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Change

Good Afternoon!!!

Hope you are finding happiness and fulfillment where ever you are.

There seems to have been so many things that have begun to go right! I might feel that way because my perception changed. I have started to see the changes that are coming in to play as necessary obstacles I have to experience to get to my next bridge in life.

I was so focused on loosing what I had that I couldn’t appreciate what is soon to be. Granted the good things that have happened are small in comparison to the growth I’ve experienced over these 5 years. But I know that I can no longer be a back set driver when it comes to my life, decisions, energy, and my level of comfort are all things I left up to other people to decide. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized “NO” knows what’s best for you but you.

See what I was doing was allowing myself to become complacent. At first I was excited and things were good, then as time went on things slowly began to change. If you have no idea what I’m speaking of, I’m talking about my failed relationship. The one thing I have to say, I’m a queen at adapting to other peoples moods. I will adapt so effortlessly that I won’t even realize that I’ve adapted to fit into that persons pocket of comfortability. I say this because it is soooo true! For the longest time I was allowing myself to be uncomfortable in order not to make those around me feel that same exact way.

It really does become a disease to please, because when you’ve done it so much that you don’t realize when you do it…. it’s a problem; that needs to be fixed!

Now I’m moving on to what I believe will become something bigger and much better then my previous situation.

To all the grown folks who had to deal with people looking down on them or clowning them because you had to move back in with family, I commend you. It’s not easy admitting you failed; or not even that, you have a bigger vision that has a greater possibility of coming to fortition if you don’t have to stress so hard about bills and other things that come up when you live on your own. The help is needed and definitely appreciated. So don’t get stuck feeling like you failed because things didn’t work out like you thought.

Like I keep hearing:

“Maybe that wasn’t the vision God had for you.” 

Hope you enjoyed this blog and that it also brought you some kind of comfort, if you happen to be going through a big transition in your life.

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As Always

Experiences · Feelings · health · Informative · Thoughts

Healthy Movement

I’ve been going to the gym for the past couple of days. I can’t really say why I feel the urge to go know, I just do. The only thing is, I hope to stay consistent. There have been many times I’ve started going and then stopped because of my really bad anxiety. But when I go, I feel 10x better than I feel when I don’t go. The sad part about it; I know I’m doing something that is going to help me live a better quality of life, it’s going to give me more energy, strengthen my brain, improve my sex life and a long list of other benefits.

Also if you don’t want to go to the gym, you have many more alternatives.

Improve Quality of Life by doing these Activities, Consistently.

  1. Rock Climbing
  2. Swimming
  3. Basketball
  4. Volleyball
  5. Dancing
  6. Take a walk
  7. Parasail
The possibilities are endless. The key is to get out and move.

Possible affects of getting older, without consistent MOVEMENT

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I can’t front, the main reason I’m becoming concerned with movement and exercise; I’m getting older. As a result of that, I’ve been feeling like I need to move more now; so I’ll be able to take care of myself later. I don’t want to be like a lot of people my age. Sad to say, I see a lot of them not doing to well. They usually are sick, or stiff (limited range of motion). Some of them are even to the point of having to have they’re children do everything for them. I don’t have any children, so that means I would either have to pay someone to take care of me or start taking care of myself now, so I can be active and mobile, all the way up to the time I’m suppose to leave this earth.
If I had one wish for anyone, it would be to live the life of your dreams and realize your health is your wealth. That’s something I’ve learned as I get older. Not that I have a handle on it yet, but I’m getting there.Related image
Growing up, when I was living with my Grandmas and Aunts, they cooked on the regular. When I started living with my Mom she didn’t cook as much because she had to work. So health wasn’t the focus; there was to much to manage other than what I and she ate. Not saying what my Aunts and Grandmas cooked was healthy. It was just that it was home made, unlike things you buy from some restaurants and fast food places. You never know what you could be digesting. That’s why I believe so many of us are overweight; for the mere fact, we are eating things that were never meant for our bodies to digest.
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That’s another reason I believe your favorite actress or singer looks so good; because they’re able to afford a lifestyle of eating well, while also being healthy.
In closing, I want you to think about your lifestyle and diet, and determine if it’s helping you or hurting you. If it’s helping, please continue what your doing. But if it’s hurting you and you want to live a full, long, free, blessed life; you need to change somethings, so you won’t have to check out early. I don’t know what it is about getting older. But you start to see your life so much clearer when you do.
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Be Blessed, and Live In The Moment…..

empowering · Experiences · motivational · Venting

LIFE

Have you ever experienced a point in life where you felt stuck?

I’ve been feeling like this ever since February 20th, 2019 (the day I lost my job of 15yrs). Truthfully, it’s been longer than that. I thought it was going to be something easy to get over, but it hasn’t been. I have a job now, I’m grateful for it. The only problem is I know I could have been doing so much better if I would have followed my own drum instead of the beat of someone else’s.

When I think about it, I realize most of the choices I made in life have been what other people wanted for me. There aren’t that many things that I’ve decided on in my own. I guess I’m scared of being the one to blame when things don’t go well. I’ve realized in life you’re always going to have choices. I should be looking at it as a good thing, because it means life always has an opportunity to change for the better.

You see, so many times we go through things and concentrate on the negativity of the change or the lose, instead of focusing on how the change is going to benefit us or the people around us. It doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Slowly but surely I’ve observed how this change was good for me. For one, I’m way more focused on what I want. I’ve been able to post more regularly, I’ve published a book, spoken at an open mic night, soon will be starting a podcast, started a YouTube channel, and in a couple weeks I’ll be going back to college. I have to say God blessed me when he removed me from that place. At the time I didn’t see it. But little by little I can see his plan unfolding and I’m so grateful for this opportunity to live life again.

I know you all my not understand the emotion behind my words and feelings. But just to let you know where I’m coming from; I use to be someone who had no direction! I had a dog of a boyfriend from 19 to 28 he treated me like I was less than dirt on the bottom of a shoe. He constantly lied, cheated, stole from me, put me down in always imaginable, and disappeared sometimes for months at a time. Then to couple that with a step-father who insulted me, demeaned me any chance he got, and cheated on my mother constantly. That isn’t even the half of it. To be honest I could write a whole novel on my negative interactions with men including my sperm donor. I just don’t feel the need to, not yet anyway.

I have to say I’m grateful, even though sometimes I can’t tell if things are improving. One thing I know; they’re not staying the same.

So if you’re like me and life has brought you 180 you need to continue on that path and know most change is for your good. Even if it seems a little or a lot uncomfortable. For the things we really want in life we are always going to have to experience some discomfort in order to appreciate it when something good comes along.

 

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