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Change

Good Afternoon!!!

Hope you are finding happiness and fulfillment where ever you are.

There seems to have been so many things that have begun to go right! I might feel that way because my perception changed. I have started to see the changes that are coming in to play as necessary obstacles I have to experience to get to my next bridge in life.

I was so focused on loosing what I had that I couldn’t appreciate what is soon to be. Granted the good things that have happened are small in comparison to the growth I’ve experienced over these 5 years. But I know that I can no longer be a back set driver when it comes to my life, decisions, energy, and my level of comfort are all things I left up to other people to decide. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized “NO” knows what’s best for you but you.

See what I was doing was allowing myself to become complacent. At first I was excited and things were good, then as time went on things slowly began to change. If you have no idea what I’m speaking of, I’m talking about my failed relationship. The one thing I have to say, I’m a queen at adapting to other peoples moods. I will adapt so effortlessly that I won’t even realize that I’ve adapted to fit into that persons pocket of comfortability. I say this because it is soooo true! For the longest time I was allowing myself to be uncomfortable in order not to make those around me feel that same exact way.

It really does become a disease to please, because when you’ve done it so much that you don’t realize when you do it…. it’s a problem; that needs to be fixed!

Now I’m moving on to what I believe will become something bigger and much better then my previous situation.

To all the grown folks who had to deal with people looking down on them or clowning them because you had to move back in with family, I commend you. It’s not easy admitting you failed; or not even that, you have a bigger vision that has a greater possibility of coming to fortition if you don’t have to stress so hard about bills and other things that come up when you live on your own. The help is needed and definitely appreciated. So don’t get stuck feeling like you failed because things didn’t work out like you thought.

Like I keep hearing:

“Maybe that wasn’t the vision God had for you.” 

Hope you enjoyed this blog and that it also brought you some kind of comfort, if you happen to be going through a big transition in your life.

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How it’s gonna be…..

Good Morning!

 

I feel a little bit better today. Not much has changed but the way I feel. I don’t feel as irritated and angry. Sometimes my emotions get the best of me. I’ve realized it’s good to hold your true emotions back sometime.

Well any, there is so much to be grateful for. Sometimes the ways of the world get in the way. You don’t realize how blessed you are because you have something in your life blocking you form that realization. That was me yesterday. I just felt inconvenienced and wanted to shut myself off from the world. I have to admit though, that is me on an everyday basis. Not because I don’t like people, mainly because I want to protect my energy.

People that I’ve grown up with and even my mother thinks I’m a little too sensitive because I take on other people’s problems as my own. I’m sorry! I don’t know how else to be. I’ve always internalized all problems, even if they weren’t mine. I understand that is something I need to work on. That is one of the main reasons I can’t be around certain people; because they will drain me of my energy. Whether you realize it or not it takes a lot of energy to really care about the next person’s problems.

At times I felt that I was an emotional dumping ground. That’s why I’m trying to prepare myself for when I move in with my mom. I know that I’m not going to be able to be home too often because she likes to invite people over; then wants me to come out and greet those people. She just doesn’t understand how uncomfortable that is for me.

Some times I get into moods where I don’t want to talk to anyone. When I’m around her, I have to talk to the people around her; if I don’t, I feel regretful of not saying anything to the other person, because I’m stuck thinking about the way I made them feel because I didn’t acknowledge them.

To be honest it’s a viscous cycle. That’s one of the main reasons I’m a person that like to stay to myself. The only time you’ll see me around other people is when I have to be or when it’s people I know really well and I consider them my friend. Not that I don’t have times when I can talk to complete strangers, because I can also do that; and have lovely conversations with them. I just believe over time I’ve allowed my shyness to dictate the way I live my life.

I have tried working on that, and I’m gonna to continue to work on that. The bad thing about being shy is never feeling free enough to do what you feel, and it’s not good in business either. That is another reason I need to work on getting passed this stage.

Do you know anyone who has this problem? And if that person is you, how are you helping yourself through this process?

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Good Morning!

Hope everyone is doing well.

So much is going through my mind and so many things I’m feeling right now.

