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Stay Inspired

Good morning Friends,

Hope all is well.

I was thinking…. of something that never really made any sense to me until now, and that is, ‘People being complacent about working for someone else’. I get that it’s a check and you don’t have to worry about where the next one is coming from, because as long as you’re employed, there’s no need to worry about the bills you have to pay every month that come around like clock work. I get that. But wouldn’t you want to have complete control over how much you make and when you have to work? Well that’s me anyway. I guess I got it from my mother because she’s’ the same way. My mother just turned 53 and she is an inspiration because even through everything she has been through she still perseveres. She wanted to become a DJ so she did, she thought she could make a change in the school system and she did. All the children that she has ever worked with young or old (like me) know her name because she has and continues to inspire others to do what  they love. I guess you can say I continue to try to inspire others because she has always inspired me.

It seemed like no matter what was thrown her way she always seemed to make it through. She is proof that you can work for someone else and still pursue your dreams; and be a blessing to others in their time of need. The key is to have faith in the process and know that all your effort isn’t for nothing. Your time will come. Just be patient and trust that you were given that passion/talent for a reason.

Also if you’re looking for a book to read that’s filled with love, lies, and betrayal; check out my recently published book LOYALTY:LOVE, LIES, and BETRAYAL By: Shadrieka Franks

empowering · motivational · self-esteem · Thoughts

Live Your Dreams

There’s something I’ve been wanting to do for a long time and that is be a female weight lifter. If you go back in the archives you’ll see that this is something I’ve always thought about but never worked at. Reason being, I never believed I could do it, also I was living for other people and not myself. Now that I’m getting older I’m starting to realize more than ever, you only get one chance at life. So do what you want with it while your still here. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve second guessed myself, thinking of what people would think knowing that’s what I’m working toward. I didn’t want to hear people tell me I couldn’t do it. Because it seems like when ever you want to make a change to your life there is always someone who wants to tell you, you shouldn’t because of what ever reason. I’ve learned that’s when you have to push yourself even harder, because the nay Sayers will get under your skin and make you believe you can’t do what it is you know you can.

Even if they don’t get under your skin, they’re still winning if your not pursuing your dreams and desires. In a way your still letting them control what you do with your life. Going through life, your always going to find someone that is going to tell you, you can’t do something. That’s when the fun starts when you start to prove them wrong. You have to prove people wrong so they know, anything is possible. If you ever wondered why people tell you certain things aren’t possible, it’s because they don’t believe it’s possible for them. They may not have malicious intent, but sometimes that’s the way it comes off. Don’t read to much into. Most times they don’t know any better. But one thing you must remember is no one can tell you what’s good for you, only you can do that. Most times when there is something you feel strongly about, it’s because it was put in you to pursue it. When it comes to asking other people their opinion on whether you should pursue it, of course they’re going to say ‘No’. That’ because they don’t have your vision and they don’t know what your capable of. Also it could be jealousy sometimes.That’s why you listen to yourself first, because you know what you can and can’t do.

I’m finally starting to find my own voice, so I’m definitely going to start listening to it. I’m nearing my 40s and this body building thing has always been something I was in love with. I’m finally going to give it my time and effort. I have to make this promise to myself, so I can hold myself accountable and work towards being a lot more consistent when it comes to my health and working out. It makes you feel sooo good. Also it runs in my blood. My grandfather was a weight lifter and a title holder, and I know I wouldn’t be honoring him if I never reached my potential. I already have the body structure for it. I’ve just been lazy over the years.

I’m also going to start inserting videos into my posts. As a diary to myself to mark my changes and health. If you would like to join you’re more than welcome.

Always remember to pursue your dreams. They’re yours for a reason. No one knows what your capable of, so give all you got for the rest of your days and there’s no way you can go wrong!

empowering · motivational · self-esteem · Thoughts

4 Steps To Increase Self-Confidence

Why am I not able to separate myself from feeling bad because someone may be mad at me or doesn’t like me? That has been a problem of mine for a long time. There’s something in me that wants everyone to love me. Deep down I know that isn’t possible, because someone is always going to dislike you for their own reasons. Most times it has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. I guess you could say that’s something that I’m learning more and more about as I get older.

Growing up, I felt pretty much the same. I always wanted people to like me. Most times, I bent over backwards. Kids and adults treated me poorly. At the time I didn’t realize it wasn’t me who had the problem, it was the people around me. There are so many of us that just want acceptance, but you have to first accept yourself. Once you do that, it won’t matter that the next person doesn’t like you. The reason that is, is because you will love yourself so much that it won’t matter what the next person says or does. You’ll be so secure in yourself that what they’re doing won’t shake yourself confidence.

I know your probably thinking, “How is self confidence developed?” and “What can I do to improve mine?” There are so many ways to improve self confidence, but I’m gonna give you four right now.

How To Increase Your Self-Confidence:

Think Positively– Control the things you choose to think about. Most of us don’t realize it, but our thoughts control our mood. Choosing to take in positive things and information  can make you a much happier person.

Eating Clean- Eating clean brings you to a higher frequency. When you choose to eat in a cleaner way, you don’t feel weighed down and tired by the heavy toxic, nutrient deprived food you were eating before. If eating a diet high in live foods you feel alive. Don’t believe me? Try it for a month.

Exercise- I know that everyone else is saying this, but it does make a difference. I’m sure plenty of us have had that high after finishing a workout. It makes you feel good, light, and re-energized. It also helps to clear your mind. Remember you’re never too old to start anything, and you don’t need a gym membership to do so.

Surround  Yourself with Positive People- This helps sooo much! Have you ever been around someone that always has a sad story to tell? You don’t realize it, but their energy becomes your energy. That’s why you can walk in to a room feeling the happiest you ever have and two minutes later feel sad and your not sure why. It’s because your soaking up other people’s energy around you. That’s why it’s important to hang around light hearted positive people, because you become what you surround yourself with.

In the long run you’re going to become a better person. Working on yourself is something that we all should do, and don’t worry if you haven’t gotten to the point of accepting  yourself yet. It’s just a matter of time before that happens. There’s no rush. Take the time to grow into the person you want to be and know that everything is an experience you can learn from.