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Dream Life…..

Good Morning!

 

What’s up everyone?!….

 

           There is No life like the one you choose!

I’m sure many of you understand where I’m coming from. I heard this time and time again, but never really thought about it, until last night.

Lately I’ve been watching and listening to inspirational podcasts and shows. The even better thing about this is; the people I’ve been listening too look just like me. The reason this is important is because it helps me to know that there are NO road blocks in my way, only the ones I choose to create.

I’ve come to understand the reason I’m not living a life I desire and love is due to not putting in the work necessary to live a life of happiness. Many of us hate to admit it, but it’s the truth. How can you expect to be wealthy or living the type of life you dream of, if you’re not doing anything to work towards that dream.

Many of us day in and day out only do what is expected of us, because we’re in fear of standing out amongst the crowd and falling on our face. We find ourselves continuously going to a job we loathe because we live in fear of what might happen if we STOP!

I have allowed peoples expectations of me to dictate my moves all my life. This is something I’ve needed to work on for a very long time. I’m choosing to make a step to change my mindset, so that the concern others have over my life does not effect me decisions.

I’m sure you’re like, “Shadrieka you always say that!” It’s true. I have said that in the past, but this time I made a sold move by making an appointment to see a therapist. I’m hoping we’re a good fit and she can help me with my issues. You know, take away the fear of the constant changes you have to go through in order to evolve?

If peoples opinions and your negative self talk is keeping you in a negative mindset, to were you never act on the things you feel, maybe it’s time to make a drastic change. Because the life you desire is one you can have. It’s you who has to take that step to make it pssible.

 

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Do what you want always.

This sounds simple enough, right?… Well, this is a simple statement but is only obtainable when you’re completely comfortable with who you are. I believe this is so hard for a lot of us because many of us have become shells of ourselves.

Too often we let the outside world influence what we do and how we move through out the world. When in reality the only person on this earth you need to answer to is yourself. Life was meant to be lived and experienced fully. But what tends to happen is we get side tracked because life is happening to us and not the other way around.

I believe that’s why I admire the people who live life to the fullest, because they don’t allow outside influences to take them off their path. Even though life throws them lemons they still find a way to make lemonade.

At the current moment I’m working on adopting this trait. I mean really, what is better than moving through the world freely, uninhibited and living life on a whim? I truly believe I reached this consciences because the first half of my life was nothing to write about. But this second half is going to be another genre.

Regardless of what others say or are going to say about my choices I have to live for me. As so many other people have to live for themselves’. Too often we allow others power over us when they did nothing worthy of obtaining that occupation.

I guess that’s another reason why I don’t care for a 9 to 5. If I had my choice I most definitely would be moving through the folds of life. Not unemployed, but earning money on my own terms.

What is a Kumiho From Lovecraft Country? Jamie Chung's Character Is a  Mythical Korean FoxFor as long as I can remember I’ve always stood out even when I didn’t want too. In many ways I felt and still feel like Jamie Chung’s character in Lovecraft Country (Ji-ah). Aside from the killing and snatching souls (lol).

It’s a good thing to be different. But the world likes to make you think different isn’t good. I especially find this to be true when you aren’t living the role you were supposed to play. So many of us are unhappy because we have been taught only how to survive. Surviving helps you get through life, but it doesn’t help you LIVE IT!!

That’s where we go wrong. We’re too focused on making it through and not taking it upon ourselves to explore. It’s okay if you get it wrong. The lesson comes by applying what you’ve learned.

Don’t you want to feel ALIVE?! 

I know I do. That’s one of the main reasons I read so many self help books. I know reading may help me come up with how I want to go about living. But it’s up to me to put what I’ve learned and continue to learn in motion.

Change begins at the end of your Comfort Zone

So… are you living the life of your dreams? Or Are you merely existing?

As Always 

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Hi Possibilities! I’m here for it!

Good Morning Everyone!

I’m feeling pretty good today. There are so many things that are right with the world as there are so many things that are wrong with it. It all depends on your perception of the things around you. It’s so easy to see the negative when the positive is staring you straight in the face. I really never understood why that is. For that positive thing to stand out it has to be more positive than the negative is negative; if you understand where I’m coming from.

