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Arranged Marriage

I felt like I really needed to do a post on this, because it seems like there are so many people who date only those with plenty money to spend. Back in the day that use to be the norm, but not anymore. Granted, there are a few people out here who do this and will take all kinds of ill treatment because of a dollar. Never understood that, but I guess that’s just the way the cookie crumbles.

Back in the day it us to be women marrying men because they were well off. By marrying men who had their own, it not only helped the women in these arranged marriages; it also helped the brides’ family. But these days most people do it for their own personal gain. Also even though it was expected and men knew exactly what they were getting into; most never felt used, because they always got something in return. It wasn’t good for women, back then but at least people weren’t maliciously using others to gain the life of their dreams. There was always a give and take; and eventually some type of caring or love that developed from truly getting to know that person. I think some marriages where stronger back then, than they are today, because of it.

Arranged marriages, aren’t something I think we should go back to; please don’t misunderstand. All I’m saying is; people had little to no other choice, but to make it work. These days it’s not like that at all. Most relationships have turned into temporary hook ups. There aren’t many marriages that have lasted the test of time.

Also, we never seem to see that the way we act towards one another has everything to do with what type of energy we’re allowing to surround us daily. If you’re a person who never really pays attention to the way someone’s energy affects you, please start. I’m very big on consuming others energy; I suck it up like a sponge. Just thinking about it; that may be why I don’t like being around a lot of people at once; because if everyone doesn’t feel the same (happy), it really starts to bother me, because their emotions become mine. When I tell you, I’m a true empath, best believe I am.

Men of Today

If you’re a man and you’re reading this, don’t take it personal. I know all of you aren’t like this.

Men of today seem as if they’re always trying to find their Suga Momma. If you don’t remember that song, click on the Suga Momma link above. I always hated that song! I understand the song wasn’t made for just any man. It was made for the person Beyonce was in love with at the time; but that is the last song I want to be referenced to. Men of today already assume a woman is going to take care of them. I refuse to have them think I’m going to be that type of woman.

It’s not such a bad thing when he shows his appreciation everyday. But, what if he was like most men, and started to expect it and get upset when you can’t provide or won’t provide; what then?

In my opinion the roles have reversed; men have become what women use to be. I’m sure this isn’t only true for one culture, but many. Men have become the woman, without being a woman.

Don’t think I mean woman as in feminine, I mean woman as it pertains to the ways of finances. Too many men will let their wife, girlfriend, baby momma whatever; work two and three jobs, while they’re only working one. Then they’re quick to say, “Your job not as hard as mine. You get to sit in A/C all day.” I really hate that. It’s like they’re discrediting all the hard work you’ve done. I thought it was because they really believed that, but now I think it has more to do with the way it makes them feel about what they’re doing. Either way, it’s to massage their ego.

Also, what’s up with these men who believe all they have to do is D you down real good and the rest will take care of itself. Sorry Bro, that’s not the way it goes. You need to get your a** out of bed and get to working. Those bills aren’t going to pay themselves.

Him having a job; doing what he’s suppose to do as a man. These type of men are a dying breed. There are to many Momma’s Boys out here. Not the good type of Momma’s Boy i.e the ones who take care of their woman and family and treat every woman with respect. No, most of us are getting that Momna’s Boy who loves his Momma, but knows nothing about respect because she didn’t teach him. So when he gets with women, he treats them just as bad as his mother; many times worse because he sees little to no value in creating anything with her. As a result; if the woman is the type to give him every and anything, like his Mom did or still does, he’ll take it and think he’s the prize because these women and his Mom have made him feel that way.

That’s why I’ve learned, you have to be stern and non bending with them. Once they see your sweetness a little to often, many start to believe; you’re a pushover and they’re able to get away with more because of your love for them. That’s why you have to stick to your word, so they’ll know; you meant what you said.

Make sure to have your own so you don’t have to deal with unnecessary disrespect and discomfort.

Live Free abundantly and without regret!

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Piece to HER Puzzle

disrespect-quote-6-picture-quote-1I’ve noticed men only acting like men when they’re trying to hookup. What is that?! I thought men are suppose to act like men all the time. They want women to act like women all the time, then they need to take their own advice, and do the same. IF I hear another man complain about what the next woman has on I’m gonna scream! Ahhhh!!! It’s so annoying! Most of them want to be the boss but don’t want to pay the cost. There’ve been so many men who want their woman to do what they say, like she’s their child or something, but also wants her to pay her own way and split everything down the middle. I don’t know about you, but that’s something that doesn’t sit right with me. The only way you’re going to get me to listen and do what you say is if you’re taking care of me. But even then I’m going to be rebellious, because 1.) I’m not your child, 2.) I’m a grown ass woman, and 3.) I make my own money.
Men calling women out of their name is a definite pet peeve of mine. I don’t get it, why do you feel the need to disrespect a woman?! I’ve seen men call women b******, h*** and a whole lot of other things I’m not gonna mention. Most times because she’s out of his or their league or because she curved him. Whatever the case, it never gives you the right to say derogatory things about a woman, and that goes for women too. I just wish we could learn to build each other up rather than tearing each other down. Everyone deserves respect until they prove other wise, these days people don’t think like that. Most people believe you are only given the respect you earn. I’m sure that’s a large reason as to why we have so many disrespectful millennials. It seems like almost every person that I’ve met born after 1985 has a really s***** disposition. It almost feels like, this generation is a very self serving one, who puts themselves before anything or anyone. That characteristic could be looked at as something positive, but it could also be seen as something negative. Especially when it’s perceived that you can throw away a persons feelings and needs just to serve your own. Summed up in one word A**hole.

how-to-get-rid-of-your-boyfriends-wandering-eyeAnother thing, many women are put to the test constantly when they’re in relationships. Time after time love and respect are tested, when women are in relationships with the wrong man. So many times women stay because “I love him” or “He’s a good provider” or “He’s the father of my kids”. It doesn’t matter if that man beat her within an inch of her life or says so many hurtful things til her self-esteem is none existent. Point is There are so many excuses for a woman to stay. But men I ask you, “Do you want to be her excuse or the piece to her puzzle?” Some of you may think, you’re that piece. Well I have news for you Honey, if she’s always crying, sad or mad because of something you did, sorry you’re not. In order for you to become a piece to her puzzle you have to bring something other than heartache and pain to the table.
In closing, most women just want to be loved, protected, and respected (cheating is a form of disrespect). If you’re not ready to provide those three things let her know, and stay single until then.!!!Attention!!!

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