for the longest time. I have a book out here and also a t-shirt store, but that isn’t where my passion lies. I’m thinking this next venture is going to be the one I stick to. It seems like it could eventually become something I love doing; and that is all I want. It seems like you’re more inclined to work when it doesn’t feel like work. I’m sure that’s what we all are striving for.
As far as the process, I’m still looking for a name and logo. I’m sure I’ll be able to come up with something this weekend. That’ll be the time I can actually sit still and think of something creative. My only problem now is buying all the supplies. When I first decided to do this I had no clue that it was going to be such an expensive start up. But if you don’t try you won’t succeed.
So as I always say; If you have something you’ve been wanting to do that will release you from the chains of working just to get paid, do it. It’s going to be hard at first but the feeling you get from having control over your finances (knowing you set the tone for how much you get paid) is priceless.
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Reminder: If this is your first time reading the Desire Series please make sure to READ IN ORDER. All parts can be found under SHORT STORIES under Desire.
“Sheila, I told you I have to work tomorrow!…..That’s why I stayed home today; I wanted to make sure me you and Bobby spent time together. Since you’re always complaining that we never see each other.” Klaus was getting irritated with Sheila and her clinginess. He already canceled things with Desire, and was mad for it; taking it out on Sheila.
“You act like we get to spend time together all the time! I’m only asking about tomorrow, because you say you want your son to see what a healthy marriage looks like. It’s not like one day out of the week is gonna do it for him.
If you didn’t plan on giving this your all; Why couldn’t we make plans to get divorced when I asked you about it?!“
“Because, at the time, I was sure we could work this out.”
“We probably could work this out if you were willing to try! But, you don’t even want to do that! The effort always has to come from me. Why is that, Klaus?!
“Why are you sitting up here lying like that!”
“Really, I’m lying right now?!” Sheila had tears in her eyes. She wanted so badly for their marriage to work; but Klaus seemed to refuse to put in any real effort. He assumed, but never knew he was the only man Sheila ever loved.
“So, I guess because you pick one day out the F****** year to be with your wife and kid, that makes you a great husband and father?! Guess again. You are going to have to work hard at this just like you worked hard to get and keep your business. It’s not gonna come easy. You should know that by now!”
“Why do I even bother?! You’re gonna find something wrong with what ever I do any way. What’s the point?” Klaus felt he was giving it all he could. He loved Sheila, but he fell out of love with her a long time ago. His reason for staying was mainly his son, and Sheila was reliable. He knew she would take care of his house and his child just as he would. Also in his mind it was cheaper to keep her. There was no way he was willing to pay alimony.
“The point is, I’m tired of feeling like I’m working on us, when you could care less! I knew we were too young to get married, but I loved you! I was pregnant with your child and I loved you more than I loved myself!
What happened to us?”
“I don’t know what happened to you. I’m the same man you married.”
“I think you need to check again; because you’re nothing like the man I married! The man I married loved me and was there for me whenever I needed him. I don’t know who you are.” Sheila said while looking him up and down.
“Oh, okay since you don’t know who I am it won’t matter if I go!”
“Take yo a** on! You not doing me any favors!”
Bobby was in his room trying to block out all the screaming and arguing; something his parents did a lot of that past year. They believed they were doing him a favor by staying together, but all he wished they would do is get a divorce. He felt things would be better for them and for him if they just called it quits.
“Hello? Who is this?”
“You deleted my number that quick baby? Damn!”
“This you, Klaus?”
“Yeah, who did you think it was?” Klaus was getting a little jealous, because Desire didn’t recognize it was him on the phone.
“Nobody in particular. I was sleep.”
“Oh, okay. Is it alright if I come over?”
“I thought you said you had some things to do at the office?”
“So? Uh…. What happened?”
” I got a colleague to take care of it for me. I wanted to take out my special girl.”
“Oh, now I’m your special girl. What happened a couple of hours ago; when we had plans to meet tonight and you cancelled on me because you had to do work that was more important than me?!”
“Desire, I don’t need this from you too.”
“What you mean me too?!”
“Are you coming over here because your other b**** got something to do?!“
“Why does it have to be all that?!”
“Baby, I’m only saying that work was getting on my nerves…..”
“So you trying to say I’m getting on your nerves?!“
“Who is this? I know this is not my beautiful Queen, Monique.”
“Oh yes it is. Your Queen is just getting tired of being second, third, fourth, and fifth! This is what happens when the Queen isn’t able to see her King because he cancels on her repeatedly!”
“Baby, I told you I’m sorry about that. Listen, I’m outside your house right now. Are you gonna let me in?”
“Depends….. You brought me something?”
“You gonna have to open the door to find out.”
“If I come to this door and I don’t see nothing in your hands, I’m slamming it in your face.”
“Baby, don’t be like that. Open the door! I promise I got something good waiting for you.”
“Okay, I’m comin.” Desire took the time she needed to make herself presentable before letting Klaus in.
Knock… Knock… Knock
“Chill! I’m coming!” Desire was happy he came, but there was no way she was gonna show her excitement to see him. She couldn’t do that; then he would know he had her nose wide open for him. She had to continue to play the pissed off role so she could get what she wanted. She had no idea how long she was going to last, but she was willing to try.
Upon opening the door, she saw he had nothing in his handles.
“What did I say?”
“What you talking about?”
“Oh, now you got amnesia! You think I’m playing.” Desire had to let him know she wasn’t playing games.
“Baby, baby, baby! Wait!”Klaus tried to stop what was inevitable; the door being slammed in his face.