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Treasure Hunt

Good Morning Everyone!!!!

If you are one of the lucky ones like myself and are allowed frequent paid breaks from your job; I hope you’re enjoying this free time with every fiber of your being.

As for me, I want to enjoy myself. I just don’t know how.

Question: What childhood behavior or fear followed you to adulthood?

I’m not so sure I’ve written about this in depth, but I know I’ve written about it before.

Some may already know I have many fears. But the one I’ve developed from childhood is fear of authority figures ( especially men).

All though I’m grown and I have no one around me wanting to hurt me; it’s still a fear that lives in the back of my mind.

During this break all kinds of things have been going through my mind. Some good, some not so good. One thing’s for sure, I’m becoming more unmotivated as the days pass.

I’m sure this is happening because I’m back home. Don’t get me wrong I love being back home. I just hate the comfortability it gives me being here. It makes it hard to want to accomplish anything because I am provided the things I had to work so hard for, while I wasn’t here. I know that motivation should still be there. I have to be honest; it’s dwindling.

I know she loves me and wants me to stay a baby forever. But this struggle of being an adult with unresolved issues and childhood traumas and fears, are the things I hide behind when it comes to trying something new and exciting.


The Turn Around

After spending so many years living in my past I’m going to approach this coming year differently. Instead of holding on to past hurts and traumas I’m going to find new and creative ways to let them go.

A long time ago I realized I remain stagnant because I constantly listen to my own opinions, also the person I hang around the most is myself. How am I really suppose to change if I won’t allow new experiences to happen because I’m afraid of the possible outcome?

This is gonna be a real struggle, but it’s definitely something that needs to happen. I can’t have my inner world be richer and more vivid than my actual reality. I’m not going for it. I need and will only tolerate the type of life I would accept in my wildest dreams.

This is something I’ve been feeling for a long while, but have only had the courage to say up until recently.

I bring up courage because it takes courage to change and admit to yourself you live in the hurt because that’s what you know. Not only that it’s what you’ve become accustom and started to crave. This happens when hurt is what you’ve experienced the most. Over time you begin to crave it because it’s all you know.

Please keep in mind, hurt may have been what you’ve experienced and know better than happiness; but it doesn’t have to be. You can take that power back. Make life into what you believe it should be for you, at any point.

Never forget: How you choose to live is a mindset that can be changed at anytime. It’s like have a chest of treasure with a thousand keys. You know one fits, but you have to try them all till you find the one that fits.

That’s pretty much how life works. You have to go through life trying different (keys) until you find the one that unlocks the key to your treasure (happiness).

I hope you found something you can take away from this post.

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That special time of Year

Good Morning Everyone!!!!

How have you all been?! I hope you have good news for me.

First off, I am sincerely sorry for not posting on the regular. But I’m back and getting better as we speak.

We are finally on Winter Break. THANK YOU GOD!!! There is something that comes over you when you know that you’re going to get a full 2 weeks to yourself. As many may know, it’s mainly about the freedom that comes with the break. Especially if you don’t have any obligations to anyone or anything.

One thing I have to admit though; I’m so thankful I’m here with my family. After spending so many years with someone who didn’t want to do anything for any occasion, this is a real change. I have to admit, my Mom is doing it up for the holidays. I’m  a little out of practice when it comes to getting in the Christmas spirit. But I can’t wait to start having fun with revisiting it.

What’s special about this time of YEAR

I forgot how fun this time of year could be. Many of us rush around so much that we find ways to rush right through life. Forgetting the people, things and places we love, because we’re so engrossed in other things we have no control over. We get mad at those who may have made a simple mistake, many times because we’re mad with something we don’t have the power to change.

If you haven’t noticed this time of year is for giving and being thankful for the people you love who are your ‘ride or dies’.  I’m sure over the years the number changes; but if you even have one person in your corner that is willing to go to bat for you, that’s all that counts.

