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Not Feeling It

Hope everyone is doing better than me this morning.

I’m just gonna say it…… I’m not feeling it.

I don’t feel like being in anyone’s face today. I really just want school to be over. I’m thankful for the job. I have to keep saying that, because I know how easy it is for your complaints to cancel out your gratitude. But like I stated on previous posts, “I know I was meant for a whole lot more than this.”

In all my years on this earth, I’ve never had a job that I’ve loved let alone liked for more than a month. I always try to figure out whether my reason for not liking it is do to my mental battles or because the job  really isn’t a fit for me. To be honest I could fit in almost anywhere, because I work hard where ever I go. But lately working hard doesn’t give me the same feeling it use to. I use to feel like I accomplished something. But now, all I feel is empty. I know that is due to me working hard for others but never really receiving any kind of promotion or accolades because of my hard work. I’m sure some of you have been there. You know, doing all you can to show you appreciate your job and that you’re grateful to be working. The only problem that I’ve come to realize about this over and over is; when your boss realizes that you need the job, they begin to treat you that way. If you haven’t experienced that type of treatment I pray you never do. That type of treatment is usually void of respect and consumed with their needs. After a while, depending on what kind of person they are, your needs or concerns get canceled out all together. They start to believe what ever they decide, you will be okay with. So they don’t bother to ask you. In many ways it could be considered your fault they’re treating you that way.

I’m sure you may not think it’s your fault, because you’re the one providing the service and doing your job to the best of your ability. But one thing you have to keep in mind, people treat you based on what you show them. Not based on what’s right or wrong. So in retrospect, most people are only doing what their designed to do (take advantage of the weakest link). 

I had way more to say. But I guess I’ll save it for another post.

I hope you have  beautiful, life changing, positive day.

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You know how you want to write sometimes and you aren’t inspired to do so? That’s me right now. I wish I had something I wanted to talk about, but I’m not inspired by many things these days. The only thing that continues to inspire me is the hate that I have for a 9 to 5 job life. That’s one thing that I hate and have always hated, because I like to work on my own time. And you can’t do that when you’re employed by some company that decides when you come to work and when you are done and can leave. It’s like as long as you get paid for punching in and out of their clock, they own you.

If you think the way I do, this can lead to health problems; such as anxiety, high blood pressure, stress, and depression. Reason being, you know that you can do so much more with your time, but you have to work in order to pay your bills. That is the misfortune of being a dreamer. People who are dreamers/ entrepreneurs have so many ideas that go through their head in one day, that when it comes to working for an hourly wage it almost feels like you’re getting taking advantage of. You know why? Because thinkers/ dreamers/ entrepreneurs are over qualified for a lot of things. The only problem is, no one really knows what they’re truly qualified to do because their knowledge and thought process involves so many things. Also because most dreamers don’t get degrees in the things their most good at. They learn to pick up trades along the way.

So many of us have spent years on top of years in school, and by the time you graduate, that thing you got a degree in isn’t the thing you’re most passionate about. Little known fact, most people get degrees in high paying professions because it’s what they’ve been led to believe is the right thing to do. That is, if they want to guarantee they live a financially stable life. Although some people are okay with going to school for something the could care less about, there are some of us that can’t lie to ourselves.

Many millennials’ are finding ways around the 9 to 5, and I applaud them for that. At times it seems like it’s easier for someone born in the 90’s to get ahead. I understand that we all can get out here and put our own self on, but some times you don’t have that confidence to take it there. Another thing, if you’re someone who looks to others for validation it’s going to be extremely hard for you to get out there and start doing your own thing. I’m sure that’s what’s stopped me so many times, because I was looking for someone to validate me. Take a Q from me, that is not the way to go. If you want to be successful you have to go out and do what ever it is your heart desires, without the thought of someone disapproving. No matter how good you are, there’s always going to be someone telling you that you’re trash. That’s why you have to believe in yourself and your peers will follow.

  For example, I had a customer, her and I were talking for a little while, and she mentioned she was on vacation. Then some how the conversation led to me talking about wanting to get a job online. When I said that, I realized it was something she couldn’t understand. She looked at me like I had three heads. At the time I didn’t understand why she was opposed to it. But soon I understood she couldn’t understand it because it wasn’t an avenue she was capable of taking when she was younger. So something like working from home to her seemed lazy and not a real job. But, I came to my own conclusion, what other people think about what I choose to do is no longer my concern. Truth be told, what they think isn’t going to further my financial freedom or pay my bills. So I have to do what is right for me and trust my own instinct and passion, as you should.

You only get this life once, while you’re in it, find a way to live it the best way you know how.

