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Simple Living?

Hope things are always going in your favor. Remember if they’re not it’s because you’re wrapped up in your negative thoughts.

You are the Master of your own destiny! I know that sounds a little corny, but it’s true. If you want bigger and better things to happen you have to believe and know that they are possible. I speak about this often, because a lot of us believe life is happening to us. In reality we are the shot callers and we haven’t realized how much control we give to other people and organizations.

We relinquish power before we don’t know what to do with it. Too often many of us are stuck working jobs we hate or make little to NO money from!

Recently inflation has skyrocketed, do to COVID-19 and actions of those in the White House. The sad thing is, people like me who are not making a comfortable salary are going to have to make some hard decisions; whether they want to spend 11 dollars on that bottle of Lysol, $5 dollars on that hand sanitizer, or going back to work making it almost inevitable they will catch the very virus they’ve been trying to protect themselves from for all these months.

The point I’m trying to make is, being safe or comfortable is not going to get you anywhere. You’re going to have to switch things up; do something different. Remaining safe or comfortable leads you down a path of monotony and boredom. I understand some of us live for safe and simple; but those aren’t the people I’m speaking too right now. I’m speaking to those of you who aren’t happy with the way life is for you currently. Those of you who have a long list of woulda, coulda, shouldas.

I’m sure there’re going to be many who won’t agree or even understand where I’m coming from. That’s okay if you don’t. I don’t expect everyone to have the same opinion or out look on this situation. Your opinions are your own.

The only thing I want those who read this blog to take away from it is; Live on your own terms. F*** what someone else has to say! People love to talk about what you should do when they haven’t or would never do what they’re telling you to do. That’s why you have to do what you’re comfortable with. Don’t feel pressured to follow the advice of someone else because you don’t want to upset them or you’re afraid of making the wrong choice. In the end you’re going to have to deal with the choice you made, regardless if someone made it for you.

Also if you need help getting to the stage of manifesting your dreams and aspirations, read Breaking the Habit of Being yourself written by: Joe Dispenza (Currently Reading) & Money and the Law of Attraction written by: Esther & Jerry Hicks (Currently Reading).

I’m sure there are many books out there that can help you manifest the life of your dreams, you just have to take that first step. If your mindset isn’t serving you at the current time, you need to work on the way you think and master the art of manifestation.

I don’t want to make this too long. So I’ll stop it here.

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Thank you so much for reading!! I hope this blog helps you get your life going in the right direction, if it isn’t already.

Anything is possible!!! The first step is to believe it to be so.  Shadrieka Franks

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Nice Guys Finish Last

Sometimes or they act like they don't understand and you're the bad guy when you treat them like they treated you all along. It was no big deal while they were doing it (because "that's just how they are" or "they were just trying to make so and so happy"), but you're just mean when give them they same treatment that they have given you the entire time you've known them!

Good Afternoon !

Have you ever just wondered why, “Nice guys finish last”?

That is something I was just speaking about with my Dad. Never understood why the people who treat you wrong get the upmost respect and then those who actually value you get treated like something on the bottom of your shoe.

Just something I’ve always thought  of that never really made any sense to me… That is until I realized we treat those we want approval from with more care than the ones we know we already have their love and approval. It’s like I already know you’re gonna love me regardless, so I don’t have to put to much effort into pleasing you. It’s something many of us do unconsciously. Many of us don’t want to make anyone feel not appreciated, but sometimes you do. It’s a common human flaw.

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Change

Good Afternoon!!!

Hope you are finding happiness and fulfillment where ever you are.

There seems to have been so many things that have begun to go right! I might feel that way because my perception changed. I have started to see the changes that are coming in to play as necessary obstacles I have to experience to get to my next bridge in life.

I was so focused on loosing what I had that I couldn’t appreciate what is soon to be. Granted the good things that have happened are small in comparison to the growth I’ve experienced over these 5 years. But I know that I can no longer be a back set driver when it comes to my life, decisions, energy, and my level of comfort are all things I left up to other people to decide. As I’ve gotten older I’ve realized “NO” knows what’s best for you but you.