Too often we think if we’re nice to this person and do everything they ask us, that we’ve made a new friend. Many times when we gain friends like that they don’t turn out to be friends, they turn out to be users. It took me a long time to figure this out, but people use you because you set yourself up to be used. It’s your job to let that person know what you will and won’t take. The other thing is, you have to remember in many cases people are like children; if you constantly give them what they want they’re going to act like a spoiled child when it comes to you and demand the same treatment you started out giving them. It’s not that they don’t care about you, it’s only that they’ve becomes accustomed  to treating you like a doormat (because you allowed it.)

Back to what makes this time of year so special. For a lot of us, we get to spend time with family and friends. Picking out things we know they’ll love and expecting that perfect gift from that someone special. Knowing they have know choice but know what to get you for Christmas because you dropped hints over a thousand times. Even aside from that, the great memories that’ll be made with some of the most special people in your life.

I hope you all have a beautiful Winter Break, plenty of fun and you have more than enough chances to make new memories with those you love.

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Feelings

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Good Morning everyone!

As you know sometimes life has a way of seeming too heavy sometimes.

Well for me, now is that time. I only created this video out of desperation. Mainly to relieve the pressure of obstacles I’m facing at the current time.

I may not say it always; but I really appreciate and love every single one of you who take the time to check in on me from day to day.

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Purpose driven life

Good Morning!!!

 

Hope you’re having a beautiful day! There are so many reasons why you should. Before you say or even think of that as a false statement realize experiencing the best out of life is a state of mind. So… with that said, life is what ever you want to make it.

I tend to read a lot of self help books. I do this because I feel the need to work on myself. I’m not going to lie and say I have everything figured out sense reading these books; but they do help me to feel a lot better about myself and situations. They help me to see the world in someone else’s perspective. This in turn helps to boost my mood, which leads to me feeling uplifted and wanting to pass that feeling on. I say this because maybe you’re someone who wants or needs to feel uplifted, and this may be something you use to bring you a little bit closer to that.

There is so much you can do when you feel uplifted and free. For my followers who’ve been with me over the years (I appreciate you all immensely) you know I always say the way the world is constructed, we are slaves to the 1%ers. I’m not saying that in a way to make you feel sad, mad or helpless. I say this because most of us go to a job we hate and  trade our time for money everyday. When we could be just as privileged as our bosses or so many others who took a chance on their selves’.

If you are like some, you might be okay with working for someone else. That’s okay if you are. But if you’re like me, you crave to be in the center of everything great. Even if that means you have to experience some things that aren’t so great. 

Your journey is your own. Don’t get discouraged if the ones around you can’t see or understand your vision. Just remember it wasn’t given to them, it was given to you. 

Never doubt yourself, because you’re capable of doing things you’ve never even dreamed possible. 

Learn the ways of the world through trial and error, when ever possible. When you start living this way, your whole life doesn’t turn out to be a long list of woulda shoulda coulda’s. 

I get that many of us live in our heads. This is even more detrimental when you’re an introvert who suffers from social anxiety, like myself. Just remember these are obstacles that can be over come. You don’t have to sit and bathe in misery (unless you want too).

You control you’re destiny. Stop giving it away!!

Live and be Limitless.

 

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Manifest your Abundance

Good Morning!!!

Another rainy day here in WPB FL. I’m not here for it. I don’t want to end up with a cold by the end of the day.

As always I hope you all are getting everything and anything you’ve always wanted because the possibilities are endless! It’s us that seem to put limitations on the things we’re capable of doing and receiving. When in reality our limitations are endless. I’m sure some may think it’s a little bit of an airhead thing to say, but it’s true!

Society has taught a great deal of us to continuously live in lack. So instead of trying to change that outlook many of us learn to work around it. We get drunk, over eat, become addicted to certain things we use to escape our current reality; during the times we’re supposed to be creating or making room for our blessings.

Many of us have become so present in our physical world to the point were that’s all we see. We start to believe, “If they don’t like me then I need to find a way to make them like me.” When in reality it’s not up to us how that person feels toward us. What we have to understand is, no matter how great of a person we are to some, they’ll never like you…. and that’s Okay!

The goal is to concentrate on you and make sure you’re a solid human being. My NEW mantra, “Selfcare is the best care.” Reason being, if you can’t take care of yourself how are you going to take care of someone else.

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FEAR of being GREAT

Good Morning!!!

