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Friend or Foe?

Have you ever been that person who completely immerses yourself into what other people want?

 

That was me. I always was making myself uncomfortable for other people. Partly because I thought no one would want to be around me if they knew how I really felt. I would push down my feelings constantly for fear of hurting someone else. I still do this, I just don’t engage in the behavior on a regular anymore. Partly because I’ve realized I wasn’t living for myself, if I constantly did what everyone else wanted or thought I should do.

The true problem comes in to play when other people think you should conform to what they think is best. What happens with that is when someone else is coming up with a solution, many times they’re going to come up with the solution that best fits their needs. Many times if you’re a caring and compassionate person you often times think how is this thing going to affect us all, not so much how can I get what I want from this person without even caring about their overall situation.

For example: Let’s say you had a friend or family member who came to you asking you to sign for a car. You don’t have to pay for it but they want to use your information to obtain it. Then when you tell them or make it plan you’re not going to do it, they cut you off and pretty much blame you for not getting said car. 

See the problem is I’ve given these people the feeling that they have dominion over me and THEY DO NOT! This is the life I have to live and the choices I have to make. If I had someone who said NO to me for something I asked for I would be a little upset but I wouldn’t stop talking to them because of it. But I guess that is just me. It took a very long time for me to get to this point. Before people would ask me to do things and I would do them and pay the consequences later. When these things were going on, do you think the ones who got me into these situations tried helping me to get out of the trouble I got in? No! When ever I went through something I had to get myself out of it or call my family to help me out.

Don’t miss understand what I’m saying, I have friends I know would have my back and then there are others I thought were there for me  but were only there to see me fall and to take from me in the process. Some people are only friends when they reap benefits from being associated with you. 

There are some people I knew weren’t going to be loyal, but I still gave them the chance to show me a different face and they failed. On another note, I’m going to try to move past this and concentrate on the many things I’m sure will be coming my way in the future.

Had to vent. Hope you did not mind. eliminate 

 

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Gullible

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Like I say, “I never know how to start these things out.” There is so much on my mind. When is there not?

Gullibility Test Cartoons and Comics - funny pictures from ...Recently I was thinking of how you have people who come into your life that main intentions are to use you. You don’t see it at first because you’re trying to give them the benefit of the doubt. It makes it even worse when you’ve known that person for years and realize you were nothing more than a check on their to do list.

I myself always try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt. That’s why I got taken advantage of so many times growing up, not just in relationships but with ‘friends’ that turned out to be mere acquaintances. At the time I couldn’t see clearly. I thought helping others out was a requirement if you called that person your friend; so I did what I could, most times. Many times giving too much of myself for the benefit of others. At the time I thought everyone cared just as much about me as I cared about them. The older I become the more I realized, that wasn’t the case. Now I know everyone wasn’t raised like me.

There are people that I’ve grown up with that will never see me more than where I came from. It hurt to come to that realization, but it is what it is. There’s nothing I can do about it. All I can do is live my life the best I know how.

gullibility hashtag on TwitterIt amazes me to know there are people that will take any bit of compassion they feel or see from others and turn it into a weakness. For many years I’m sure those around me thought because I’m compassionate and kind that I’m weak. That could be no further from the truth. See my compassion makes me that much stronger; because whether you realize it or not it takes strength to be vulnerable. Strength comes from the love, care, devotion, and compassion you display towards others, regardless of circumstance.  It’s easier to be mean because you’re basically shutting yourself off, then only allowing those in, you believe won’t hurt you.

Don’t misunderstand, I get why some people live their lives that way; I just can’t. I love to spread love so even though I can’t stand men right now, doesn’t mean I’m gonna be a bitch to them because of my past encounters with other men; just means I’m gonna be more selective about the type of men I choose to interact with. Same thing with friends, I’m not gonna cut myself of from making new friends. I’m just going to be more selective about who I call my friend.

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