Another rainy day here in WPB FL. I’m not here for it. I don’t want to end up with a cold by the end of the day.
As always I hope you all are getting everything and anything you’ve always wanted because the possibilities are endless! It’s us that seem to put limitations on the things we’re capable of doing and receiving. When in reality our limitations are endless. I’m sure some may think it’s a little bit of an airhead thing to say, but it’s true!
Society has taught a great deal of us to continuously live in lack. So instead of trying to change that outlook many of us learn to work around it. We get drunk, over eat, become addicted to certain things we use to escape our current reality; during the times we’re supposed to be creating or making room for our blessings.
Many of us have become so present in our physical world to the point were that’s all we see. We start to believe, “If they don’t like me then I need to find a way to make them like me.” When in reality it’s not up to us how that person feels toward us. What we have to understand is, no matter how great of a person we are to some, they’ll never like you…. and that’s Okay!
The goal is to concentrate on you and make sure you’re a solid human being. My NEW mantra, “Selfcare is the best care.” Reason being, if you can’t take care of yourself how are you going to take care of someone else.
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We go through different parts of life thinking; ” If I could just get over this hump and move on to the next stage, I’ll be happy.” The problem with that type of thing is, if you’re always waiting on the next stage, how are you going to be happy? You need to live how you choose NOW!!!
Knowing and feeling in your heart you are meant for greatness; then settle for something you feel is not suppose to be your life, is a CHOICE. I get you may have to work to take care of others and yourself. That isn’t all life is about.
It’s so easy to fall in that trap of thinking; you’re not suppose to be having fun, because people around you are struggling. But the truth of the matter is; if they really wanted a better, more fulfilling life, they would put their selves in the path for great things to happen. You can’t say; “Life has been so hard for me and so easy for you.” You never know what the next person had to go through, in order to get to the place in life they’re at. Many times if someone made it, it’s because of their hard work and refusing to give up; that’s a must. There’s no way you can go through life without going through some type of hardship. If you’re thinking you can, life will definitely remind you otherwise.
As we all know money is the thing that makes the world go round. So stop believing that it’s the root of all evil because it isn’t. It’s what you do with it that determines that.
Inconclusion, the next time you’re feeling guilty because you’re doing what you’re suppose to; making that money, working hard, and enjoying life; don’t. You’ve earned the right to live the way you choose.
Life is all about Choices. What do you Choose?
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I saw something I thought didn’t happen as much with men as it does with women. That was men dealing with abusive women. I didn’t know abusive women were so wide spread. It seems men get abused almost as much as women. The unfair thing when it comes to the law is, they’re usually seen as the potential abuser if the police were to be called during an altercation. What a lot of people don’t understand is men aren’t protected under the same set of laws when it comes to something like that. It’s even worse when it involves people of different ethnic groups.
Time after time things are done to men that aren’t looked at as abuse because in most cases, it’s a woman doing it to a man. For instance, if a woman out of anger slaps her husband or boyfriend across the head, it’s not seen as abuse. But if the tables were turned and a man did that to a woman it would be seen for what it is. It shouldn’t matter what gender the person is. What’s sad, we have been conditioned to think when a woman hits a man it’s comic relief some how. Beating on someone is never funny. I remember a couple of weeks ago I saw this clip on Facebook of a woman dumping food on her man’s head and also throwing objects at him, because he wanted to do something she didn’t agree with. I have to say, the way she handled that situation was childish. If you have a disagreement while in a relationship you are suppose to be adult enough to talk out your problems. Not throw a temper tantrum because you can’t get things your way. I have to admit though, when I was younger I engaged in that type of behavior. Believe me, I’m not proud of it but that was a chapter in my life that will never be repeated because I’ve learned if you feel the need to put your hands on someone your in a relationship with, that isn’t the person for you or you need help to resolve your issues. For me, I needed to get away from that person because he caused me to turn into something I no longer recognized.
In other cases with men dealing with abusive partners, they have to humble their selves immensely in order to keep the peace because they don’t know what might set their partner off. When you have to tiptoe around someone it’s never good or healthy. There’s no reason you should feel like you’re walking on eggshells when you’re with someone you love or are getting to know romantically. But a lot of men stay because they’ve been taught that a man is suppose to be able to take a hit. Not only that, a lot of times their ego has a lot to do with the reasons they stay. Reason being, most men don’t want to look soft in front of another man. So instead of being open about getting abused by their partner they’ll lie, try to make it seem like everything is okay, just so they can save face. But there’s a big problem with that way of thinking. You could get badly injured messing around with someone that has no concern for your wellbeing. But there’s something worse that could happen while with an abusive partner, doesn’t matter if it’s a male or female abuser. They could bring death upon you.