 

I hope everyone is having a marvelous Sunday!

 

Today’s post is about falling and learning the failure  isn’t in falling. The failure is in not getting back up. I’m sure a lot of you have heard that saying over and over again. Let me put a spin on it. Brake it down so that it will mean more and hit you deeper. 

We all have something or another we want to accomplish in life. Some of us go through life and don’t even scratch the surface of our greatest potential. Do you know why that is?….

FEAR

We may try to say something else is the reason for us not being great, but in actuality fear is the poison that seems to paralyze us all when that time comes to let others know what we’re really capable of. There’s No denying fear has been a large part of how I’ve lived life up to this point. There’ve been many things I have wanted to do but have not, because of fear. Fear of what you may ask; To be honest I really don’t know, but it’s fear just the same.

So what I ask of you and I will practice this too. Work on seeing yourself as more than just your physical presence. Work on looking deep with in yourself. Take the time to get to know YOU. Once you carve out the time to truly get to know who you are, no one can tell you anything about YOU that’s gonna  shake your spirit.  

There is always gonna be a person or thing that will try to block you from getting to know yourself. You’re gonna have to be strong and not put so much of your focus on the outside world. When everything’s all said and done you’re going to have to make sure you’re whole all by yourself. 

The best thing is always work on yourself first before trying to add someone else to the chaos that is YOU. Most of us learn this late in life. I don’t believe this is the fault of our parents, because we’re gonna do what we want to do anyway. I feel it’s because many of us are so in a rush to run before we walk, we stumble and fall before we ever take our first step.

However you choose to get to know yourself is completely fine. There is NO right or wrong way. Remember to throw the judgement out the window when it comes to the process. You may not realize it, but sometimes scrutiny or judgement can spark fear. 

That’s why it’s best when going through this process to not inform anyone of how you’re healing until the process is complete; and that is only if you choose too. It’s no ones business but your own of your healing process.

Below are some ways I’ve found that work in helping you become WHOLE:

  • Prayer
  • Therapy
  • Meditation
  • Practice Gratitude
  • Do more of what you love
  • Spend quality time with yourself
  • Challenge yourself to do something you wouldn’t typically do.
  • Live in the moment
  • Have FUN

 

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Anxiety OVERLOAD!!

Good Morning!!!

I hope everyone has a FANTASTIC Friday! I am so happy we are finally here! Meditation here I come!

For the past couple of days I haven’t been feeling myself. I’m sure it’s because of what I’ve been eating (Donuts, cereal, chips, & cakes).  I know these things aren’t good overall, but when you add a extreme social anxiety and extreme  depression it gets a whole lot worse. Not to mention, lack of sleep.

At the current moment I’m not in the most ideal please in my life. See I’ve been writing blog after blog about being okay where you are right now. It is true, you should make peace with what ever part in life you’re in. But somedays I just want to be on my own again. I know the day will come. It’s just sometimes the process gets to be a little too much for me to bare, sometimes I just want to check out of life. Then I start to think how good it could be if I wait it out.

There’ve been plenty days when I just want to go faraway from everyone and be alone, because uncertain feelings scare me. Incase you haven’t realized this because you’re someone who’s always around others and are comfortable with it, being around people emotions start to stir up. This is usually time I check out, because I don’t trust many or easily for that matter.

I wanted this to be an uplifting post, but we all know some days are going to be more trying than others. So I just have to make sure to keep a positive mindset and know tomorrow will be a better day.

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Never be afraid to be YOU

12 Inspiring Quotes About Fear

Good Morning!!!

 

Hope everyone is doing fine…. I was going through trying to figure out what I was going to write about today. There’s so many things that go through my mind, but not all of them can make it to the post. Most recently I was thinking about starting up a couple other things. The only problem with this is making sure I stay consistent. Remaining consistent has always been a struggle for me; No matter what I’m supposed to do. The only time I seem to get things done is when it’s for someone else. That is a habit that must change.

As for the things I want to start doing; YouTube. I started a channel a while ago but stopped making content because I obsess over every aspect of the video, to the point of me not posting one. I’m working on letting that perfectionist go. I tell myself there are many things I plan to do in life, but they never seem to go any further then that. So to correct that I’m working on keeping my word to myself. It may be one of the hardest things I’m gonna have to learn, but it’s something I’m actively working on improving.