See what I was doing was allowing myself to become complacent. At first I was excited and things were good, then as time went on things slowly began to change. If you have no idea what I’m speaking of, I’m talking about my failed relationship. The one thing I have to say, I’m a queen at adapting to other peoples moods. I will adapt so effortlessly that I won’t even realize that I’ve adapted to fit into that persons pocket of comfortability. I say this because it is soooo true! For the longest time I was allowing myself to be uncomfortable in order not to make those around me feel that same exact way.

It really does become a disease to please, because when you’ve done it so much that you don’t realize when you do it…. it’s a problem; that needs to be fixed!

Now I’m moving on to what I believe will become something bigger and much better then my previous situation.

To all the grown folks who had to deal with people looking down on them or clowning them because you had to move back in with family, I commend you. It’s not easy admitting you failed; or not even that, you have a bigger vision that has a greater possibility of coming to fortition if you don’t have to stress so hard about bills and other things that come up when you live on your own. The help is needed and definitely appreciated. So don’t get stuck feeling like you failed because things didn’t work out like you thought.

Like I keep hearing:

“Maybe that wasn’t the vision God had for you.” 

Hope you enjoyed this blog and that it also brought you some kind of comfort, if you happen to be going through a big transition in your life.

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Stop Surviving, Start Living!!

What’s up Everyone?!

 

Everyday lived is a day filled with blessings. To see your blessings, sometime you have to slow down. I know it’s hard because we all want instant gratification. But have you ever heard the saying, “Good things come to those who wait”? I never really understood or believed that to be true, but the older I get the more it rings true.

All week I was thinking; “How am I going to survive the summer without work?” It brought me close to tears, because if I don’t work I don’t eat, let alone I won’t be able to pay my bills. It frustrated me so, because I’m trying to put all my effort and energy into this business I’m starting. I really don’t want to take away from that. But if I have to, it is what it is.

One thing I’ve realized during this pandemic is there are so many great huge things I want to do, and there’s no better time than the present. We constantly put off our dreams to survive. But what if we made a change and started dreaming to live. I get it may sound like a dead end, but life would be at least bearable then. At least for those of us who go to work to just pay bills.

I get I don’t think like the average person. For me there’s always a positive way to see things. Whether that be removing myself from that situation or building on it. If you allow yourself, you could see your way out of anything that isn’t serving you. The problem is; we allow the world to take our dreams, hold them captive and for some of us they never are released. Many of us remain prisoners of our society and never give another thought to that dream of doing something better and bigger than ourselves. All because of the road blocks that seem to appear every time we attempt to do something great. 

I have to say; I almost fell pry to it. I wanted to give up. Then I realized God wouldn’t have given me these visions of doing something bigger than myself if he didn’t want me to execute his plan. Most of all, what I’m doing now is causing me great happiness. Like I’ve said before; I know many of us don’t have the desire to have our own. Not because we don’t want it, but because of the workload that comes with having and owning your slice of the pie. Not saying laziness is the cause because it isn’t. It’s the life altering obligations some of us have that sometimes cause us to miss our mark.

Inconclusion, find that thing that brings you fulfillment. Whether that be having children, being a wife or owning a business; just live, stop surviving. 

 

 

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Learning the Importance of Formalities

Good Morning My Beautiful People!!!

As always, I hope everything is going in your favor.

Well today I was thinking; “What should the topic be today?” I figured I’d write a little on the different challenges I’m facing starting my own business. I have to be honest, I didn’t think this day was gonna come. Technically I’m still working on making it a reality.Legal Formalities for the Formation of a Company

I can’t begin to tell you how happy it feels to be doing something I enjoy so much!! Even though I enjoy creating soap there are some things I don’t enjoy, now that I’m starting a real business; and that’s all the legal things that come along with it. You have to make sure that you are completely covered just incase someone tries to come for your throat.

