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Simple Living?

Hope things are always going in your favor. Remember if they’re not it’s because you’re wrapped up in your negative thoughts.

You are the Master of your own destiny! I know that sounds a little corny, but it’s true. If you want bigger and better things to happen you have to believe and know that they are possible. I speak about this often, because a lot of us believe life is happening to us. In reality we are the shot callers and we haven’t realized how much control we give to other people and organizations.

We relinquish power before we don’t know what to do with it. Too often many of us are stuck working jobs we hate or make little to NO money from!

Recently inflation has skyrocketed, do to COVID-19 and actions of those in the White House. The sad thing is, people like me who are not making a comfortable salary are going to have to make some hard decisions; whether they want to spend 11 dollars on that bottle of Lysol, $5 dollars on that hand sanitizer, or going back to work making it almost inevitable they will catch the very virus they’ve been trying to protect themselves from for all these months.

The point I’m trying to make is, being safe or comfortable is not going to get you anywhere. You’re going to have to switch things up; do something different. Remaining safe or comfortable leads you down a path of monotony and boredom. I understand some of us live for safe and simple; but those aren’t the people I’m speaking too right now. I’m speaking to those of you who aren’t happy with the way life is for you currently. Those of you who have a long list of woulda, coulda, shouldas.

I’m sure there’re going to be many who won’t agree or even understand where I’m coming from. That’s okay if you don’t. I don’t expect everyone to have the same opinion or out look on this situation. Your opinions are your own.

The only thing I want those who read this blog to take away from it is; Live on your own terms. F*** what someone else has to say! People love to talk about what you should do when they haven’t or would never do what they’re telling you to do. That’s why you have to do what you’re comfortable with. Don’t feel pressured to follow the advice of someone else because you don’t want to upset them or you’re afraid of making the wrong choice. In the end you’re going to have to deal with the choice you made, regardless if someone made it for you.

Also if you need help getting to the stage of manifesting your dreams and aspirations, read Breaking the Habit of Being yourself written by: Joe Dispenza (Currently Reading) & Money and the Law of Attraction written by: Esther & Jerry Hicks (Currently Reading).

I’m sure there are many books out there that can help you manifest the life of your dreams, you just have to take that first step. If your mindset isn’t serving you at the current time, you need to work on the way you think and master the art of manifestation.

I don’t want to make this too long. So I’ll stop it here.

As always….

Thank you so much for reading!! I hope this blog helps you get your life going in the right direction, if it isn’t already.

Anything is possible!!! The first step is to believe it to be so.  Shadrieka Franks

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Agoraphobia-Extreme or irrational fear of entering open or crowded places.

Good Morning!!!

So much has changed!!! I have so much love around me and so many people to talk too. Something I didn’t have before. Well let me rephrase that, I am able to receive the love this go around. Before I felt it was too much and needed to get away. It’s not that I didn’t want the love; Really, who doesn’t want love? I just wanted that love from a man so bad that I hadn’t realized I would except anything to be with one. That is besides the point though.

Agoraphobia | Biological disorders | Psychiatry Journal

What I had in mind today are introverts; something I happen to be. The introvert thing is okay though. I’m okay with spending time alone. My main problem is receiving and being comfortable around other people. I hadn’t even thought about this for the past few months because I haven’t had to be around anyone I haven’t wanted to be around. So naturally the fear or shall I say the anxiety that comes with being around others is starting to rise.

That’s because moving back home has been like having an open nerve ending. I say that because my Mother is a very sociable person and I am not. For me being around more than 2 or 3 people is a recipe for anxiety and discomfort. I’ve always been this way. I do better in a one on one setting. I’ve tried to be that person that goes to clubs, parties and things like that; I’m just not set up that way. My anxiety is way to bad for me to be around a lot of people for an extended amount of time.

That’s why I can understand how we have people who never leave their house. Yes some of these people live in the most horrendous living conditions, but their comfortable. I’m sure some people never put in thought when it comes to seeing people like this and thinking about their back story and why they are the way they are. Well for someone like me who could have easily been a person like that; let me say that it is a struggle to get up and be around groups of people for an extended period of time. That is do largely to my tendency to over think and also because I’m extremely empathic.

So I guess what I’m is; If you have someone around you that is extremely sensitive and recluse, try to encourage them, rather than making them feel weird because they are extremely sensitive or anxiety ridden. Just to make it clear as to how it feels going around large groups of people; It’s like being in the ocean, you see the shark coming for you. You try to get away but you’re stuck in a state of shock. It’s like your mind is working overtime but your body just won’t move.

Enjoyed this Blog? Make sure to SHARE, SHARE, SHARE!!!! You never know who in your life maybe going through this type of thing daily.

This will let them know they’re not alone.

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Change

Good Afternoon!!!

Hope you are finding happiness and fulfillment where ever you are.

There seems to have been so many things that have begun to go right! I might feel that way because my perception changed. I have started to see the changes that are coming in to play as necessary obstacles I have to experience to get to my next bridge in life.

I was so focused on loosing what I had that I couldn’t appreciate what is soon to be. Granted the good things that have happened are small in comparison to the growth I’ve experienced over these 5 years. But I know that I can no longer be a back set driver when it comes to my life, decisions, energy, and my level of comfort are all things I left up to other people to decide. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized “NO” knows what’s best for you but you.