 One of the other things is getting my Podcast up and running. I tell you; there are so many was out here to make money, you just have to be open to the possibilities of what may happen once you let go. This is something I constantly have to remind myself of, because I always contain my real self. I do this for fear of not being accepted. Amazon.com: WeSellPhotos What Do I Fear Motivational Inspirational Quotes  Poster Photo Picture Framed Wall Art Print for Players Coach Trainers  Motivators Office Classroom Gift (8x10 Photo Unframed): Posters & Prints

The bad thing about always silencing or containing your true reactions and emotions; you start to loose yourself. I know this from experience, because I don’t know if the person I am in everyday life is the person I am when I’m alone. The person I am when I’m alone is someone completely different. Hell… the people I create in my stories are a lot more exciting then I am. 

I think I learned how to permanently silence and hide myself once I was taught to care what other people think. The hard part now is to unlearn that behavior. The only thing I want to do is be the person I would have been without the years and years of indoctrination. The great thing is; at least I understand unlearning and not doing what’s expected of me will bring me closer to who I’m supposed to be. 

I know that deep down, under all these insecurities I am a free spirited, open, loving, kind, generous soul who does what she wants without the nagging voice saying; Don’t be too different. You run the risk of being rejecting when you’re not digestible. Even though I know this isn’t true, it’s still something that keeps me from showing the world who I truly am.

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I AM

Good Morning!!!!

 

Hope you’re having a wonderful Wednesday!

 

I practice a mindset of gratitude and focusing on the future. This is what makes me happy. How I see myself and my reality are 2 different things. In my inner world I Am very aware, but I also get things done. I AM a successful writer, movie producer/ director, an owner of a lucrative business and so much more!!!!

My outer reality reflects something completely different. On the outside I’m a very meek quiet, agreeable, insecure, anxiety ridden, borderline awkward person. I take care of children for a living. Something I never wanted to get back into. It’s nothing against the children, I love all of them deeply. I just rather be in a lifestyle that will allow me to do things on my own terms.

That’s why I’ve decided I AM going to be working for myself before the end of this school year. This is something I’ve always wanted to, but I constantly find myself procrastinating and not getting anything done. So… what is going to happen in the months to come; Promoting, writing, events, & constant advertising. 

I guess you could say I’ve allowed things from my past to hold me back from becoming successful. Something NO ONE should allow their past to do. I’ve learned even when you think it’s next to impossible, think of that person who has accomplished it and know they were once in your shoes. The truth is; it isn’t impossible, but it becomes impossible because of your mindset. Once you change your mindset that’s when everything changes.

So inclosing. If you have something you’re passionate about and that is the only thing you want to do, go for it! If not, you’re going to forever feel like something is missing. Know that the struggle to get there is only temporary, but the rewards are endless!!

The struggle is Temporary but the Rewards are endless!!!

 

Never stop chasing your dreams….

 

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Take that Step

 

Often times we have large gifts we never manage to share with the world. Many times because we have other obligations or because we’re afraid too. Thinking that by sharing this thing with the world it leaves you vulnerable to criticism. True it does, but what if by allowing other people in, you learn you are actually good at what you do? Not only that you start to receive praise for it. Let’s take it a step further, you are able to monetize it and live doing the very thing you love.

 I completely understand it won’t be easy. The real question is; Will it be worth it?

A: Hell Ya!!

There are gonna be times when it’s gonna seem impossible to keep going; but you have too. There isn’t going to be a better feeling then doing what you love and knowing you’re getting paid for it. 

I knew from young a regular 9 to 5 wasn’t for me. For 1 I don’t like to be told what to do. Also I like to be in control of what I do. My current job title doesn’t offer me any creative space. So based off of that I know it won’t be my job for much longer. 

I will not allow a job to take away my creative spark. There are many things I want to do in this life and I’ve started doing a couple. The reason I haven’t been able to do those things full time is do to not being able to make a living from them as of yet. 

A job is a job but a career is a lifestyle. 

Please remember that.

 

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