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Female Male Dynamic

Question: Has the female male dynamic changed much since the 2000s?

  There has been much going on between the woman and man since the beginning of time. First the men were the providers and protectors and the women were the nurturers and the ones you went to for reason. They were also the ones who kept the house in order along with other duties. In this day and age that has changed. As most of us know times have advanced, and as a result, so has the role of the woman. I’m sure this isn’t true across the board, but everyday we’re making strides for women every where  to have the same rights as any man.

With that being said, there are some things I see a lot of women going through because we are the bearers and carriers of the seed. Because of this we are many times the one who takes responsibility when our other half does not want too. This is something I’ve spoken about before and just can’t shake loose. I’m sure this has a lot to do with growing up in a single parent household; my mother being the backbone of our family, emotionally and financially.

She like many other woman who’ve become mothers at ages as young as 12, 16 or sometimes younger, have had to put themselves to the side to make a way for the little person they have growing inside them. That’s if they’re willing to take on the responsibility.

I ask a simple question that deserves an answer.

“Why?”

Why is society the way it is? How did we get to this point? I understand in love or because of a woman’s nature she will fall victim to deception. That may have a lot to do with men being the decision makers.

I wish we all could be open minded and truly hear what our fellow (wo)man has to say. Regardless of gender, color, ethnicity, sexual orientation or any other factor I’ve failed to mention. I feel once we’re able to move beyond that we’ll all become better versions of ourselves.

If this is or has been a concern of yours, I would love to hear your thoughts

As Always

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Illusive Right

I’ve heard recently that women will no longer have the right to have abortions. I’m not understanding how a life altering event for a woman could no longer be in her own control. A man can choose to walk away from his responsibilities of being a father at any time; but a woman can’t?!  If she is forced to play a role in that childs’ life; the father of that child should have to go through the same things with her. Women don’t lay down and get pregnant on their own. So why should they be forced to raise these babies on thier own. If that was a requirement there would be less baby making and more raising. Men would stop impregnating women if they knew that they had to give more than money.

  Time is something that you can never get more of. That is why I think these men that want to spread their seed everywhere should have to spend a minimum of 20hrs a week with every child they ever fathered. By making that a requirement it would help the children involved to become a more developed individual. It will also make the father/ sperm donor think before they engage in unprotected intercourse with a woman they had no intention of making their wife in the first place. 

  What boggles my mind is men having the control to decide what a woman is allowed to do with HER body. I guarantee if men could get pregnant their whole perspective on abortions would change. I’m not saying that its right. I’m just saying that the choice should remain tangable. If not, alot of these young girls that find themselves in compromising situations are going to start dying from botched abortions like they use to. Just keep that in mind if you have a daughter.

  I’m almost positive that people believe that women who choose to have abortions or put their children up for aboption are very selfish individuals. That isn’t always the case. Many mothers I’ve talked to say that they gave their children up because they wanted their child to have the best and they knew that they weren’t in the position to give that to them. So they made the decision to let someone else give that to them or in other cases not bring that child into the world.

 Everything is perception. Never judge with out knowing the full story.

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