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4 Steps To Increase Self-Confidence

Why am I not able to separate myself from feeling bad because someone may be mad at me or doesn’t like me? That has been a problem of mine for a long time. There’s something in me that wants everyone to love me. Deep down I know that isn’t possible, because someone is always going to dislike you for their own reasons. Most times it has nothing to do with you. It has everything to do with them. I guess you could say that’s something that I’m learning more and more about as I get older.

Growing up, I felt pretty much the same. I always wanted people to like me. Most times, I bent over backwards. Kids and adults treated me poorly. At the time I didn’t realize it wasn’t me who had the problem, it was the people around me. There are so many of us that just want acceptance, but you have to first accept yourself. Once you do that, it won’t matter that the next person doesn’t like you. The reason that is, is because you will love yourself so much that it won’t matter what the next person says or does. You’ll be so secure in yourself that what they’re doing won’t shake yourself confidence.

I know your probably thinking, “How is self confidence developed?” and “What can I do to improve mine?” There are so many ways to improve self confidence, but I’m gonna give you four right now.

How To Increase Your Self-Confidence:

Think Positively– Control the things you choose to think about. Most of us don’t realize it, but our thoughts control our mood. Choosing to take in positive things and information  can make you a much happier person.

Eating Clean- Eating clean brings you to a higher frequency. When you choose to eat in a cleaner way, you don’t feel weighed down and tired by the heavy toxic, nutrient deprived food you were eating before. If eating a diet high in live foods you feel alive. Don’t believe me? Try it for a month.

Exercise- I know that everyone else is saying this, but it does make a difference. I’m sure plenty of us have had that high after finishing a workout. It makes you feel good, light, and re-energized. It also helps to clear your mind. Remember you’re never too old to start anything, and you don’t need a gym membership to do so.

Surround  Yourself with Positive People- This helps sooo much! Have you ever been around someone that always has a sad story to tell? You don’t realize it, but their energy becomes your energy. That’s why you can walk in to a room feeling the happiest you ever have and two minutes later feel sad and your not sure why. It’s because your soaking up other people’s energy around you. That’s why it’s important to hang around light hearted positive people, because you become what you surround yourself with.

In the long run you’re going to become a better person. Working on yourself is something that we all should do, and don’t worry if you haven’t gotten to the point of accepting  yourself yet. It’s just a matter of time before that happens. There’s no rush. Take the time to grow into the person you want to be and know that everything is an experience you can learn from.






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Find comfort in the uncomfortable

Ah, the land of the free. True, that is what we are known for being. But have you ever really thought of that concept of being  “free”? Total freedom is when you have not a care in the world. So when you think about it most of us aren’t really free. A lot of us work nine to five jobs that have the tendency to consume our lives. So many of us don’t get that opportunity to live the way that we want for fear of not being able to take care of our responsibilities.

I’m sure there are many people who would be doing something else with their life rather than spending countless hours at a dead-end job that is incapable of giving you the type of fulfillment you crave, that is no way to live. If you’re a mother or father I’m sure you feel that your children fulfill you.  But that isn’t your only purpose for being on this earth, living the life you have. No doubt, being a parent plays a big part in who you are. But it’s important to remember it isn’t all that you are. If we really want to get technical, parents are our first influencers. You are the ones that get first dibs on making us into whatever we become. So keep in mind if you are a go getter most likely your children will be the same way. That goes for pretty much any trait that you have.

So I say that to say this, if there is something that you love doing and you know without reasonable doubt that it’s your calling, do it. Whether you get paid for it or not. You will draw so much from it that you will continue to do it because it brings happiness to you and once others see that you are happy doing something you love it makes them want to go out and do something they love. You help create change and spread positivity when others see that you are winning in this game called life.

I’m sure if a lot more of our daily encounters were positive we would be more optimistic and less pessimistic when it comes to daily interaction with others. By being fearless and developing a positive mindset you take control of the amount of negativity you let in, and the better you get at focusing on the positive rather than the negative the more doors and opportunities will open up to you.

Live on your terms, and make sure to spread positivity and change with every word you speak and everything you do. I’ve had people look at me crazy for the simple fact of being different because I wanted to speak of ways to elevate myself and ways that they could elevate their self. At first, it’s of no interest to them because they feel that it is unobtainable, but the more that I speak to them about it the more they see it as a possibility.

Continue to inspire, and remember never allow anyone to dim your light because they can’t understand your shine.

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