Experiences · Feelings · Informative · motivational · self-esteem · Thoughts

Learning To Let Go

How well do you know yourself?

I chose this as my opening statement because a lot of us deal with things, all because we believe we can’t or don’t deserve to have better. Or we just except our circumstances because we haven’t learned there are better ways of living.

I’m sure daily, you’ve gone through many unwanted, not so great feelings of emotion, that you’ve learned to stuff down, just to get through the day.

That isn’t they way life should be. You should never feel like, “I just need to get through it.”. Do you remember when you were a kid and all you could think of was what you would be able to do when you got grown?

Well, you’re grown now…. What are you doing about it? Do you have that life you’ve always dreamed of? Or are you living a life full of mediocrity, because you’re to scared to leave that box of comfort and complacency?

For a long time, I’ve let others determine how I walk my path in life. Not really taking on the responsibility of living the life I truly want, because I’m afraid of failing. But I’ve learned, failure is something I’m gonna to have to grow to except, if I want to make this life become that dream life I always wanted.

What I’ve learned on this two month vacation, I will take with me through life. During this time I really got to learn me all over again. What I learned during this time; I love people, I don’t like structured environments, I love freedom over any other feeling, and I’m strong enough without the aid of a relationship.

I have to say, learning all of this and gaining strength and confidence in myself is a gift I’ve always had, but because of past circumstances I lost that bold fun loving girl, I use to be. Because of those circumstances, I learned a long time ago how fit into the space I was given. For so long, I couldn’t express how I really felt, because there was always some form of retaliation once I did.

But the beautiful thing about becoming an adult is, you have more control over your energy, and who you allow to be in it. You don’t have to be around those people who bring you down, or the ones who only know you when they need something, or those “friends” who manipulate you into doing something you don’t want to. There isn’t anything wrong with shutting these people out of your life. Don’t let them make you feel like there is. Sometime you have to cut others off, so you can become the best version of “you”; and there’s nothing wrong with that. You even have Oprah telling you the same thing, so listen up and know those situations were given to you, so you could learn and grow from them.

Remember you have one life. What you decide to do with it is nobodies fault but your own. So when you get to the end of life; do you want to wonder would could have happened or are you going to have the balls to go out and make some s*** happen? The choice is yours.

Safe Never Got Anyone Anywhere.

If you are someone like myself who is or has developed an introverted personality; try everyday to change your reality. Sis it’s all in your head. The truth is, most people forget you as soon as you walk away; and chances are, you’re not doing anything they haven’t seen before, anyway. So get out your head and do you, without the fear of judgement; because the reality is no one’s judging you as hard as you’re judging yourself.

Love yourself enough to be free.

empowering · Thoughts


Good Morning!!!!

I wanted to let you all in on a little secret…..

I’m gonna be starting a podcast! I’m excited! It’s something very new to me. But it’s also something I’ve always wanted to do.

There are so many things I’m going to talk about! I’m getting excited just thinking about it.

Sample List of Topics:

  • Sexuality
  • Relationships
  • Family
  • Finances
  • Trust
  • Humility
  • Mindfulness
  • Life Style
  • Meditation

And there’s going to be plenty more, but those are just to start.

Also I was thinking of bringing a Freaky Friday to the blog. A day where I could create short Erotic stories. Something that could give you just the boost you need for the weekend.

There are changes coming; I’m hoping very very soon. Now’s the time to have fun. And that’s exactly what I plan to do.

Have a blessed, safe, fulfilling Monday.

As Always…

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Do you ever wake up some days and wonder, “Why do I feel so damn good!”? That’s me today. I am up and it’s currently 3:50am. I don’t have to be to work until 7:45am. I just hope that I can last all day. My current job is working with children K-5. Believe me, it’s not easy. I wish I knew where they were getting the energy from, because I need some.

Oh, I know why I’m happy; because there are only 4 more weeks til the end of the school year. I know a lot of you who have been reading my blogs, have seen the ups and downs I’ve gone through with my last employer; and have gone through loosing my last job with me. I’m sure you’re probably wondering why I’m so happy about the end of the year, when just 3 months ago I was worried and stressed out about bills and loosing my job. I guess you could say I’m a person who works better with my mind, and doing something that requires more mental strength than physical. That’s why this summer is going to be the time for me to act out the things I’ve always wanted to do to further me in my business. I would have tried to do those things before; but at the time I didn’t have the funds. By the grace of God, I have acquired what I need to get the type of exposure I’ve been craving. So instead of being stressed out, I’m going to take the time needed to prepare and plan for my future business ventures. I’m so thankful that I’m finally able to have a little freedom.

As most of you should know by now, when I write a post I always want you take something from it you can use in your life. This one is no different. If you haven’t guessed what that message is; it’s one of resilience, faith, and maintaining your ambition, to live and do what you love. As I always say, nothing is impossible. All you have to do is believe and it will make itself visible.

Also, READ!!! There are so many great books out there that haven’t been touched because they aren’t as easy to consume as an episode of Love and Hip Hop or…. lets say Star. Take the time to pour into yourself. If you didn’t know, that is what you’re doing every time you pick up and read  a book cover to cover. Sometimes that’s what you need; are times when it’s just you and that amazingly written book. If you don’t know what to start with I’ll give you some suggestions.

Self Help

  • People Pleaser
  • The Code of the Extraordinary Mind (currently reading)
  • The Art of Saying No
  • Who Moved My Cheese


  • Fly Girl
  • APF
  • Shame on it All
  • Nervous
  • Little Girl Lost
  • Friends and Lovers
  • Milk in my Coffee
  • Full Figure Plus Size Divas Vol12
  • God Help the Child
  • Lipstick Hustles


  • Stolen Legacy
  • Ancient America
  • The Teaching of Ptahhotep
  • From Babylon to Timbuktu
  • The Secret Chamber of Osiris
  • Medical Apartheid


  • Rich Dad Poor Dad
  • Unfair Advantage

These are only a few books I’ve read. Let me know if you found this list helpful. And if you have any books you want to recommend; you think I’ll like, please do. I’m always ready to read something new.

Also if you like books filled with drama and lust, please check out my recently published book. Loyalty: Love, Lies, and Betrayal.