There is a lot that’s gonna to take place this month. I’ve tried to keep quiet about it; I can’t help it though. There is so much you have to deal with when you and that person you were with decide to go separate ways. It makes it even harder when you were living with the person. Then not only that, I feel like my emotions are everywhere!

The move is really putting me through it. I mean “Yes, I’ve lived with my mother before.” But this time is going to be a lot different, because the way I have come to expect things is not going to be the way that it’s going to be over there. I’m sure I’ve said this plenty of times, but this is going to be a hard pill to swallow. Not only that, my shop isn’t doing that well.

I’ve always been the type to take care of myself. I was hoping that this was going to be a step in the right direction. Not saying I’m giving up on my store, it’s just a little discouraging not to have any sales. I get that it’s going to take a while for me to build up trust and a clientele, I’m just so impatient. That is the same thing with my book. I’ve tried to sale my book for over a year now and only a hand full of people have bought it.

It feels like ‘No” matter how hard I try I can’t catch a break! At the moment I feel like I’m hemorrhaging money. But I have to remember I’m always in my feelings when my finances aren’t in order.

If you have any encouraging words, I would love to hear some right bout now. Let me know you hear me and not just reading this because it’s something to do.

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A Bigger Purpose

Good Morning!!!!

Hope everyone is doing well.

I have to say; “I love the excitement opening an online store is giving me!” You never know when you’re going to get a sell, but it’s a lovely surprise when it happens. Yesterday I did my first hundred dollar sale! I’ve sold that much before, but this was the first time I sold that much at once in my shop. I packed that order so fast!

Then I had a friend of mine tell me how much my products have helped her with her skin condition. I initially started making soap because I wanted to increase the health and look of my skin; had no idea that it was going to be some peoples medicine! I looove it though! Love knowing I’m creating something that not only feels good but also helps with skin irritations.

I feel so blessed that my products serve a bigger purpose than just smelling good. I can remember being in my early teens, asking those around me about my skin and how it looked or felt. I’ve always taken pride in that, because I know that your skin is one of the biggest factors of your attractiveness. Without healthy skin you don’t appear as attractive and healthy to others as you could with healthy glowing skin. When your skin is poppin’ so is your confidence and health. Many times you can tell how healthy someone is just by looking at their skin.

Also many of these skin conditions can be rectified through topical applications and herbs. That’s why so many people are extremely pleased with my product; because it not only leaves your skin feeling smooth and smelling amazing, it also gives your skin those nutrients other soaps and detergents fail to.

Hope you enjoyed finding out why I started and why I continue to do what I do. Many will say medicine is the only way to go for a lot of these skin aliments; but I don’t believe that. I believe the earth provides us with everything we need. I’m not saying I’m a 100% naturalist; I’m only saying your medicine is your food.

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Mountain Of Success

Hey My Beautiful People!!!

Today is a good day! There’re things I have to be thankful for everyday, I know that, but today just feels like it’s gonna be a great one. Have you ever felt like that?

There’s plenty I have to do, but I’m not gonna let that overwhelm me. I’ll get to my desired place in life in do time. Patience is truly a virtue, because I’ve seemed to have run all out of mine. I now understand what so many others went through when first starting something that could potentially leave a legacy.

The seriousness that comes with starting something you eventually want everyone to experience at least once is a little heavy to think about in it’s entirety. I want to succeed so bad! I know it’s gonna be a fight to reach the type of status I’m striving to accomplish. Ready or not I’m coming. This work ethic is no joke and never will be. You only get out what you put in, and I intent to put everything I have into climbing that huge mountain of success.

The same goes for you. If you’re passionate about doing something you want the whole world to experience and also want to benefit off of it, there’s no shame in that. People only value things that carry a price. So if you put your time and energy in to something, never feel bad for charging a fee. I’ve learned from those have come up before me, that’s the only way others will learn to respect your craft.

Another thing, if you have a defeatist attitude, get rid of that A.S.A.P!!! You are never gonna get anywhere feeling sorry for yourself. Also what is it doing for you? I get you have to through yourself a pity party sometimes, but if you’re depressed more than you’re happy, some things need to change. Work on turning your life around so you can live the life God has for you. He never meant for you to be down and out for most of your days.

