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100% Me

There are often times we are faced with things we wouldn’t have chosen to go through, if left up to us. There are so many things I’ve experienced during this life time. Many of them if I had to do over again…  I wouldn’t have done. There’s damn sure people I wouldn’t have given a chance if I knew how they truly were.

I try to take positivity from the different events; sometimes it seems impossible. Sometimes life has a way of making you feel like all you’re going to constantly receive are blows to the head.

In short, ever since the start of this year I’ve been feeling like there was a dark cloud over me; I can’t explain it. You may be thinking something had to happen for me to feel like this; ‘Nope’ nothing happened. One thing I can say, this year my kindness and go with the flow attitude have been tested more than they ever have before.

I’ve learned, you can’t go with the flow all the time; you’re going to eventually need to have an opinion about things. Having an opinion insures others know how you feel about certain things and it also gives you more control over your life. Verses not saying anything and going with the flow living a life that is full of unwanted surprises.

I feel I’m learning this fact a little late, but I’m so happy I’ve learned it at all. This way I will gain more control over my life and what I want to do with it. Rather than just go with the flow of everyone else’s opinion of what I should do.

For those of you who go with the flow because you don’t want to ruffle any feather; learn to speak your mind. People respect you more when you do. Especially for those of you who are dating; speaking your mind is essential. If you let the other person decide everything, eventually you become boring and bland.

A lot of people will admit this and others won’t; but a lot of men and women love a challenge. So… if you’re hoping to win that person over with passivity, it won’t work. What’s going to happen is, they’re going to be entertained with you for a moment, then they won’t.  They’ll be on the prowl once again, looking for that person that provides everything they didn’t know they were missing. If you don’t embody what they’re missing that is okay. Yawl weren’t the right fit.  

One thing to always remember; never change to be someone’s perfect. You’ll never win. The only thing you can do is be you; if they don’t like you being your 100% self, F**K’EM! Just because you didn’t find a life long partner in them doesn’t mean you’re not going to find your princess or princess. 

With relationships you have to be patient. So to find that ONE you’re going to have to trust the process and just enjoy life until they come.


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There are people who come into your life who make you feel like they’re the best thing since sliced bread. Then when you get to know them you start to think it’s more like sour milk.

I’m sure if you’ve been in more than one relationship, you’ve noticed people can be cruel. That’s something I have tried to refuse to believe, but the longer I’m on this earth I realize that it’s not something I can ignore.

What I’ve come to realize is there are going to be people who show you that they can “act” one way, but after your guard is down that’s when they begin to show you who they truly are. I swear it seems like I’ve come across every type of asshole there is! I guess you gotta kiss a lot of frogs before you find your prince.

Please don’t feel like what I’m saying is bashing anyone in any way. I just really wanted to talk about what’s going on with me. I don’t know if you know; but I use this site as a diary. Somewhere I can jot down the way I’m feeling or what I’m going through at the current time. In many ways this blog has been my life saver, and I’m so grateful for it. There are people out here who don’t know how to express what they’re going through. That’s why I’m so grateful to places like WordPress, YouTube, and Snapchat for providing places people can express themselves.
There are times you just don’t know what to do. Then there are times you know what to do, but you’re not trying to get landed in jail (Lol). Sometimes those emotions hit you so hard that’s all you wanna do is act on them. Then you remember, “Damn! I can’t do that…. I’m not trying to be Big Bertha’s b****”.
Seriously though, if you have someone in your life that is bringing you to that negative head space, you’re going to have to try to find a way to get away from that person; because their negative energy is going to continue to put you in a funk. I don’t know about you; but I’m not trying to be sucking up those toxic vibes.

Love ya’ll always!!! Have a blessed day!!!