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Just Live

How is everyone doing today?!

As always I hope things are going in your favor.

I never know quite how to start out these posts. All I know is I have something I want to say….

I was a little amped this morning. Maybe it had something to do with me finally going to the gym. Well anyway, I was just thinking how I want life to be for me in the next couple of years There are so many things I want to change. First of all, I want to roll out of bed and already be at work. Working for myself is the goal. Like I have said before, time and time again.

I’m working towards the goal I have set forth for myself. I’m sure it’s going to be a fun journey learning everything it entails being an entrepreneur.

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For many years I never pursued being the leader of my own company, because honestly I was to concerned about finding love. Well as I’ve said before, that time has passed. It’s now time for me to put myself first, learn me before I decide to give all my time and energy to someone else.

A lot of times we don’t realize this, but as women we have been brought up thinking that family and a husband is the thing to have; and if you don’t have that by a certain age you have failed.

That is a flawed way of thinking.

Thinking and believing that being someone’s other half is your life’s purpose leaves you vulnerable to all the time wasters and f*ck boys/f*ckgirls. What ends up happening is you start to question yourself (Well I know I did). You start thinking and believing that you aren’t good enough because most of these time wasters want to do just that; waste your time. But you as a woman have to be mindful of how much of your time you’re wasting on these people who aren’t looking for  the same things you are. If you’re not careful, you could easily loose your chance to have children, following behind someone who wants to play house but doesn’t want the responsibilities that come with it.

I started thinking long ago… “Do I really want to be married just for the sake of saying I have a husband?” I thought and thought about it for a long time. I actually had someone I wanted and thought I was going to marry; but the longer we stayed together the more it became clear to me that, that was something that was never going to happen.

You see, a lot of us look at these social media posts, the families, kids, husbands, big promotions, lavish gifts; and jealousy starts to stir in our spirit. The next time that happens, I just want you to think, ” What did they have to do to get (him, her or it). Keep in mind, ” All that glitters isn’t gold. You don’t know what is going on behind closed doors or what that person had to do to get that promotion or that huge house. 

It’s a sad reality, but many times people forget to live for themselves, because they’re too busy try to live for everyone else. So if there’s anything you take from this post, I would love for it to be ” Live everyday as your last. Without any inhibitions or doubt that the way you choose to live is wrong; because there is no right way,

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Dreams Never Die

  There is money out here to be made.

So many of us believe that the only way to make money is through someone else. But think about it,

“How did they start making money?”

I’m sure they didn’t start off with a lot in the bank. Many times these big companies had an idea, and they took that leap of faith.

That’s all it takes is to believe in yourself, and you will go far. Many people seem to have forgotten that or just don’t believe. It’s sad that we have so many people going to jobs they hate everyday, without taking time out to invest in something they love doing. Always know if you promote heavily and you continue to perfect your craft, the customers will come. Kick the doubt out of your mind. Even if they don’t seem to come as fast as you think they should, keep pushing. Your break through is right around the corner.

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Your reason for living

Sometimes I feel like I’m dreaming; not good or bad. Although this year it has been leaning a little more to the bad side. Even though ever thing hasn’t been as I would’ve hoped, I’m still here and I’m alive. Instead of concentrating on the negative, I’m working really hard to focus on things that are in my power to control. I have to say that the changes that I want to start happening haven’t begun to happen just yet. Even though they haven’t I’m going to continue to be positive and work towards the many good things that I want to appear through out my life. Some of those things are:

  • Great relationships
  • traveling
  • true unmeasured love
  • freedom
  • recognition world wide, for my work
  • being a successful author

For the past couple of years I’ve been working at getting my name out there. I can’t really say that no one other than my family knows who I am; even though I’m still going to keep trying, this time with more consistent effort.

Final Thought

If you have something that you know that you were put here to do, let nothing stop you from doing that thing. You’ll never be truly satisfied with life until you’ve done it.

Go Big or Go Home

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Let Your Haters Be Your Motivators

32730414-stuck-in-a-rut-words-on-a-sign-in-a-hole-or-pit-to-illustrate-complacency-and-comfort-zone-and-a-neeHave you ever been stuck in a rut, and didn’t know how you were going to get out? That was me before I started writing this blog. Day after day I would go to work and hate it. Don’t get me wrong I still hate it. But finding something I like to do, that also connects  with others makes it all more bearable. Just to give you some knowledge as to what I do, that’s if you’ve never read any of my blog posts before. I work in retail, have been for over 13 years. Believe me, it wasn’t my first job choice but it gave me a check. That being said, I know that is the only reason I stayed, that and fear to try something different. But as the years passed I realized it wasn’t what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, so I made some moves. I started working another job while still having the first. The second job wasn’t as mentally draining as the first, but it was very draining physically. I can remember days I fell asleep on the road rushing from one job, just to get ready to go to the next. I’m sure I’m not saying anything new, because half of us has, had or are either looking for our second job, right now.