But other than positives and negatives, today is going to be the last day I’m going to be at my current residence. I have until the end of the month to move but I figured I would give the last week of peace to my roommate. For you who don’t know we started off in a relationship then the act he had been putting on the first couple of years became too much for him and that’s when he started showing his true colors. For a long time I thought I was over reacting when I had feelings of isolation and being smothered by his controlling ways. Then I got conformation from those around me that I was not crazy for thinking and feeling the way I did. They say what I so desperately did not want to admit; that he was controlling and not the right fit for me…..

I was going to say, ” I wish they would have said something sooner” but I understand why they did not; because they knew I wasn’t ready to hear it and as a result of that I would have possibly cut them out of my life. Then that act would have had me deeper entangled into his web of misery and control.

For the longest time I thought he was so controlling and judgmental because he wanted the best for me and because of the love he had toward me. Later I realized it was for his own peace of mind. See; he had been cheated on serval times and as a result he became paranoid and believed I would do the same. So going in I didn’t realize his foundation was tainted by all those past experiences he had with other women. See it didn’t matter how transparent I was through out, because in the end he accused me of cheating anyway.

So inconclusion I just want to say to the women and men in relationships you have to constantly prove your loyalty; you might as well quit while you’re ahead. I may be wrong but once a person comes into any kind of relationship not trusting the other person, people or thing they’ll never learn to let down their guard and let you in. It’s going to take a hard lesson to open their eyes. So don’t waste your time or energy repeatedly proving yourself to that person when you’ve done nothing wrong to begin with.

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Trust You!

GOOOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!!!!!

 

 

As always, I hope all is well and you are following the road less traveled, but the one that you feel in your heart belongs to you. Like I’ve said may times before; “You aren’t living unless you’re living a life of freedom and remain to be uninhabited by your surroundings.

Too many times we have been stopped from doing things we really have wanted to do because we were listening to the opinions of others. Sometimes it’s good to listen to others, but sometimes it’s not.

Let Your Brain Take the Road Less Traveled - The Human FactorMy whole life has been dictated by others. Mainly because I was afraid to take accountability for the things I chose. Cause this way I could sometimes do what I wanted, because someone suggested it and not get blamed for the outcome. But the only thing with that is sometimes people choose what you would have chosen, then other times they don’t. When that happens you’re focused with making the decision whether you are going to do what they suggest, or are you going to follow your own mind and do what you want to do anyway?

That’s why I’ve learned to follow my own advise. Don’t misunderstand me, I still ask people their opinion; but I don’t fall for the peer pressure of doing something because someone told me too. 

It’s gonna be a struggle at first, but you’ll be so happy once you learn to trust yourself. Cause what happens when you finally start following your own mind is; you stop being a follower and become a leader. In becoming a leader you also unlock you mind and finally give yourself the permission to be you, unapologetically. That is when the true beauty of living comes in to play.

 

Question of the day:What is something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t because of the opinions of others?

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The Beginning

Good Afternoon!!

How long have you been Loc’D? (It’s been 2 years for @homegrownlocs Gorgeous!
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#iamlocd #locs #locjourney #locd #starterlocs #interlocs #microlocs #interlocks #interlocjourney #homegrownlocs #locs #dreads #teamlocs #womenwithlocs #locstyles...Another day done in this quarantine. Y’all I got so bored and was thinking so much, that I decided to start my loc journey. I’ve been wanting to do this FOREVER. Given the amount of time we have off from work, I was like, “Why not?” I debated for a long time if I was going to get someone else to them, but eventually I decided I would do it myself. Not because of different energies; mainly because of convenience and expenses.

I have to admit, it was a lot easier than I thought it was going to be. I’m sure actually going through with the beginning process is the easy part. Everything that comes after is going to be the most challenging. For the people reading this who have locs they know what they had to endure during the beginning stages.

I don’t know exactly what I have ahead of me, but I am really looking forward to the ride. One thing I know for sure is there are going to be stares; partly because people are people and they’re always going to have an opinion if they don’t like something. But one thing I know I’m going to have to continue telling myself is, “I’m doing this for me, not for anyone or any other reason”. It’s going to be tough but I’m completely aware and ready.

