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To marry or not to marry; that is the question

Question of the day: If married is it the other half’s  responsibility to pay the other’s child support?

  I know that question might come out of left field for some of you, but there’s a lot of people these days getting married to folks who have not paid their child support ever; or if they have aren’t paying what the parent who has custody feels they should pay. This post is going to hit home for a lot of people.

Recently I came across a post on Derrick Jaxn’s page. The post read a little thirsty. It was stating a Baby’s Mother dilemma of whether she should try to get more money out of the Baby’s Father; all because his wife makes close to $1 million a year. At the time he was already providing her with $900 a month. That amount was determined before she found out the wife made close to a million a year.

Some Wives Are “Pissed” That Coronavirus Stimulus Checks Were ...I don’t know about you, but to me she seemed a little greedy. Also how is it okay to dig in the Wife’s pocket because you’re struggling? I don’t mean to sound insensitive, but you’re taking money away from her babies. Not even that, she worked hard for what she has and that was (I’m guessing) before her and the Baby’s Father got together.

In no way do I want to tear anyone down. I just feel that relationships or situationships shouldn’t lap over into one another. So… if the child is being taken care of and the father or mother is doing all they can on their end, there’s nothing for the other to be complaining about. That’s my 2 cents.

I know everyone is not going to agree with this, but that’s just how I feel on the matter. I know cause a friend of mine who is the mother of 2 beautiful girls (My Goddaughters)  doesn’t feel there’s anything wrong with what the mother is trying to do. She feels it’s both of their responsibility; meaning the Wife and Baby’s Father to provide for the child outside of their marriage.

Her reason for thinking this way seems to be strictly based off of what she’s gone through being a single mother. I understand where she’s coming from. But why should responsibilities he had before become mine?

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Married Man

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Good Afternoon!!

I know it’s been a while since I’ve written anything. That is do largely to me trying to find myself; not really. I was trying to get trapped in another relationship. But the only people who seemed to come my way are men not worth my time. They all had some type of hang up about them. I’m not going to really get in to that, because we would be here all day if I did.

But like I stated in a previous blog, there was one guy I was interested in. Wasn’t because of his looks because he’s not that good looking at all. It was just that once I had the chance to meet him in person I already had some form of feelings for him. As we all know when you like someone’s personality or presence it makes you find them more attractive.

I don’t know why but it seems like I always attract and am attracted to the asshole; because that was exactly what he was. He would say things and not care how they affected me. Some part of my liked that, because he was being honest. I guess I appreciated his honesty because there are so many people around me that babysit my feelings. At least with him if he said something I knew he meant it. But that over time got old really quick.

The other thing I’ve failed to mention was the fact that he was attached to someone; they have kids together and everything. The only reason I continued to talk to him after that was mainly because of boredom and depression. As a friend he would be ideal, but nothing more than that. But me not knowing when to keep a guy as a friend and when to enter a relationship with one, I continued to let him pursue me. Making him aware that I am not fond of sharing and that I will never knowingly share a man I intend on being intimate with. But he kept right on and I let him.

To be honest nothing really happened between us, but it could have. Over time I really wanted to see what he was capable of when it came down to the dirty deed. But something in me just won’t let me go that far. Mainly because I know, no matter how long we’ve known each other or how close we get he has someone he is messing over to get with me. He always told me she knew about me; not me per say but she knew there was another woman he was engaging in sexual activity with.  He tried, and I wanted to let go, but him not being mine just made me so uneasy.

I thought of throwing away my morals plenty times when it concerned him, but then I began to think “Why”? I’m not benefiting out of this situation. Take for instance my car is beginning to over heat. You think he offered to even look at it or give me some money to fix the problem “No”; at the end of the day I am left by myself with all of my problems. So for me it’s a high risk, but for him he’s just playing a game. Trying to see what woman is going to be dumb or desperate  enough to except scraps of  a man instead of her own.

Final Thought

If you can’t be his one and only and you’re the secret, you’re getting the short end of the stick. I don’t care what you say.