See what I was doing was allowing myself to become complacent. At first I was excited and things were good, then as time went on things slowly began to change. If you have no idea what I’m speaking of, I’m talking about my failed relationship. The one thing I have to say, I’m a queen at adapting to other peoples moods. I will adapt so effortlessly that I won’t even realize that I’ve adapted to fit into that persons pocket of comfortability. I say this because it is soooo true! For the longest time I was allowing myself to be uncomfortable in order not to make those around me feel that same exact way.

It really does become a disease to please, because when you’ve done it so much that you don’t realize when you do it…. it’s a problem; that needs to be fixed!

Now I’m moving on to what I believe will become something bigger and much better then my previous situation.

To all the grown folks who had to deal with people looking down on them or clowning them because you had to move back in with family, I commend you. It’s not easy admitting you failed; or not even that, you have a bigger vision that has a greater possibility of coming to fortition if you don’t have to stress so hard about bills and other things that come up when you live on your own. The help is needed and definitely appreciated. So don’t get stuck feeling like you failed because things didn’t work out like you thought.

Like I keep hearing:

“Maybe that wasn’t the vision God had for you.” 

Hope you enjoyed this blog and that it also brought you some kind of comfort, if you happen to be going through a big transition in your life.

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Control Your Future…

Good Afternoon!!

There are so many things that are changing around me. There are also so many trials I have and am going through. With in the next two to three weeks I have to get my stuff together and prepare to move. The life I’ve grown accustom to will have to be shifted a little, because I’m doing what most entrepreneurs do when they’re trying to get their selves off the ground; moving in with my parent.

You have to be a little uncomfortable during the process. I knew it was gonna be hard work. I can’t say that I would want it any other way. As most know, I never wanted to work for someone else’s company. I would always say that I’m gonna have my own business. Even then I knew I did not like taking orders.

As I got older I started to find myself. It took me a lot longer than most, but I’m happy the process has finally took place. I knew I wanted to provide something to the public, but for the longest time I couldn’t figure out what that was. I new I wanted it to be either smell or for skin.

I thought for a long time about making a perfume. Then I thought who is going to buy this? No one knows me! Then also about the money that would have to go into the process of making it. Then I thought about creating paid webinars. That only came to mind because other bloggers said that is one of the only ways to make money.

One thing’s for certain, I become physically debilitated some days when having to work with others. See I have extremely bad anxiety; I’m always letting my thoughts run away from me. In my case that isn’t a good thing, because I have the tendency to over think and take offence when there’s no reason too.

But now I have finally figured out what type of business I would like to have. As you may have seen, I chose skin care. What I’ve started with are all natural soaps. Since I’ve started using my own soap my skin has become extremely smooth and my skin tone has evened out a whole lot!

Side note: I remember being at work with my pre-k babies and they would always rub my arms. I thought it was weird. I had no idea why they always did that. That wasn’t the only thing, they also loved to smell my skin. As we all know, children do not lie. I later on realized they did this because they liked the way I smelled and because I have extremely smooth skin; and I owe that to my natural artisan soaps.

I have always been obsessed with having smooth, even toned, healthy skin. I think I found my calling. I love what I do. Now the test is getting others to believe in me too.

These blogs are for me, but they’re also for you. I never want to stop motivating you to reach for your dreams. If it’s something you want to do, all you have to do is put in the effort.

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Thoughts

The Beginning

Good Afternoon!!

How long have you been Loc’D? (It’s been 2 years for @homegrownlocs Gorgeous!
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#iamlocd #locs #locjourney #locd #starterlocs #interlocs #microlocs #interlocks #interlocjourney #homegrownlocs #locs #dreads #teamlocs #womenwithlocs #locstyles...Another day done in this quarantine. Y’all I got so bored and was thinking so much, that I decided to start my loc journey. I’ve been wanting to do this FOREVER. Given the amount of time we have off from work, I was like, “Why not?” I debated for a long time if I was going to get someone else to them, but eventually I decided I would do it myself. Not because of different energies; mainly because of convenience and expenses.

I have to admit, it was a lot easier than I thought it was going to be. I’m sure actually going through with the beginning process is the easy part. Everything that comes after is going to be the most challenging. For the people reading this who have locs they know what they had to endure during the beginning stages.

I don’t know exactly what I have ahead of me, but I am really looking forward to the ride. One thing I know for sure is there are going to be stares; partly because people are people and they’re always going to have an opinion if they don’t like something. But one thing I know I’m going to have to continue telling myself is, “I’m doing this for me, not for anyone or any other reason”. It’s going to be tough but I’m completely aware and ready.

Image result for two strand loc journeyAlso I’ve chosen to begin my journey with two strand twists. How it’ll look in a year I’m not sure but I’m excited to find out.

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Experiences · motivational

Good morning!!!!

Hope everything and everyone is okay, and things are going superb in your lives.

Well as for an update on me; I’m venturing into the soap making world…. I love it!!!

To be honest I already knew it was going to be something I would do on the regular, because I love to smell good. But the process alone is so satisfying.

It’s one of those things you do to feel relaxed, especially if you’re stressed. The other great thing about is being about to mold and alter it in anyway you choose. You have complete creative control.

Here’s a picture of the first batch I made, just a couple of days ago.

On the top are lavender buds.


If you’re trying something new I would love to know what it is. I might wanna try it too.


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