Image result for two strand loc journeyAlso I’ve chosen to begin my journey with two strand twists. How it’ll look in a year I’m not sure but I’m excited to find out.

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Just Live

How is everyone doing today?!

As always I hope things are going in your favor.

I never know quite how to start out these posts. All I know is I have something I want to say….

I was a little amped this morning. Maybe it had something to do with me finally going to the gym. Well anyway, I was just thinking how I want life to be for me in the next couple of years There are so many things I want to change. First of all, I want to roll out of bed and already be at work. Working for myself is the goal. Like I have said before, time and time again.

I’m working towards the goal I have set forth for myself. I’m sure it’s going to be a fun journey learning everything it entails being an entrepreneur.

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For many years I never pursued being the leader of my own company, because honestly I was to concerned about finding love. Well as I’ve said before, that time has passed. It’s now time for me to put myself first, learn me before I decide to give all my time and energy to someone else.

A lot of times we don’t realize this, but as women we have been brought up thinking that family and a husband is the thing to have; and if you don’t have that by a certain age you have failed.

That is a flawed way of thinking.

Thinking and believing that being someone’s other half is your life’s purpose leaves you vulnerable to all the time wasters and f*ck boys/f*ckgirls. What ends up happening is you start to question yourself (Well I know I did). You start thinking and believing that you aren’t good enough because most of these time wasters want to do just that; waste your time. But you as a woman have to be mindful of how much of your time you’re wasting on these people who aren’t looking for  the same things you are. If you’re not careful, you could easily loose your chance to have children, following behind someone who wants to play house but doesn’t want the responsibilities that come with it.

I started thinking long ago… “Do I really want to be married just for the sake of saying I have a husband?” I thought and thought about it for a long time. I actually had someone I wanted and thought I was going to marry; but the longer we stayed together the more it became clear to me that, that was something that was never going to happen.

You see, a lot of us look at these social media posts, the families, kids, husbands, big promotions, lavish gifts; and jealousy starts to stir in our spirit. The next time that happens, I just want you to think, ” What did they have to do to get (him, her or it). Keep in mind, ” All that glitters isn’t gold. You don’t know what is going on behind closed doors or what that person had to do to get that promotion or that huge house. 

It’s a sad reality, but many times people forget to live for themselves, because they’re too busy try to live for everyone else. So if there’s anything you take from this post, I would love for it to be ” Live everyday as your last. Without any inhibitions or doubt that the way you choose to live is wrong; because there is no right way,

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Who Should Pay?

In this day and age it seems there’s a power struggle going on between men and women. A lot of men and women want to be taken care of, but at the same time want to have say so over their relationships.

My view on the whole thing; everyone’s’ needs can be met if we’re on the same page mentally. The sad part is, many of us get with people because we’re more concerned with their outer than their inner. This society is so mesmerized by how well put together or attractive someone is, they fail to find out what that person’s core values are. That’s where we mess up. I’m not gonna be like, ” Dude is ugly as f*** but I’m gonna still find out what he got in his head”.

I’m gonna be honest, that isn’t my initial thought. Usually if I date someone that isn’t attractive, they end up having a quality I found attractive to make me see differently. That’s how most of my relationships went, anyway. I’ve only dated someone visually attractive, once. The reason for that; many times people who are attractive and know they are, have big heads and I don’t need those problems.

But, getting back to the topic at hand. People date who they want. They marry who they want. We can have this argument until we’re blue in the face, but we’ll never be on one accord. One reason is everyone if asked would have a different opinion on the matter. You have some women who wouldn’t mind being the bread winner; the same is true for some men. All that really matter’s is if you’ve created a strong foundation.

If both are working to keep that relationship strong, there is nothing capable of breaking that bond. It’s not about who pays for this and who pays for that. It’s more of, ‘I got you and you got me’. Everything that we bring into the household and this partnership is both ours, equally. There’s no; ‘I make all the financial decisions because I make the money’ or ‘No sex because you’re not helping me around the house’.