The other thing is coming up with a name. I currently have a name; it’s Heavenly Scents by Shadrieka. I’m going through the process of changing it because 1.) it’s too long & 2.) A lot of business’ have the name Heavenly Scents. Also I’m sure because that name is so widely used I would get lost in the shuffle because Heavenly Scents is such a popular name.

If you have any pointers on the next steps I should take or want to share any of your experiences with starting your own business; Please leave a comment. 

Also if there’s something you can do well and get paid for it, do it! STOP MAKING EXCUSES!! There is no better time than the present. If you keep waiting you may loose your chance. Stop waiting and start doing. Make those dreams come true. Life is filled with road blocks. It’s your job to either burst through them or pave your own way. But never allow a person, situation, or circumstance to dictate the things you’re capable of accomplishing!!

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Next!!!

Good afternoon!!!

I had no clue what I was going to talk about today. Once I got back home my topic seemed to fall right in my lap. I seem to talk about this individual a lot, but you have to understand I didn’t know the end was near. I also had no clue of his narcissism; it reared it’s head a couple of times. I just wanted to be in love and wanted him to be Mr. Right so bad that I paid no attention to it.

35 Relationship Quotes and Sayings for Her #relationships 35 Relationship Quotes and Sayings for Her - museulyMany times I’ve said being in this relationship made me feel like I was drowning and I needed to come up for air. The thing that made me stay was my own insecurities of feeling like I wasn’t as valuable on my own as I seemed to be while in a relationship. Also seeing the type of things other women have gone through, and have remained in that relationship with that man who disrespected them, did nothing for them, cheated on them; the list goes on. It had me believing that I shouldn’t expect too much from a man because he would always come up short.

The reason for this post today was because my Ex a.k.a roommate did something that triggered my jealousy. Then I had to quickly remind myself we are no longer together and there’s nothing for me to get upset about. After all, I realized what he’s offering, I do not want.

you can't pour from an empty cup, take care of yourself firstBut I’m gonna be honest with yawl, for a long time I thought I was the problem. I really use to pick myself apart when things would never go the way I planned while dating. Now I realize there’s nothing wrong with me. I just keep allowing the wrong kind of man to come in my life and turn s*** upside down.

This last time I have to say I was a little more guarded. I really believe I saw the red flags subconsciously, I just wasn’t ready to come to terms with them yet. I have to say though I’m in a better place mentally. If this was before I would have been all broken up about this current situation I’m in. One thing I know for sure my mother didn’t raise a weak woman. People ask me frequently how I’m able to live with my Ex without talking to each other. I’m not gonna say that it’s easy because it isn’t. It messes with me mentally everyday. But I’ll be damned if I move when my name is on this lease.

Part of me can’t wait for this lease to be up, but the other part of me is dreading that day. It’s only because I’m so use to having my own space, and once I move I won’t really have that anymore.

One things for sure, I’m gonna make something out of this faze of transitioning. God willing I’ll be in my new fully furnished apartment by 2021, working solely for myself.

Something I’ve learned during this time is; never sit still. They piss you off, use that anger to better yourself. Don’t worry about the next person they may be entertaining. You may not want to hear that right now; especially if you’re currently going through a bad break-up. But it’s truly something you need to hear and think about. Also don’t let your glow up be because you want to get back at them. Do it for you. You deserve everything this world has to offer and so much more .

True you may get a little jealous when you see all the couples out there. I just say; you never know what the next person had to go through for that person to be with them or be married to them. Keep in mind you’re on the outside looking in. Not saying there are no great relationships out there; I know there are. I just have decided that I’m not gonna settle for just a piece of someone when I know there’s someone out there who’s willing to give me their all.

Message of the day & always: Never Settle!!!!

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The Road to Creating Your Own Happiness

Good Afternoon Beautiful People!!

It’s Fun Friday!!! What are you doing today?.. I wish I could say that I was doing something fun, but the fun days won’t come until all my efforts of making it have been recognized and I’ve been compensated.

