I’m sure I said this before; but you have to get a little uncomfortable to be comfortable. What that means is there are going to be somethings you’re not going to want to do, because it doesn’t pay or it seems to be tedious and a big waste of time. But those are the things you’re going to have to do to get to the places in life you want to be.
As many of us later on find out, life isn’t as easy as some people make it look. Sometimes you feel like your head is barely above the surface. Expenses keep pilling, responsibility seems to keep increasing, but the pay stays the same. Over and over we go through the feelings of worry, frustration, anger, and depression; and not always in that order.
I’ve been told many time that I take everything and everyone in my life to seriously. I’ve been told to lighten up many times; advice I really need to learn to apply to my everyday life. If I don’t, I fear I’m going to make myself sick from worry. But how can the girl who indirectly plans every interaction make this change and let things just happen? I don’t know but I’m willing to learn.
So when I say “Do what you have to do, so later you can do what you wanna do” That means go through all the rough and uncomfortable shifts early, so that by the time you’re in your late 30’s early 40’s you can be comfortable and have your money work for you.
Once this happens for me, I fear I won’t know what to do with myself; in a good way. Just think about it; arriving at a point of wealth many people do not get the chance to obtain.
The only things I want are to have my huge condo, over looking the water, spacious bathroom; tub separated from the show. The main feature of the show is it’s an over the head shower in the center of the bathroom, with a sky light. The last thing a lap dog and to take care of every single person in my family who has and continues to struggle.
Wealth can be built, but you have to be willing to take the risk
Does a woman have to be able to hold her own, to command the attention of man?
These days society tells us, we have to be a man’s equal, in every way. That isn’t a bad thing. Some women don’t mind working and bringing that ‘bag’ home. Then you have others who were taught, a man is suppose to take care of them. It seems these days more men want women to be the ones doing the caring. I’m not saying all men, but there’s a large amount of them who do.
I never thought I would see the day a man would be okay with a woman paying the bulk of the bills. I get sometimes you may fall on hard times, and need your wife or girlfriend to lift you up. But too many times you come across men who’s soul purpose is to find a woman or person they can use. I’ve seen countless examples of men using women, vice verse, and even in some same sex relationships. The sad thing is, men think they’re justified for using a woman, because they claim women have been doing it for ages. That may have been true; but there was always a trade off.
What many men don’t or do not want to realize is back in the day when young beautiful girls married rich older or old men, it was for power or wealth. Many times it wasn’t their choice to marry the men the were betrothed to. They did it for the well being of their family or for their country.
The truth is, women have been gifts to men for centuries; in some countries, still are. I get that some men have learned to do this because they had a woman break their heart, however long ago. But you gotta learn to shack it off and keep trying until you get it right.
One thing I love about being a woman, is our resilience. Many of us go through heartbreak after heartbreak, and still find a way to love, every time. Men on the other hand, are not so forgiving. Most men are only going to allow their heart to be broken once or twice, before they go through a “HOE faze”. Then usually, once they’ve gotten it out of their system and find the woman they want to spend the rest of their life with; they’ll love again, it won’t ever be like that first time, though.
Why have women given their power away?
Many women don’t even know; being a woman is a very powerful thing. I think it’s because a lot women aren’t taught their value. So when these f***boys come around, we believe everything they say. The reason that is, a lot of times because we haven’t had a male figure around to help raise us. Everything relating to men, you always had to ask your mom, friends or go out and get a man; so you could find out for yourself.
As a result, you end up being a lot more confused then you initially were. To top it all off, your heart gets broken and then you continue to repeat the cycle until you “wake up”.
The problem isn’t only that; it’s also always having in the back of your mind, if you don’t do everything he askes, he’s going to find someone else who will. The truth is, if he wants to find someone else; he’s going to find someone else.
I hate, when people say “If you don’t do it another person will”. It’s sad, but that is what people say when they want their way and you refuse to give it to them. This seems to especially apply to men. It’s gotten so bad, women are telling other women “What you won’t do another woman will”.
I thought as women, we are suppose to have each others backs; or am I trippin?
If you didn’t know, now you know. That’s how we’ve lost our power; because to many of us don’t have morals. We don’t make them work for it anymore. The bar is set so low, when it comes to what well except and tolerate. This is the time to change that; especially if you’re giving him that “good good”!
You’re the prize, not him!
Inconclusion, a woman does not have to be a man’s equal on all level; no matter what society tells us. It’s all about what you and he are looking to gain from the relationship. Also, relationships aren’t a one size fit all. Sometimes you’re going to have a man who doesn’t want his wife to work, she might want to; there’s nothing wrong with that. It just means they’re not a match or they may be able to compromise and find a solution.
The key is to find someone that is your equal mentally. Once that connection is built, everything else falls in place.
Hope all is well. As you see, I’m more than happy that school is going to be out in the next three days. To add to that I don’t have any children. So I can take this opportunity to focus on where I’m trying to be in life before that time comes.
Have you ever just wanted life to go a certain way? But every time you try to get it to go in what you think is the right direction, it surprises you and goes a different route. That has been the story of my life. There have been countless things that I’ve wanted to do in life.
Let me give you some examples of the things I’ve wanted to do recently. Start Shopify, Etsy, YouTube, Photography, Real Estate and the list goes on.
I’m sure the reason I haven’t been able to excel at these things is do to my inability to commit; I know it is. I believe my failure to commit is due to a fear of failure. As I’m sure a lot of us have.
But I promise myself this summer I’m gonna give it all I’ve got. I have this one golden opportunity to get something started and that is exactly what I’m gonna do. There are to many ways to enjoy life for me to not find one.
If you’re at this same point in life; where you feel things could be a whole lot better and you want a life of freedom. Take the leap and make it happen. You’ll be so happy you did.
I’m sure once I make it to the life I’ve always dreamed of things will start to become clear to me.
So, these are some of the things I’m gonna be doing to help propel my life in the right direction. You can try this if you’d like.
Start a routine
Workout 5x a week
Give 5 to 10 hrs a day to the thing I want to do for the rest of my life
Never give up
Practice being a Influencer, not a Consumer
I’m sure these things seem small. But the small things start the big changes. These six things are going to be keys to my success. I’m sure there are many more things I’m going to have to do, but these are my starters.
As I stated before, I am going to be dabbling in a few things; Shopify, YouTube, Photography, Etsy, and maybe even fiverr. I’m not sure what I’m going to stick with. Bit I’m happy to say I’m starting.
Financial Freedom is something I’ve always strived for. So taking this on full time is going to be a dream come true. I know it won’t be easy, but I’m ready to work as hard as I need to in order to make it a reality.