If you have or are in a marriage or relationship were everything feels split down the middle; I want to let you know, that isn’t what you believe it to be. True committed relationships are when you have developed a union; a force to be reckoned with. Everything belongs to the two of you. There is no that’s mine and that’s hers. So until you can be that open you’re having experiences, that will eventually lead up to a relationship (hopefully).   

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Passion-Africa here we come!

“Now you wanna have some type of control over somebody!… I gave you the chance to lead. You didn’t want to. So now I’ve learned the strength is in leading myself; since I can’t trust you to do it!”

“That’s unfair!… When we got married we both were in our early twenties. I didn’t know anything about being the head of any ones household. I was learning and so were you.”

“I understand that and I knew that at the time. But when you said you wanted to entertain other women, it broke my heart! You don’t understand I would have done anything for you! But once you crossed that lined, the game completely changed.”

“If you didn’t want to go through with it, we didn’t have to.” This was the first time Kevall had taken the time to really listen to what his wife wanted; partly because he was afraid of loosing her. He knew this polyamory thing was going to come and bite him right in the ass one day. He just hoped this wouldn’t be the day.

“You say that now. But how many times had I told you I wanted you and only you, and that I didn’t need nor wanted anyone else?”

“A lot.”

That was me saying, ‘I don’t want to go through with this polyamory thing’.”

“Why didn’t you just come out and plainly say it?!”

“Hold up! Don’t get mad at me because you wanted to soil your royal oats. All of this I your fault.

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Reality

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Have you ever gone to sleep, and slept so good you didn’t want to get up?…

Not because the sleep was so good. Even though I’m sure that would be true. More because while you were asleep you had no worries. You didn’t have to think about going to work or what bills needed your attention. It was just you, and your bed.

That was the type of sleep I had just before waking. Then as soon as I woke up all those negative feelings came rushing back. I’m sure there’s going to be a silver lining coming from all of this negativity I’m experiencing. I just wish it would come already. I’m not going to bore you with the details that are my life. But I feel like I’m close to my lowest point.

I don’t want to make this one of those depressing blogs. I know….

Too late!

I don’t want it to seem like I don’t have anything to be grateful for because I do. I have plenty to be thankful for. My mother, family, my job(s), my published book, this blog, my intelligence. Really… I could keep going. But the things I’m searching for in life have not made their way to me yet; things like freedom and financial stability.

I’m trying to keep a positive mindset, but sometimes I find myself going down the rabbit hole of negativity.

If you have gone through this stage at any point in life, make sure to share your story. I would love to read them. Who knows, my story maybe simliar to yours.

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Mediator/ Empath

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Empath- A person who’s able to feel emotions/energy on an intense level.

Good Morning!!!

Image result for INFPFrom what I’ve come to understand, empaths are strong. At times, I’m not going to lie, I hate my empathic ability. Reason being, it makes me vulnerable to other people’s emotions. It also doesn’t help that I’m an INFP. Meaning, I’m someone who place’s others feelings and wellbeing before my own. The over all picture of having this personality type may seem like it’s a good one to have, but it could also be seen as a burden. Burden because that means you won’t ever come first for you, because innately you’re wired to care for others before you’re able to care for yourself. I’m not sure if this behavior can be unlearned, but I at least need to get the order correct.

In reality, who is going to care more for you than you care for yourself? NO ONE! Maybe your mother or father, but that’s as far as that road goes, most of the time. So who better to be an advocate for you, than you? I’m not saying to be selfish, although sometimes it’s needed.

Don’t allow your energy to be sucked dry by ENERGY VAMPIRES; the people who’re seemingly going through something, but not really. Yeah, stay away from them. You can always tell who they are; they are those people who wake up negative emotion in you, seemingly for no good reason at all (regularly). The sad part of being around or interacting with someone like this; you feel completely depleted after you’ve encountered them.

GAURD YOUR ENERGY!!!!

Although INFP, HSP and Empaths are similar, they’re also different. So what that means is, no matter what personality type you are, you’re still capable of being an empath or Highly Sensitive Person. I just happen to be a Mediator/ Empath and HSP which go hand in hand.

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