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Intuitive Empath

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Image result for intuitive empathI don’t know if you heard this while you were growing up, “With age comes wisdom”. That has never been more true for me than now. Growing up I always believed people will treat you the way you treat them. As a result of that I became someone that learned to go with the flow. I’ve been told that is a good thing, but for me it hasn’t been. True it has gotten me out of a lot of situations unscathed, but it has also gotten me in some things I could have done without. Things like one sided relationships and friendships.

Many times people are able to see I’m a very inviting kindhearted person because of my actions and concerns for others. A lot of times I care for other people 10x more than I care for myself. When I was younger, even up until recently I saw that as a flaw, because I would always get taken advantage of. My concern was, I never wanted to hurt anyone’s feelings because I know how that feels. I always wanted to make others feel heard, loved, appreciated and happy. I guess the need for that is I wanted other people to provide those things for me.

The sad thing is, I realized and continue to realize that no matter how much I give of myself, people are not going to pour into me like I pour into them. Me expecting that to happen is like expecting someone to drop a million dollars in my lap. Truth be told, I think the million would be easier to get.

I’m sure other people have dealt with giving and giving and giving, just for others to continue to come up short. I guess that’s just the life of an intuitive empath. Not sure if you know what that is or if you even believe it’s a thing. For me it is a major thing to me. It helps me to understand myself that much more. Why I like certain things and why I feel certain energize from things, places, people, wild life; you name it I feel it.

But if you believe you may possess this gift have a little and take this test to find out if you’re like me an empath.

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Just know, you’re not going through life alone. There’s always someone who can relate to the trials and tribulations you’re going through. Sometimes you just have to branch out and find like minded people. Also learn not to wallow in your pain or discomfort. Allow yourself to feel the emotion then move on. You don’t thrive when you’re constantly fixated on the things that are going wrong. Things only begin to change when you put forth effort and keep a positive mind set. So if you want to live abundantly, you’re going to have to leave that negative Nancy mentality behind.

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Adulting

Healthy is a life style….

 

The first thing a lot of people think of when I say ‘Healthy is a lifestyle’ is their food intake. Although that is one aspect of healthy living it isn’t the only one. Healthy living consists of having great influential people in your life, positive thinking, being excited to live another day because you operate from a place of gratefulness and humility. Also making sure to take time for yourself is a must. Many times we have forgotten to take time for ourselves because we become so concerned with making sure the next person is okay. But how can you take care of someone else if you’re not?

Recently I’ve been thinking, ‘I would love to be a child again’. Reason being, this adulting thing is not what I thought it was going to be. I thought when you became an adult things get easier; but they actually get harder. Just think about it; when you were a child you woke up didn’t have a real worry because most times it was your parents doing all the  worrying. It was their responsibility to take care of you. So many times your day would be pretty easy. I know everyone did not have an easy up bringing. For the ones who did, you know exactly what I’m taking about.

Now you’re an adult and it’s like you’re stumbling and you can’t gain your footing to save your life. Most days are met with anguish and frustration because you have no choice but to do things you’re uncomfortable with to make life a little more bearable. Just incase you’re not following, here’s an example.

Paula is a friend, lover, and mentor. Even with being all these things she still hasn’t managed to find happiness. Sure she feels moments of happiness, but she hasn’t managed to recreate that feeling of happiness for herself. Many times she finds herself going through bouts of depression and anxiety. 

She later on realized her depression is caused by her financial situation. You see, Paula was very hard working. Truth be told this woman gave her all to her job, no matter what type of job it was. She stayed late, went above and beyond in every way, for others. Did not do the same when it came to herself though. It seemed she always got the short end of the stick, because people would love the work she did but it never reflected in her finances.

So one day Paula finally came to the realization she no longer wanted to work for others. She figured if she was going to be slaving for anyone it was going to be for herself. So she decided to start a pet grooming business. Besides, she always loved animals and knew she wouldn’t mind having them around her, because they brought love and peace. 

Months went by, and finally that dark feeling of depression stopped looming  over her. Finally she knew what it felt like to be internally happy. 

 

For some of us this may not be the case. You may be extremely happy with your financial situation. But my question is, “Are you happy with every area of your life?” If the answer is ‘No’ you got some work to do. 

 

Nothing is impossible. Every vision was given to you for a reason. What you do with it though is up to you.

 

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Learning To Let Go

How well do you know yourself?

I chose this as my opening statement because a lot of us deal with things, all because we believe we can’t or don’t deserve to have better. Or we just except our circumstances because we haven’t learned there are better ways of living.

I’m sure daily, you’ve gone through many unwanted, not so great feelings of emotion, that you’ve learned to stuff down, just to get through the day.