 

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Be Your own Boss

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Hey Guys! Hope everyone is well.

Would you believe that I ran my course of being unhappy?

 I know you’re probably like, ‘How are you going to say when you’re going to be happy?’ That’s because I’m going to take a conscience effort to be happy. Too many days I’ve let other peoples opinions dictate the way I live. I’m sure I’m not the only one. A lot of us go through this. But, you know what? That isn’t the only thing that plays a part in how I feel about myself and my life, lively hood is another source of my unhappiness. I realized long ago that the regular 9 to 5 is not for me. I’m a creator, I love to create and you can’t really do that effectively when you’re working in a place that drains the life and creative energy out of you. Being on this vacation for the past week and a half has confirmed everything I thought.  Which is, I feel extremely free knowing that there is no where that I have to be. Also, I can choose my method of financial freedom. Everything that is worth it, is going to take a lot of time and effort, if you want those dreams and aspirations to manifest. There is no easy way around it. I’ve always known that I have to buckle down and do what is necessary if I want my life to change for the better. bossed up.png

   That’s what I hope to remind you; things can always be better. If there’s something going on in your life you don’t like, change it. Who says you have to be miserable all your life. Remember, there are people out here that have found ways to live there best life. There’s no reason you can’t too. If you would like to act, write, direct, dance, and any other way you can think that will make you happy, go for it. It’s better to try and fail than to never try at all. When it’s all said and done, you’re going to look back and say I shoulda, coulda, woulda. And that’s the last thing you want to happen. It’s not like you can get the time back and do it all over again. Why not do it now, when you’re young and physically capable to live out your dreams? Like they say, ‘There’s no time like the present’. joker

 I’m not only saying this, I plan to live it. At this very moment I’m taking steps to live my life on my terms, and you should too. Why should you live life under  someone else’s thumb? Letting them tell you what you can and can not do, deciding if you deserve a raise for all the hard work you’ve put in to their company. Why go through all that just to become more unhappy because your idea of your work ethic doesn’t line up with their actions? When you know that you’ve been a great employee, working to elevate their business. Many times sacrificing your health and time because you want that recognition of a job well done. The sad thing is, most times it goes unnoticed, because your boss has come to expect the best from you. That is, if you’re some one that always has to give 200% to every project you do. That’s why many times they give that recognition you worked so hard for to some one that shows half the effort, because they figure it’s better to keep you in your same position, rather than promote you because they know the work is going to get done and most important you need that job. Another thing, if you’re someone that has kept or likes to keep a job for long periods of time without finding another that elevates you over time, to your boss it looks like you’re less of a risk than someone who jumps from job to job. Most times the risk these people take pays off in the end, because it shows the employer two things: they’ll take a risk when they think it’s needed and they’re not afraid of change.work

That’s why if you’re a person that likes stability, and has a passion for creativity, being an entrepreneur could be the right move for you. I say ‘could be’ because some people don’t want to take the risk or put in the time to be their own boss. Once it does happen for me, I’m sure it will be beautiful, as it will for you. That is, if you decide to take the plunge.

Below are Books for those of you that may want help finding the right direction

1.) Start Your Own Business

2.) Entrepreneurial Success

3.) The Entrepreneur’s Guide to keeping your Sh*t together

I hope you find value in at least one of these 4 books. Also, there are other places you could look for inspiration. Some of them could be YouTube, Instagram, your own website, seminars, Tumblr. The list is endless. Inspiration could strike at anytime for anything. Just remember to take your chance.

I love you all! Thanks so much for the support. 

If you would like to read more post like this, Check out Living Fearlessly, and The Price of Employment

 

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Learning To Let Go

You work and work for years, for someone else’s company. Only to find out that you could get fired for their computer’s mistake. That is close to the process that I’m facing at this time.

high bossLet me start from the beginning. I work for this big retail chain that has employed so many people, but are also quick to let go so many people. I’ve been working there for almost half my life. Not that I want to be there, but like I say, “It’s a job.” Plus I’m too lazy and comfortable to look for another one. Truth is I knew that this day would come sooner or later. Not to mention, I’ve been wanting to quit for the longest. Maybe this is my way out. I was just hoping to have something else going for myself. That’s why I have been working at tryin to grow this blog, because it’s something I love to do. Like I always say, “It’s better to get paid to do something you love rather than something you can’t stand.” At first, working there wasn’t so bad. But the longer I stayed the worse it seemed to get over the years. Before, my place of employment use to care about the people they served and the people that worked for them. When the owner died, that all changed. Now it’s all about money.

