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Learning the Importance of Formalities

Good Morning My Beautiful People!!!

As always, I hope everything is going in your favor.

Well today I was thinking; “What should the topic be today?” I figured I’d write a little on the different challenges I’m facing starting my own business. I have to be honest, I didn’t think this day was gonna come. Technically I’m still working on making it a reality.Legal Formalities for the Formation of a Company

I can’t begin to tell you how happy it feels to be doing something I enjoy so much!! Even though I enjoy creating soap there are some things I don’t enjoy, now that I’m starting a real business; and that’s all the legal things that come along with it. You have to make sure that you are completely covered just incase someone tries to come for your throat.

The other thing is coming up with a name. I currently have a name; it’s Heavenly Scents by Shadrieka. I’m going through the process of changing it because 1.) it’s too long & 2.) A lot of business’ have the name Heavenly Scents. Also I’m sure because that name is so widely used I would get lost in the shuffle because Heavenly Scents is such a popular name.

If you have any pointers on the next steps I should take or want to share any of your experiences with starting your own business; Please leave a comment. 

Also if there’s something you can do well and get paid for it, do it! STOP MAKING EXCUSES!! There is no better time than the present. If you keep waiting you may loose your chance. Stop waiting and start doing. Make those dreams come true. Life is filled with road blocks. It’s your job to either burst through them or pave your own way. But never allow a person, situation, or circumstance to dictate the things you’re capable of accomplishing!!

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Next!!!

Good afternoon!!!

I had no clue what I was going to talk about today. Once I got back home my topic seemed to fall right in my lap. I seem to talk about this individual a lot, but you have to understand I didn’t know the end was near. I also had no clue of his narcissism; it reared it’s head a couple of times. I just wanted to be in love and wanted him to be Mr. Right so bad that I paid no attention to it.

35 Relationship Quotes and Sayings for Her #relationships 35 Relationship Quotes and Sayings for Her - museulyMany times I’ve said being in this relationship made me feel like I was drowning and I needed to come up for air. The thing that made me stay was my own insecurities of feeling like I wasn’t as valuable on my own as I seemed to be while in a relationship. Also seeing the type of things other women have gone through, and have remained in that relationship with that man who disrespected them, did nothing for them, cheated on them; the list goes on. It had me believing that I shouldn’t expect too much from a man because he would always come up short.

The reason for this post today was because my Ex a.k.a roommate did something that triggered my jealousy. Then I had to quickly remind myself we are no longer together and there’s nothing for me to get upset about. After all, I realized what he’s offering, I do not want.

you can't pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself firstBut I’m gonna be honest with yawl, for a long time I thought I was the problem. I really use to pick myself apart when things would never go the way I planned while dating. Now I realize there’s nothing wrong with me. I just keep allowing the wrong kind of man to come in my life and turn s*** upside down.

This last time I have to say I was a little more guarded. I really believe I saw the red flags subconsciously, I just wasn’t ready to come to terms with them yet. I have to say though I’m in a better place mentally. If this was before I would have been all broken up about this current situation I’m in. One thing I know for sure my mother didn’t raise a weak woman. People ask me frequently how I’m able to live with my Ex without talking to each other. I’m not gonna say that it’s easy because it isn’t. It messes with me mentally everyday. But I’ll be damned if I move when my name is on this lease.

Part of me can’t wait for this lease to be up, but the other part of me is dreading that day. It’s only because I’m so use to having my own space, and once I move I won’t really have that anymore.

One things for sure, I’m gonna make something out of this faze of transitioning. God willing I’ll be in my new fully furnished apartment by 2021, working solely for myself.

Something I’ve learned during this time is; never sit still. They piss you off, use that anger to better yourself. Don’t worry about the next person they may be entertaining. You may not want to hear that right now; especially if you’re currently going through a bad break-up. But it’s truly something you need to hear and think about. Also don’t let your glow up be because you want to get back at them. Do it for you. You deserve everything this world has to offer and so much more .

True you may get a little jealous when you see all the couples out there. I just say; you never know what the next person had to go through for that person to be with them or be married to them. Keep in mind you’re on the outside looking in. Not saying there are no great relationships out there; I know there are. I just have decided that I’m not gonna settle for just a piece of someone when I know there’s someone out there who’s willing to give me their all.

Message of the day & always: Never Settle!!!!

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The Road to Creating Your Own Happiness

Good Afternoon Beautiful People!!

It’s Fun Friday!!! What are you doing today?.. I wish I could say that I was doing something fun, but the fun days won’t come until all my efforts of making it have been recognized and I’ve been compensated.