That isn’t they way life should be. You should never feel like, “I just need to get through it.”. Do you remember when you were a kid and all you could think of was what you would be able to do when you got grown?

Well, you’re grown now…. What are you doing about it? Do you have that life you’ve always dreamed of? Or are you living a life full of mediocrity, because you’re to scared to leave that box of comfort and complacency?

For a long time, I’ve let others determine how I walk my path in life. Not really taking on the responsibility of living the life I truly want, because I’m afraid of failing. But I’ve learned, failure is something I’m gonna to have to grow to except, if I want to make this life become that dream life I always wanted.

What I’ve learned on this two month vacation, I will take with me through life. During this time I really got to learn me all over again. What I learned during this time; I love people, I don’t like structured environments, I love freedom over any other feeling, and I’m strong enough without the aid of a relationship.

I have to say, learning all of this and gaining strength and confidence in myself is a gift I’ve always had, but because of past circumstances I lost that bold fun loving girl, I use to be. Because of those circumstances, I learned a long time ago how fit into the space I was given. For so long, I couldn’t express how I really felt, because there was always some form of retaliation once I did.

But the beautiful thing about becoming an adult is, you have more control over your energy, and who you allow to be in it. You don’t have to be around those people who bring you down, or the ones who only know you when they need something, or those “friends” who manipulate you into doing something you don’t want to. There isn’t anything wrong with shutting these people out of your life. Don’t let them make you feel like there is. Sometime you have to cut others off, so you can become the best version of “you”; and there’s nothing wrong with that. You even have Oprah telling you the same thing, so listen up and know those situations were given to you, so you could learn and grow from them.

Remember you have one life. What you decide to do with it is nobodies fault but your own. So when you get to the end of life; do you want to wonder would could have happened or are you going to have the balls to go out and make some s*** happen? The choice is yours.

Safe Never Got Anyone Anywhere.

If you are someone like myself who is or has developed an introverted personality; try everyday to change your reality. Sis it’s all in your head. The truth is, most people forget you as soon as you walk away; and chances are, you’re not doing anything they haven’t seen before, anyway. So get out your head and do you, without the fear of judgement; because the reality is no one’s judging you as hard as you’re judging yourself.

Love yourself enough to be free.

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Healthy Movement

I’ve been going to the gym for the past couple of days. I can’t really say why I feel the urge to go know, I just do. The only thing is, I hope to stay consistent. There have been many times I’ve started going and then stopped because of my really bad anxiety. But when I go, I feel 10x better than I feel when I don’t go. The sad part about it; I know I’m doing something that is going to help me live a better quality of life, it’s going to give me more energy, strengthen my brain, improve my sex life and a long list of other benefits.

Also if you don’t want to go to the gym, you have many more alternatives.

Improve Quality of Life by doing these Activities, Consistently.

  1. Rock Climbing
  2. Swimming
  3. Basketball
  4. Volleyball
  5. Dancing
  6. Take a walk
  7. Parasail
The possibilities are endless. The key is to get out and move.

Possible affects of getting older, without consistent MOVEMENT

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I can’t front, the main reason I’m becoming concerned with movement and exercise; I’m getting older. As a result of that, I’ve been feeling like I need to move more now; so I’ll be able to take care of myself later. I don’t want to be like a lot of people my age. Sad to say, I see a lot of them not doing to well. They usually are sick, or stiff (limited range of motion). Some of them are even to the point of having to have they’re children do everything for them. I don’t have any children, so that means I would either have to pay someone to take care of me or start taking care of myself now, so I can be active and mobile, all the way up to the time I’m suppose to leave this earth.
If I had one wish for anyone, it would be to live the life of your dreams and realize your health is your wealth. That’s something I’ve learned as I get older. Not that I have a handle on it yet, but I’m getting there.Related image
Growing up, when I was living with my Grandmas and Aunts, they cooked on the regular. When I started living with my Mom she didn’t cook as much because she had to work. So health wasn’t the focus; there was to much to manage other than what I and she ate. Not saying what my Aunts and Grandmas cooked was healthy. It was just that it was home made, unlike things you buy from some restaurants and fast food places. You never know what you could be digesting. That’s why I believe so many of us are overweight; for the mere fact, we are eating things that were never meant for our bodies to digest.
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That’s another reason I believe your favorite actress or singer looks so good; because they’re able to afford a lifestyle of eating well, while also being healthy.
In closing, I want you to think about your lifestyle and diet, and determine if it’s helping you or hurting you. If it’s helping, please continue what your doing. But if it’s hurting you and you want to live a full, long, free, blessed life; you need to change somethings, so you won’t have to check out early. I don’t know what it is about getting older. But you start to see your life so much clearer when you do.
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Be Blessed, and Live In The Moment…..