I’m sure that is what a lot of businesses are about, but that isn’t the main focus. Most companies at least have an after thought of the customers experience. This company cares nothing about the customers let alone the employees. The sad part about it is, they have realized people are going to continue to shop there because it’s a one stop shop. So, the complaining and video taping is going to do nothing. I’ve also noticed most times customers lie on employees because they’re trying to get a free gift card. That is beside the point. But they do this and they don’t seem to realize that the only thing the company is doing is pacifying them, making sure that they’re going to keep coming back to spend their money in a store that could care less about them. Some customers probably know this, but are not going to stop shopping there because of convenience. I mean really, ‘Who wants to go to a whole lot of other stores to get everything you need when you could just go to one?” Not me, but I will to prove a point.kf

 

But I’m getting away from the point of this whole blog. Like I said I have been working there for years and something happened that proves that it wasn’t my mistake. The company’s machine has been glitching and adding extra money on to customers cards. The good thing is, I’m not the only person that has experienced the glitches. So that helps me to have a stronger argument of why it wasn’t my mistake. This has also happened to a co-worker of mine, twice . The only thing is, her customers caught the mistake and told her, mine didn’t. So, now I’m faced with losing my job if anything else happens and I’m involved. At this point I’m asking myself if it’s even worth it. I know it isn’t. People tell me everyday that I’m too intelligent to do the type of work I do. Truth be told, I know that. I just don’t want to leave that job to go to another, because working for someone else wasn’t the plan. I wanted to have my own business. I’m not going to loose focus of that either. I refuse to loose site of what I really want for this life. I’m not going to get caught up in the negative things that this world is trying to feed me. I know that there is a bigger purpose for this life of mine. I’m just going to try to stay positive and work on bettering me. I’m just thankful that someone else has been experiencing it, so that they won’t be able to put it all on me.

I love you all, and I hope you have a blessed and beautiful day.

 

Thanks For Reading!!

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Let Your Haters Be Your Motivators

32730414-stuck-in-a-rut-words-on-a-sign-in-a-hole-or-pit-to-illustrate-complacency-and-comfort-zone-and-a-neeHave you ever been stuck in a rut, and didn’t know how you were going to get out? That was me before I started writing this blog. Day after day I would go to work and hate it. Don’t get me wrong I still hate it. But finding something I like to do, that also connects  with others makes it all more bearable. Just to give you some knowledge as to what I do, that’s if you’ve never read any of my blog posts before. I work in retail, have been for over 13 years. Believe me, it wasn’t my first job choice but it gave me a check. That being said, I know that is the only reason I stayed, that and fear to try something different. But as the years passed I realized it wasn’t what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, so I made some moves. I started working another job while still having the first. The second job wasn’t as mentally draining as the first, but it was very draining physically. I can remember days I fell asleep on the road rushing from one job, just to get ready to go to the next. I’m sure I’m not saying anything new, because half of us has, had or are either looking for our second job, right now.

hamsterThat’s the one thing you shouldn’t do, get a second job. If anything, start something you can call your own. At least you know if you make a profit most if not all that money is going to you. I’m sure your probably like, “I don’t have money to start a business!” Truth is, some of the best business owners didn’t start out with that much money either, but they still persisted and made something out of nothing. It feels like that’s what a lot of us do not understand, as long as you have a vision and passion for making that vision a reality, there will always be someone interested in what you have to say, no matter the amount of haters. Just know, you’re definitely going to have people down playing or talking negatively about your efforts to make something out of yourself.  All because they’re afraid to go after what they want, like they say, ‘Misery loves company’.  That’s what you have to remember when you start talking to people about your dreams or plans to excel in life. Don’t let negative people deter you from what you know was put in you to do.

cage Prime example, This past Sunday I reached work took my first customer and the conversation with him led to my current ventures of promoting this blog. He said, “Don’t you think it’s a little too late?” At first it got under my skin and pissed me off, but instead of getting mad I replied with, “It’s never too late.” The way I viewed his response started to affect me, but I didn’t let it get that far. Maybe it was the coffee that had me in such a positive mood or I know that I’m gonna be alright because I’m finally doing what I was meant to do. Either way I know he responded that way because most of us are taught that once you’re in a job for a long time, you should work there up until retirement and collect a check. I’m sorry, that isn’t the way my mind works. The way I see it, you can change your mind, job, interest, anything, as long as you still have breath in your body. Age has nothing to do with that, and never let anyone tell you different. Most times people talk just to hear themselves talk, and more than half of the time they’re not saying anything of value. So I say to you, if you have a dream to do something that you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t, either because of fear or circumstance, just do it. You’re not getting any younger and you’re going to feel nothing but regret if you don’t. So live your best life  and stop allowing others to dumb you down.

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