hamsterThat’s the one thing you shouldn’t do, get a second job. If anything, start something you can call your own. At least you know if you make a profit most if not all that money is going to you. I’m sure your probably like, “I don’t have money to start a business!” Truth is, some of the best business owners didn’t start out with that much money either, but they still persisted and made something out of nothing. It feels like that’s what a lot of us do not understand, as long as you have a vision and passion for making that vision a reality, there will always be someone interested in what you have to say, no matter the amount of haters. Just know, you’re definitely going to have people down playing or talking negatively about your efforts to make something out of yourself.  All because they’re afraid to go after what they want, like they say, ‘Misery loves company’.  That’s what you have to remember when you start talking to people about your dreams or plans to excel in life. Don’t let negative people deter you from what you know was put in you to do.

cage Prime example, This past Sunday I reached work took my first customer and the conversation with him led to my current ventures of promoting this blog. He said, “Don’t you think it’s a little too late?” At first it got under my skin and pissed me off, but instead of getting mad I replied with, “It’s never too late.” The way I viewed his response started to affect me, but I didn’t let it get that far. Maybe it was the coffee that had me in such a positive mood or I know that I’m gonna be alright because I’m finally doing what I was meant to do. Either way I know he responded that way because most of us are taught that once you’re in a job for a long time, you should work there up until retirement and collect a check. I’m sorry, that isn’t the way my mind works. The way I see it, you can change your mind, job, interest, anything, as long as you still have breath in your body. Age has nothing to do with that, and never let anyone tell you different. Most times people talk just to hear themselves talk, and more than half of the time they’re not saying anything of value. So I say to you, if you have a dream to do something that you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t, either because of fear or circumstance, just do it. You’re not getting any younger and you’re going to feel nothing but regret if you don’t. So live your best life  and stop allowing others to dumb you down.

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New Ventures

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            I’m ready for life to change for me. I know things are not going to be the same, there’s no way they can be. I’m praying for big positive changes to come in to my life. I’m finally finding things I’m interested in that I want to do. This is a big turn around from the way I use to think. For me, life was just ample opportunity to have free time. That was before I started learning of ways to make money online. Truth is, I’m still learning. But it’s nice to know there are other ways to make money other than going to someone’s establishment making them money while your making peanuts.

 I’ve realized the people that reap big benefits are the ones who take risks. That’s a lesson  I’m learning more and more everyday, and it’s actually fun learning all the ways there is to make money without leaving your home. I’m still researching, but I promise once I find something that works, I will definitely let it be known. The one thing I’ve noticed about these online business’ is there’s a lot to learn if you want to go into business for yourself. It’s not as easy as a lot of online business owners like to make it seem in the beginning, if it is there’s a problem. With any business you have to study it first and get all your ducks in a row before selling. There are going to be countless hours invested learning about the business. Once that happens it may become a little easier because you’ve learned enough about it to want to learn more. Another thing to keep in mind is, the internet is constantly changing and improving. So that means you’re going to have to keep up with the changes of the market if you want to make sure your business is going to continue to do well. There’s no such thing as autopilot, at least not in my vocabulary, because there’s always ways to improve.

“Always remember, never let anyone dim your light because they don’t understand your shine”

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Thoughts

Focused On The Wrong Thing

It always seems like life has other plans for you. When ever you think life is going one way it surprises you and takes another direction. This has proven to be true in many occasions. Me myself, I always thought I was going to be some where married and happy with a whole lot of kids. But I guess God had a different plan for me. It seems like the more you fight for something that was not suppose to be the foundation of your life the more it becomes obvious you are pursuing the wrong thing.

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I’m sure we all take something away from a mistake. But sometimes you just can’t see the big picture because your focused on the wrong thing.

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Pieces To A Puzzle

Trying to be something other than the norm is a struggle. It seems like the harder you try the more you are fighting to blow that cap off of everyone’s perception of normal. If there was anyway that some of us could become something more than what we are with out a struggle I believe a lot of us would be just that. But the reality is achieving something that is difficult to obtain is a gift in its self. Think of something that has been difficult to get or do and then think of how much more you appreciated it simply because you had to work to get it. That is the same thing with living life the way you want to. Doing the things you love and want to do, you have to make a decent living in order to live the way that you see fit. That means doing what you love rather than doing something purely based off of convince or income.

I said that to say, when your doing something that involves your purpose and passion it will never feel like work because believe it or not it is the reason your here living life influencing situations and people only as you know how. I have always believed that we were given this life to add to each others lives.

Have you ever felt like you were a piece to a puzzle? I have. I think that we all are pieces to a big jigsaw puzzle called ‘life’ and we are just trying to find out where we fit. By doing what your passionate about it helps you to take your natural place in life. The confusion comes when we start to let others dictate the way they want us to live our life. Parents, teachers, aunts, uncles doesn’t matter who it is they don’t have that right to dictate your life. They’ve already lived thiers and done with it what they pleased. So it is your turn to do the same. As long as it is not causing anything or anyone else harm do what’s in your heart. Be your own person, live life and feel every moment of it.

  Another thing to keep in mind is there is always a way to make money from something you love doing. If your the best at it and love doing what you do there is always going to be someone that needs someone that specializes in what ever it is you've decided you love to do.