Inclosing, we only get a few days on this earth. Why spend the few good days you have miserable and unfulfilled? If life is hard for you right now look for that ‘Out’. You may not see it if you’re not looking hard enough.

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Stop Surviving, Start Living!!

What’s up Everyone?!

 

Everyday lived is a day filled with blessings. To see your blessings, sometime you have to slow down. I know it’s hard because we all want instant gratification. But have you ever heard the saying, “Good things come to those who wait”? I never really understood or believed that to be true, but the older I get the more it rings true.

All week I was thinking; “How am I going to survive the summer without work?” It brought me close to tears, because if I don’t work I don’t eat, let alone I won’t be able to pay my bills. It frustrated me so, because I’m trying to put all my effort and energy into this business I’m starting. I really don’t want to take away from that. But if I have to, it is what it is.

One thing I’ve realized during this pandemic is there are so many great huge things I want to do, and there’s no better time than the present. We constantly put off our dreams to survive. But what if we made a change and started dreaming to live. I get it may sound like a dead end, but life would be at least bearable then. At least for those of us who go to work to just pay bills.

I get I don’t think like the average person. For me there’s always a positive way to see things. Whether that be removing myself from that situation or building on it. If you allow yourself, you could see your way out of anything that isn’t serving you. The problem is; we allow the world to take our dreams, hold them captive and for some of us they never are released. Many of us remain prisoners of our society and never give another thought to that dream of doing something better and bigger than ourselves. All because of the road blocks that seem to appear every time we attempt to do something great. 

I have to say; I almost fell pry to it. I wanted to give up. Then I realized God wouldn’t have given me these visions of doing something bigger than myself if he didn’t want me to execute his plan. Most of all, what I’m doing now is causing me great happiness. Like I’ve said before; I know many of us don’t have the desire to have our own. Not because we don’t want it, but because of the workload that comes with having and owning your slice of the pie. Not saying laziness is the cause because it isn’t. It’s the life altering obligations some of us have that sometimes cause us to miss our mark.

Inconclusion, find that thing that brings you fulfillment. Whether that be having children, being a wife or owning a business; just live, stop surviving. 

 

 

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Learning the Importance of Formalities

Good Morning My Beautiful People!!!

As always, I hope everything is going in your favor.

Well today I was thinking; “What should the topic be today?” I figured I’d write a little on the different challenges I’m facing starting my own business. I have to be honest, I didn’t think this day was gonna come. Technically I’m still working on making it a reality.Legal Formalities for the Formation of a Company

I can’t begin to tell you how happy it feels to be doing something I enjoy so much!! Even though I enjoy creating soap there are some things I don’t enjoy, now that I’m starting a real business; and that’s all the legal things that come along with it. You have to make sure that you are completely covered just incase someone tries to come for your throat.

The other thing is coming up with a name. I currently have a name; it’s Heavenly Scents by Shadrieka. I’m going through the process of changing it because 1.) it’s too long & 2.) A lot of business’ have the name Heavenly Scents. Also I’m sure because that name is so widely used I would get lost in the shuffle because Heavenly Scents is such a popular name.

If you have any pointers on the next steps I should take or want to share any of your experiences with starting your own business; Please leave a comment. 

Also if there’s something you can do well and get paid for it, do it! STOP MAKING EXCUSES!! There is no better time than the present. If you keep waiting you may loose your chance. Stop waiting and start doing. Make those dreams come true. Life is filled with road blocks. It’s your job to either burst through them or pave your own way. But never allow a person, situation, or circumstance to dictate the things you’re capable of accomplishing!!

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Next!!!

Good afternoon!!!

I had no clue what I was going to talk about today. Once I got back home my topic seemed to fall right in my lap. I seem to talk about this individual a lot, but you have to understand I didn’t know the end was near. I also had no clue of his narcissism; it reared it’s head a couple of times. I just wanted to be in love and wanted him to be Mr. Right so bad that I paid no attention to it.