That’s something a lot of people in abusive relationships don’t keep in mind. All it takes is for the abuser to feel like you deserve to get hit or punched or sometimes hit by a car, what ever it is. Is it worth your life?! Do you love this person that much?! They hit you a little too hard or choked you just a little too long. Is it worth it?!
I never understood people that could literally go to bed with someone that just beat them or choked them. Aren’t you afraid that you’ll go to sleep and never wake up? I’m sure people who deal with someone like that has to be fearful every minute of everyday. That is no way to live. You’re suppose to be happy and enjoying life, not being someone’s physical or emotional punching bag. Yes, there are emotional abusers too. Those are the people that dump on you to make themselves’ feel better. The point is, if the person doesn’t make you happy or makes you happy but you’re either fearful or sad most of the time, it’s time to let them go. This life is too short to deal with unnecessary pain and discomfort. Although you think you’ll never find anyone that makes you feel like they made you feel, press on!No matter how they make you feel when things are good, it doesn’t matter because they have a problem and need to get help. The sad thing is, as long as you continue to tolerate it, they’re going to keep pushing the limits because you continue to put up with it. In a lot of ways it’s like teaching a child what’s right and what’s wrong. You wouldn’t let your child get away with it, so don’t let them. Put them in their place and stand your ground. Don’t let fear trap you and make you stay with someone that doesn’t deserve you.
I’m sure you’re probably thinking, “Why does she care?” I care because someone really close to me went through years of abuse with almost every person they entered into a relationship with. I believe that’s another reason why I’m so sensitive to other peoples emotions. It was no fun watching someone you love and know deserves so much more, go through having their legs broken because they were thrown from a moving car or constantly having black eyes because their partner was having a bad day. There were countless things this individual went through. I don’t know how they did it, but I’m so thankful they did. Most people that go through hard times like this for years, sometimes decades, commit suicide. I’m so happy they saw the light before their was any, and realized they were worth so much more than any person in relationships with them ever made them feel.
To whomever reads this, I hope this post helps you in some way to acknowledge you deserve better. Man, woman whatever, everyone deserves happiness and someone that’s going to make them feel wanted, needed, loved, protected and safe. If you’re in a relationship and the person can’t offer that, there’s no need in wasting your time or energy.
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I always wondered, ‘Why is it most of us don’t go after what we really want in life?’ I think it has a lot to do with feeling limited. I may be wrong but it just feels like limitations are the culprit. We shouldn’t feel limited but society has a good way of making you feel that way. It could be something so simple as your mom saying, ” Make sure you get a good job so you don’t have to work hard like me”. Although that isn’t the worst example but it is already conditioning you to believe that is the only thing that you should strive for is “a good job”, when you know that you are capable of so much more. You may not just want to be an employee but an owner of your own business, it’s possible. One thing you have to realize is there is always going to be a cap placed on you and what your capable of. The key is to not play in to it. Set your own goals and aspirations. Stop allowing people to chip away or define how great you can be, because only you know your limitations.
There are countless people I speak to daily that want to do so much more with the time that they are given but never do them because they are always afraid of someone looking at them different, disagreeing with what their passion has led them to do, and etc. Something so simple as ‘fear’ stops us from fulfilling our dreams. I can’t act like I’m not guilty of letting it affect my life because I have. There are so many things that I wanted to do when I was younger that I did not do because of fear. It can be debilitating at times, makes you just want to crawl up into a ball and not deal with life, and for some it can make them so paranoid that the only thing that they want to do is end their life. In many ways fear is a lot like a really bad drug that can have you taking a back seat to your life because you haven’t figured out how to take charge and live fearlessly. If we all started to think more positively about the possibilities and less about the negative out come we would all be so much happier.
Have you ever realized that when your in a bad mood everything seems to get worse? That’s because you are attracting negative energy. What we think of has a direct impact on how we feel. So if you constantly think negatively you are going to almost always have a negative outlook on life, and because of that it stifles you from everything positive that you are suppose to acquire over your lifetime.
Inconclusion, fear can also be a motivator, you just have to know how to make it work for you. Most times that means you have to do the very thing your afraid of. Most likely after you’ve crossed that hurdle the fear dissipates and you question your self why you were afraid to do it in the first place. Truth is 9 times out of 10 things are always way worse in your head than reality. So the next time you want to do something and your brain is telling you not too, push those negative thoughts out of your head and do what is going to make you happy.