Some of you may think because I think this way that money is the only thing that matters to me. Well…. that’s not entirely true. What matters most to me is the freedom of working for yourself. That’s why I push myself so hard. If I don’t push me who will? I have to have that ambition to make it in this life. There’s no more mediocrity for me anymore. I plan to live this life to the fullest.

The only way that seems possible is by making my own path and obliterating the one others believe I should follow. I’m too talented, gifted and smart to be put in anyone’s box. Hell… you should feel like that too. Don’t let no one tell you what you can and can’t do. I’ve said it before, but I’ma say it again for the ones in the back, “Do you boo!” Forget about what other people think you’d be better off doing. Live your days the way you choose. Have fun, make s*** loads of money, ride an elephant, visit the Bermuda Triangle. The point is to live freely and unapologetically. Don’t leave this earth regretting you didn’t do this or that because you were trying to make someone else happy. Who’s responsibility is it to make you happy?…. YOU!!!! That’s who.

Stop making your happiness about someone else, because happiness comes from within. That goes both ways, you can’t make someone internally happy; that’s up to them not you.

So this weekend throw one back for me. I hope you enjoy yourself. Hell, get in a little trouble while you’re at it. Not too much though.

Also just want to think all of ya’ll that mess with me the long way. I know somedays you may not know the Shadrieka you’re going to get, but you still keep coming back and I thank you immensely for that.

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The Pressure!

Good, Good Morning, My Beautiful People!!!!

Hope everyone is doing well and finding different things to keep you busy that’ll pay off in the end.

Have you ever felt that you were trying to be your true authentic self, but there’s something holding you back, you just don’t know what it is?

I’ve felt that way for a long time. There are things I would love to do but don’t because I’m so concerned with how people would perceive me. I’m sure a lot of us go through these feelings on a regular; but it’s up to you to not let them take over your actions.

Ever day I have tried to be more of myself. I tell you, it has been a whole lot easier because there hasn’t been many expectations. Mainly because I’m not around a lot of different people everyday since this quarantine started. In many ways it has been a great thing for me because I suffer from extreme anxiety; always have ever since I was a little girl. And as you may already have guessed I’m an introvert; so spending time by myself is A okay with me.

But, the great things that have come out of being under quarantine are being able to spend time with family and really getting to know me. There’s so much I didn’t know about myself. I mean, I know we’re with ourselves’ everyday; but many time we really don’t take the time to get to know us. That may sound a little crazy but it’s the truth. Many of us go through life just existing, not really taking into account what we truly want and how we would love to live. We endure unfortunate things daily. That’s why I’m sure many of us only know how to do one thing; and that’s survive.

The reality is; there is so much more you can do other than survive. Try living, that is the greatest gift you could ever give yourself. Give yourself permission to be exactly who you’re supposed to be, without a second thought to what the next person may say. Keep in mind, you are the only one living in your skin; there for you are the only one accountable for your actions and happiness.

 Never let your happiness depend on someone else’s idea of you.

Question of the Day: What steps are you going to take that’ll help you live care-free?

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Experiences

Boundaries?

Good morning!!!!

Hope you’re having fun. Remember everyday is a new opportunity to have a better one.

 

Boundaries Self Love Necklace Set | Bryan AnthonysWhat I wanted to get into with you today is; “Boundaries or the lack there of”. What are healthy boundaries? How do you know when you don’t have any boundaries? What happens as a result of not having them?

 

When you have boundaries you have the strength to say “No” without feeling you’re doing the other person a disservice. Also you have less stress, and as a result of being less stressed you typically are less angry. Which are all great things. The other great things are  you have the tendency to take better care of yourself and you’re very self aware. These are things that can help you live your life more affectively.

Maintaining Healthy Boundaries - KWSO 91.9As for what healthy boundaries look like; taking responsibility for your actions and emotions. Non-healthy boundaries are when you blame someone else for what was not in their control. Also when you take responsibility for something you had nothing to do with. Living this way isn’t going to be easy in the least, that’s why you have to develop boundaries.

Without them we absorb other peoples’ energy without intending too. This in turn cases us to stress. As a result of stressing we also agree to things we really want to disagree with, feel responsible for other peoples actions and continue to be mistreated or abused.

If you haven’t noticed, boundaries are a very important when it comes to selfcare. They have everything to do with the way we perceive ourselves and those around us. 