35 Relationship Quotes and Sayings for Her #relationships 35 Relationship Quotes and Sayings for Her - museulyMany times I’ve said being in this relationship made me feel like I was drowning and I needed to come up for air. The thing that made me stay was my own insecurities of feeling like I wasn’t as valuable on my own as I seemed to be while in a relationship. Also seeing the type of things other women have gone through, and have remained in that relationship with that man who disrespected them, did nothing for them, cheated on them; the list goes on. It had me believing that I shouldn’t expect too much from a man because he would always come up short.

The reason for this post today was because my Ex a.k.a roommate did something that triggered my jealousy. Then I had to quickly remind myself we are no longer together and there’s nothing for me to get upset about. After all, I realized what he’s offering, I do not want.

you can't pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself firstBut I’m gonna be honest with yawl, for a long time I thought I was the problem. I really use to pick myself apart when things would never go the way I planned while dating. Now I realize there’s nothing wrong with me. I just keep allowing the wrong kind of man to come in my life and turn s*** upside down.

This last time I have to say I was a little more guarded. I really believe I saw the red flags subconsciously, I just wasn’t ready to come to terms with them yet. I have to say though I’m in a better place mentally. If this was before I would have been all broken up about this current situation I’m in. One thing I know for sure my mother didn’t raise a weak woman. People ask me frequently how I’m able to live with my Ex without talking to each other. I’m not gonna say that it’s easy because it isn’t. It messes with me mentally everyday. But I’ll be damned if I move when my name is on this lease.

Part of me can’t wait for this lease to be up, but the other part of me is dreading that day. It’s only because I’m so use to having my own space, and once I move I won’t really have that anymore.

One things for sure, I’m gonna make something out of this faze of transitioning. God willing I’ll be in my new fully furnished apartment by 2021, working solely for myself.

Something I’ve learned during this time is; never sit still. They piss you off, use that anger to better yourself. Don’t worry about the next person they may be entertaining. You may not want to hear that right now; especially if you’re currently going through a bad break-up. But it’s truly something you need to hear and think about. Also don’t let your glow up be because you want to get back at them. Do it for you. You deserve everything this world has to offer and so much more .

True you may get a little jealous when you see all the couples out there. I just say; you never know what the next person had to go through for that person to be with them or be married to them. Keep in mind you’re on the outside looking in. Not saying there are no great relationships out there; I know there are. I just have decided that I’m not gonna settle for just a piece of someone when I know there’s someone out there who’s willing to give me their all.

Message of the day & always: Never Settle!!!!

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Shopify Store Coming Soon!!!!

Good Morning,

Hope everyone woke up happy and healthy this morning.

I wanted to speak about something other than the coronavirus. Although I have a lot of thoughts on the subject, I’m going to keep them to myself, for now.

Well as you know I opened an Etsy shop not to long ago. I thought at the time that was the best way to go, but it has proven to be uneventful. Mainly because all the fees that come with the platform. I know they have to pay bills too. But damn! I need to get some kind of return on investment.

I just felt like I was putting in too much work for them to be benefitting like a fat rat. I mean that may be how business works for many other people. But I’ve decided I can not do all of that and receive peons!!! So I’ve decided to move to another platform; Shopify. You know, do my on thing. I know there are going to be taxes at the end of the year, but at least I have the chance to see the profit.

Ya’ll wish me luck!!

I have never wanted something so bad and felt so close but yet so far at the same time. I know with time things will begin to work in my favor, I just have to stick with it.

The shop isn’t currently ready. But don’t worry, I’ll make sure to provide an announcement when it is.

if you didn’t know, I sale handmade soaps. Many are made with essential oils and others are made with fragrances. None of the soaps are made with any type of animal bi-product. All soaps are made with natural oils such as unrefined coconut oil or premium olive oil, along with other natural oils.

As I stated on my shops front page, every bath or shower taken with a soap from Heavenly Scents is an experience. Don’t believe me? Try one.

Ever since I began making soap, it has been the only soap I’ve used. As a result of that I am constantly being told how soft my skin is and how good I smell. Sometimes people don’t even have to say anything, you can tell by how often they try to invade your personal space; which is often.

I’m not saying the smell lasts all day, but it will linger for an hour or more.

I’m hoping you will give it a try. I guarantee you will absolutely love this soap once you’ve tried it.

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