Some of you may think because I think this way that money is the only thing that matters to me. Well…. that’s not entirely true. What matters most to me is the freedom of working for yourself. That’s why I push myself so hard. If I don’t push me who will? I have to have that ambition to make it in this life. There’s no more mediocrity for me anymore. I plan to live this life to the fullest.

The only way that seems possible is by making my own path and obliterating the one others believe I should follow. I’m too talented, gifted and smart to be put in anyone’s box. Hell… you should feel like that too. Don’t let no one tell you what you can and can’t do. I’ve said it before, but I’ma say it again for the ones in the back, “Do you boo!” Forget about what other people think you’d be better off doing. Live your days the way you choose. Have fun, make s*** loads of money, ride an elephant, visit the Bermuda Triangle. The point is to live freely and unapologetically. Don’t leave this earth regretting you didn’t do this or that because you were trying to make someone else happy. Who’s responsibility is it to make you happy?…. YOU!!!! That’s who.

Stop making your happiness about someone else, because happiness comes from within. That goes both ways, you can’t make someone internally happy; that’s up to them not you.

So this weekend throw one back for me. I hope you enjoy yourself. Hell, get in a little trouble while you’re at it. Not too much though.

Also just want to think all of ya’ll that mess with me the long way. I know somedays you may not know the Shadrieka you’re going to get, but you still keep coming back and I thank you immensely for that.

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Transitioning?

Good Morning!!!!!

Question of the day: Moving back with your parents; how would you feel about that after experiencing real independence?

  S*** is getting real, real quick. I knew this day was coming, I just didn’t realize how fast it was gonna get here. The last time I checked I still had five months. At that time 5 months seemed like a lot of time to get my s*** together. But as we all know when you’re in a time crunch, days roll around like minutes, and months go around like hours.

   So now I’m about two months away from the final day of living in my lovely first apartment. I’m sure once the day comes for me to move I’m gonna be so emotional, because I really created a bond and a love for where I live. There were so many days coming home from work an event whatever the case was; I would be so happy to just go home. What made me so at peace with being home alone is the fact that I saw it as an accomplishment. Also there was a peace in coming home knowing I was the boss of me and didn’t have to do anything if I didn’t want too.

For years before I moved out of my mother’s house I thought I would never be able to move out. Now I know I’m capable of taking care of myself. The relationship didn’t work out, but at least I can say I’ve learned a hell of a lot about myself in the process. It almost brings me to tears thinking of how much I pushed the real me down to fit into other peoples ideal of me. I have way more to learn, but I know I’m well on my way to becoming the free unbound spirit I know I was always meant to be.

Believe me I know it’s a hard task to be 100% you and not care about the judgement and dirty looks you may get from others because you choose to do things differently. Especially when you’re a highly sensitive person. Many may not understand why being highly sensitive makes being a free spirit that much harder; I’m gonna explain it to you.

Highly sensitive people like myself and many others don’t always do what’s in their heart and minds to do because they’re extremely affected by the thoughts and feelings of the people around them. So if you tell an HSP something is going to make you unhappy or upset, they’re gonna try to do everything in their power to keep you from experiencing those emotions. That’s why a lot of Highly Sensitive People (HSP’s) or sometimes Empaths put their wants and needs on the back burner because we’re more concerned with making others feel at ease over ourselves.

  I know moving back is not going to be an easy transition, but God willing it will be a productive one. One thing I definitely don’t want to happen is; loosing sight of my goals. Which is producing & selling more books, making and selling more soaps, having a successful Podcast & YouTube. I’m sure I left something out. If you can’t tell, I want to live a life of abundance in everyway. 

   I guess I feel like this because I spent so much time caring about what other people thought about me and what I do. For years depression and anxiety took over my days, making me paralyzed to the different things I wanted to try and accomplish. I was so overwhelmed with how others viewed me I gave no thought to how I viewed and felt about myself. As I write this I feel the tears wanting to escape, because not that long ago depression and anxiety were ruling my days. I’m still a work in progress. I still have those days when I feel sad and anxious. But you know what gets me through?…. Knowing I have goals to accomplish and how good I’m going to feel when everything I’ve been working for comes to fortition.