Something else that may happen because of your lack of boundaries is; getting taken advantage of. Some of you may not realize this but this happens a lot. Let’s say, you have someone who has no boundaries and will do anything for the next person. Many times people do this because they feel they haven’t done enough unless they’ve given their all. When in reality someone who has boundaries will not go above and beyond because they understand and know how much they’re whiling to give.

Where as people who lack boundaries get angry with people who have healthy boundaries because they’re expecting that same level of selflessness. People with boundaries understand their self worth and are less likely to be taken advantage of because of their understanding of their value. Tattooforaweek.com on Twitter: "When you're trying to love people ...

Question of the Day:

“How has not having boundaries effected your life?”

 

 

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Check-In

SIKE!!!!

Good Morning !!!!!

Yep, I Can Feel It, I'm Going To Lose My Shit. GIF - GoingToLoseMyShit HeathLedger TheDarkKnight GIFsHope everyone is doing well and this quarantine isn’t getting to you in the worst way. I really hope you’ve found some way to cope with the monotony of our NEW everyday life.

Alcohol sales up amid coronavirus pandemicRecently I heard alcohol sales have spiked. “I guess so; there’s nothing to do!” Well there are thing to do, it’s just that they aren’t things that require you to attend different events unless it’s virtual. Also people who already have internet business’ or have wanted to start a business in the past have taken this opportunity to do so.

Another thing, there’s going to be a S*** load of newborns at the top of next year. I’m sure if you’re stuck in the house with your spouse there’s going to be some hanky-panky going on. What "demographic decline"? American women are having plenty of ...

The funny thing is, the “Government” started off trying to control the population. Supposedly we have to many people on earth. But then again they didn’t want women to get abortions. To be honest trying to figure out their end game is giving me a headache. I’m sure that’s the way they want it to be, because if you can’t predict their next move how are you going to intercept their agenda? I guess that’s another question for another time.

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Well I would love to know how you all feel about all these different things that have been going on in the world. Please make sure to leave a comment.

Question of the day: If marijuana was legal in your state would you be a regular consumer? Why or why not?

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Is Content King?

Executive Forum - Performance Leadership InstituteEveryday you hear the infamous saying, ” Content is King?” When I heard that saying I thought they meant the content you produce has to be better then those in the same field as you; but that isn’t even close to what they’re saying. What really is meant by this saying is, “If you put out content on a consistent bases you’ll learn more and in turn will grow from your consistency.”

All these years I believed my content wasn’t up to par. Mainly because I wrote from a place of experience and feeling and others write from facts or gossip. Gossiping or bringing down someone for the betterment of myself was never a thing of mine. If possible I love to build people up whenever I get the chance. It makes me feel good to make others feel good.

That’s why I started this blog; to keep a journal of different things I’ve encountered through out the years, also I just love to write. Through writing I realized I’m the same way whether you meet me in person or we were just chatting online; I’m always gonna find some way to pour into everyone I encounter. I just feel pouring into others sometimes is as good as  pouring into yourself.

Like I was saying, “Content is King” in the sense that you consistently produce bodies of work for others to consume, so you can continue to grow throughout the process. Never be afraid to start.

Real failure comes when you don’t try. 

Give yourself that chance to be great. Who know you could possibly when a Noble Peace Prize or what you thought would mean nothing to anyone meant something to everyone. In this games you have to be brave enough to fall on your face a couple of times. Eventually you will get there, just keep on trying.

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Authentic Living

Start living your Authentic life — Glitter N' Grace

Good Morning!!!!!

There are a lot of things I could chose to write about; Covid-19 (I’m sure we’re all tired of hearing about that, I know I am), love or the lack of it, My Ex getting on my last damn nerve! (That one came in a really close second). But I’m not going to talk about any of those things today. What I want to talk about today is about being yourself and knowing your natural self is good enough to be with or around anyone.

That’s something I had to be reminded of last night while talking to my Mom. She made it clear to me how I come across on camera and on my podcast is very monotoned and boring, but I’m nothing like this in person. I told her the reason for that is; I don’t want to be judged. The truth is your going to get judged regardless. So you might as well have fun creating and stop second guessing yourself.

Authentic Living Quotes & Sayings | Authentic Living Picture QuotesFor a long time all I wanted to do was some type of entertainment. Not so much visually, I wanted to do things like Podcasts, blogs and books. But I realize while I  want those things to flourish I’m going to have to put myself out there consistently . Not just that, I’m also going to have to be me with no apologizes.

I guess it is true; “There is no better time then now.” So if there’s anything that you’ve wanted to do for ages and haven’t because you were fearful of the outcome; there is no better time then now.