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Good Afternoon Everyone!!!

 

I apologize for not posting for the last couple of days. There’s been so much going on. A couple of great things happened to me this weekend though. Wait for it… I MADE MY FIRST HUNDRED DOLLARS AS AN ENTREPRENEUR!!!  I can’t begin to tell you how good that made me feel!! And to know they love my products and the way they feel on their skin, is a plus.

I’m finally starting to see some light at the end of the tunnel. When I say having the goal of living life on your own terms is hard, I mean just that. There is so much that goes into getting other people to believe in you and what you stand for; it’s a very hard task indeed. You have to build relationships, and not shallow ones either. They have to know that your intentions are pure and that you want the best for them, not just their money. There’s almost no way you’re going to get support from your peers if they know nothing about you or your brand. That’s a very crucial lesson I’ve learned in my attempts to sale books and soap. It just seems the soap is working out a little better than the book did. Believe me, it’s not because the book wasn’t all that and then some, because it was. I just know selling soap would be way easier, not to say that I’m done with writing because that’ll never happen.

The thing is, more people care about being clean and their skin than they ever would a book. So all that passion I had for writing, I still express it through my blogs but my creative thinking goes into my soap, for the time being. Cause like I always say, ” I don’t want to work for anyone anymore.” Before I just didn’t see the way I was going to exit the life of working for others. Now I have that “Out” and I thank God for it.

My Brand

Well you should know there’s no way I’m gonna to end this post without speaking about the products I sale. At the current time I only sale soaps, some are all natural with only 100% essential oils as the fragrance, others are mixed with pleasantly scented fragrance oils. Also the base for all the soaps are made only with oils from the earth; such as coconut, olive, canola, and a slew of others. 

I chose the natural way because I decided a long time ago that my living wasn’t going to impose on other living beings. I’m still a work in progress, but with every passing day I learn a little bit more. I’m happy I found soap making, because it gave me that creative release I needed. As a result I’m also able to give back to others by making soap that is cruelty free and great for the skin. 

 I don’t want to make this too long, so I guess I’ll stop here. 

 

Question of the Day: If there was something you could sale or offer to get out of the Rat Race we call life, what would it be?

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Marriage?

What You Should Know About Child Marriage - David O. - Medium
The bond between two who have decided to become one.

Question of the day: Is Marriage still Necessary?

Marriage…..

A lot of us don’t see the point in it anymore. I guess you could say I would love to be married without having to be legally bonded to the other person. Like they say marriage is a contract. I don’t know the specifics, but there’s no way I’m gonna let someone make money off of me.

I can’t lie though, I would love to be married for reasons other than security, insecurities, or finances. I’m some what of a romantic, so the idea of someone choosing to spend their life with me is a flattering thought.

I understand decades upon decades ago, it was neccessary and sometimes mandatory for women to get married to men of a particular stature because they needed security and financial support.

These days that’s a thing of the past. Even though I’m sure there’re many who still get married because of a person’s economical status, it’s less of a requirement.

Earlier I was reading a post on “Marriage”, if it was a thing of the past or if it was still necessary. The person’s stance on the matter was “No” because they believed it had everything to do with needing something from the other person.

In this post the writer made it seem as if being married is a sign of weakness. But from what I’ve experienced it can be a beautiful fruitful union if both parties are willing and ready to put in the work.

What’s sad is, people have been taught and conditioned to believe if you need someone in your life, you’re weak; that’s far from the truth. The real strength comes when you’ve been hurt over and over again and still have the strength to love and be open and honest with your other half. That’s why when most refer to marriage they say things like, “When two become one” or ” Your other half?” They say this because there’s an unseen security that comes with being in great marriage, where you understand him and he understands you.

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