Hell, you’re stuck out home anyway. You might as well make it count for something.

Also, no one ever got anywhere happily by doing and being what others wanted. After all there is no one like you out there, so learn to bless every and anyone you meet with your natural beautiful self. Anything else would be a disservice to you and to them.

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Shopify Store Coming Soon!!!!

Good Morning,

Hope everyone woke up happy and healthy this morning.

I wanted to speak about something other than the coronavirus. Although I have a lot of thoughts on the subject, I’m going to keep them to myself, for now.

Well as you know I opened an Etsy shop not to long ago. I thought at the time that was the best way to go, but it has proven to be uneventful. Mainly because all the fees that come with the platform. I know they have to pay bills too. But damn! I need to get some kind of return on investment.

I just felt like I was putting in too much work for them to be benefitting like a fat rat. I mean that may be how business works for many other people. But I’ve decided I can not do all of that and receive peons!!! So I’ve decided to move to another platform; Shopify. You know, do my on thing. I know there are going to be taxes at the end of the year, but at least I have the chance to see the profit.

Ya’ll wish me luck!!

I have never wanted something so bad and felt so close but yet so far at the same time. I know with time things will begin to work in my favor, I just have to stick with it.

The shop isn’t currently ready. But don’t worry, I’ll make sure to provide an announcement when it is.

if you didn’t know, I sale handmade soaps. Many are made with essential oils and others are made with fragrances. None of the soaps are made with any type of animal bi-product. All soaps are made with natural oils such as unrefined coconut oil or premium olive oil, along with other natural oils.

As I stated on my shops front page, every bath or shower taken with a soap from Heavenly Scents is an experience. Don’t believe me? Try one.

Ever since I began making soap, it has been the only soap I’ve used. As a result of that I am constantly being told how soft my skin is and how good I smell. Sometimes people don’t even have to say anything, you can tell by how often they try to invade your personal space; which is often.

I’m not saying the smell lasts all day, but it will linger for an hour or more.

I’m hoping you will give it a try. I guarantee you will absolutely love this soap once you’ve tried it.

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Just Live

How is everyone doing today?!

As always I hope things are going in your favor.

I never know quite how to start out these posts. All I know is I have something I want to say….

I was a little amped this morning. Maybe it had something to do with me finally going to the gym. Well anyway, I was just thinking how I want life to be for me in the next couple of years There are so many things I want to change. First of all, I want to roll out of bed and already be at work. Working for myself is the goal. Like I have said before, time and time again.

I’m working towards the goal I have set forth for myself. I’m sure it’s going to be a fun journey learning everything it entails being an entrepreneur.

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For many years I never pursued being the leader of my own company, because honestly I was to concerned about finding love. Well as I’ve said before, that time has passed. It’s now time for me to put myself first, learn me before I decide to give all my time and energy to someone else.

A lot of times we don’t realize this, but as women we have been brought up thinking that family and a husband is the thing to have; and if you don’t have that by a certain age you have failed.

That is a flawed way of thinking.

Thinking and believing that being someone’s other half is your life’s purpose leaves you vulnerable to all the time wasters and f*ck boys/f*ckgirls. What ends up happening is you start to question yourself (Well I know I did). You start thinking and believing that you aren’t good enough because most of these time wasters want to do just that; waste your time. But you as a woman have to be mindful of how much of your time you’re wasting on these people who aren’t looking for  the same things you are. If you’re not careful, you could easily loose your chance to have children, following behind someone who wants to play house but doesn’t want the responsibilities that come with it.

I started thinking long ago… “Do I really want to be married just for the sake of saying I have a husband?” I thought and thought about it for a long time. I actually had someone I wanted and thought I was going to marry; but the longer we stayed together the more it became clear to me that, that was something that was never going to happen.

You see, a lot of us look at these social media posts, the families, kids, husbands, big promotions, lavish gifts; and jealousy starts to stir in our spirit. The next time that happens, I just want you to think, ” What did they have to do to get (him, her or it). Keep in mind, ” All that glitters isn’t gold. You don’t know what is going on behind closed doors or what that person had to do to get that promotion or that huge house. 

It’s a sad reality, but many times people forget to live for themselves, because they’re too busy try to live for everyone else. So if there’s anything you take from this post, I would love for it to be ” Live everyday as your last. Without any inhibitions or doubt that the way you choose to live is wrong; because there is no right way,

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 Looking for a great read that has drama and a little ratchetness Loyalty, love, lies, & betrayal is the book for you. 

 

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