I’m sure you’re looking at the title and you’re like, ” Does that even make any sense?” To be honest, I wouldn’t have known anything like this existed if it wasn’t me going through it. It’s not fun, let me tell you that.
It’s like I love and care about everyone that I’ve ever come in contact with. But, most times I’m either afraid to say something or I’m on a crabby mood and I don’t want to say anything. Either way it’s uncomfortable.
If I weren’t so emotional and cared how others viewed me, I would be at peace right now. I wouldn’t be tormented by my interactions with others. Worry if I was nice enough, if I came off rude, or if they liked me.
What I’ve found out is; personality types such as the INFP( my personality type) are highly sensitive and are constantly seeking the approval from others. Learning this early on would have helped me realize why I’m so different from others.
I’m sure many probably won’t believe this is a real thing. But for me it has helped me a lot in realizing who I am . Also letting me know I’m not that weird because there are other people out there just like me.
If you’re a antisocial people person don’t fret because you have a friend in me.
It’s Friday!!!! Yayyy!!! We’re finally at the end of the work week!! I’m thankful this week went by a heck of a lot faster than last week.
Today’s topic as you’ve seen is “Rolling with the punches”. I feel like that’s what I’m doing and I’m sure a lot of you are also doing this at the current moment. Many times as I’ve stated before, I don’t believe it’s fair. But then again, life isn’t fair. The only thing you can do is live life the best way you know how.
Over the past few weeks there have been a few people around me who have passed away. I just have to say 2020 has been a f***** up year for a lot of us. I just thank God that my family is doing fine and I still have breath in my body ( a chance to turn my health around).
This past week I was hit with even more negative information about myself. At first it broke me down because I wasn’t sure how I was going to fix this problem. But eventually I came up with a solution.
In other posts you’ve seen that I’ve been talking about my health and the sun. Also mentioning how weak and terrible I felt. I have to say that was my own fault, because I know and have known what I have to do to be healthy. My problem is, I let my feelings guide me when most times I’m supposed to us logic.
I have to say though; I’m not going to like the way I have to eat now. But the great thing about it is….. it’s going to prolong my life, and give me a better quality of it.
At first I didn’t realize how big of a role food plays in the way you think and feel. It even is a factor in how successful you become. That’s crazy! It makes sense, but it’s still crazy. Once I learned that, I started to realize why some children were going through school like it was nothing. The answer is their health habits and a few other factors. Of course you have some kids who are going to excel regardless. But for others health is a very major step.
If you feel differently or agree, I would love to hear about how good or bad health has affected your life. I know it has affected mine.
How many of you are into imagining the best possible outcome for your life?
I have to admit, this is something I do on the regular. Sometimes I just need to get away from reality. If I’m honest I couldn’t tell you what I want to do with my life. The only thing I know is I want to be comfortable and taken care of. I’m sure that’s what most of us want. Also to be inwardly happy.
It’s definitely a task to find true happiness. You know, the kind that comes from your own approval and no one else’s? This is what I someday hope to achieve.
Now all I have to do is learn to be me 100% of th e time. That’s a task in itself.
If you’ve enjoyed this post and can relate, I would love to hear your stories.
What’s up Everyone? As always, I hope you are doing well and having grand life experiences.
Frustration is something I live with on a daily basis. I thought to make it in this world during this time in history was going to be a lot easier than it has been. I find my main problem has been staying consistent. I’m working on it. It’s been a constant problem in trying to grow my audience. In the past there have been so many things I’ve started, but stopped because I lost interest in them.
Like I’ve said in so many blogs before, if there is something you want to do, work towards it everyday until you’ve reached that goal. I find that to be easier said than done. I try to follow my own advice, but many times my emotions get in the way of my success. This is never something I count on happening, it just does. But the good thing is, I’m making strides to change that. I’m tired of my emotions setting me up for failure.
Once I heard this girl say, “What you’re doing right now is what you’ll be doing in the next 2 to 3 years from now. So what that means is; If you have a crappy job now and you want to be your own boss, but you’re not doing anything to create that reality; don’t be surprised if all you have is that crappy job that pays you minimum wage. Remember in order to reap any benefit you have to put in work. The harder and more you work towards your goal, the bigger the pay off.
I’m sure this is something that many of us know; but we’re just not ready to take on the responsibility of creating our own reality. This usually happens because we are afraid of failing. I know I am. That might be the real reason why it’s hard for me to be consistent; because I’m so afraid that I’ll continue to put in maximum effort and never be good enough to make a career out f this. One thing I’ve learned though is that you have to throw caution to the wind and do what you want to do anyway. Learn to do it because it feels good. I know that’s why I write.
If it makes you feel good, no one should be able to tell you anything. Remember, just because some don’t like it enough to help you grow, there will be others that will because they believe in you and what you stand for.
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Hope everyone is doing well. I have to say, I’m feeling GREAT!!!! There are so many things I want to do. But when is there not so many things I want to do. The great thing about me feeling this way is, it lets me know I’m back to myself. Something I’ve been praying for, for a while.
Now that I’m back to myself I need to make somethings shake. The problem is with me; I want to do so many things, but I don’t know the actions to take to bring them alive. Over the years there have been so many things I’ve started. Things like a soap business with Grade A soap. The only thing I have No clue how to market it. I definitely know how to spend the money to create it though. Then there’s the book I published Loyalty Love Lies & Betrayal. I published that almost 2 years ago, but the sales are nothing to write home about. Then there’s my podcast Elevated Living and my YouTube channel Lulus Lavish Lathers. These two are also things I could be working on to generate money. But to be honest all I really know how to do is start things. I never seem to have the focus or motivation it takes to keep it going. But I have a strong feeling that is going to change. Mainly because I really do not want to work for anyone anymore.
The reason I haven’t made it in any of the things I’ve tried yet is….. FEAR. Fear of being in the forefront. You know how you want to be well of but not famous? That’s me. I want the payoff from it, I just don’t want the attention that comes with it. But the longer I sit with this and let life pass me by it becomes more apparent being in the forefront is exactly what I need to do.
My apologies for the short post. But currently this is the only thing on my mine. If this happens to be something you’re also dealing with, maybe we can figure this road block out together.
Also if you’re having problems with your skin and it’s being unruly, try a bar of Lulu’s Lavish Lathers; the soap that Caters to you. Made with all natural ingredients.
If you are one of the lucky ones like myself and are allowed frequent paid breaks from your job; I hope you’re enjoying this free time with every fiber of your being.
As for me, I want to enjoy myself. I just don’t know how.
Question: What childhood behavior or fear followed you to adulthood?
I’m not so sure I’ve written about this in depth, but I know I’ve written about it before.
Some may already know I have many fears. But the one I’ve developed from childhood is fear of authority figures ( especially men).
All though I’m grown and I have no one around me wanting to hurt me; it’s still a fear that lives in the back of my mind.
During this break all kinds of things have been going through my mind. Some good, some not so good. One thing’s for sure, I’m becoming more unmotivated as the days pass.
I’m sure this is happening because I’m back home. Don’t get me wrong I love being back home. I just hate the comfortability it gives me being here. It makes it hard to want to accomplish anything because I am provided the things I had to work so hard for, while I wasn’t here. I know that motivation should still be there. I have to be honest; it’s dwindling.
I know she loves me and wants me to stay a baby forever. But this struggle of being an adult with unresolved issues and childhood traumas and fears, are the things I hide behind when it comes to trying something new and exciting.
The Turn Around
After spending so many years living in my past I’m going to approach this coming year differently. Instead of holding on to past hurts and traumas I’m going to find new and creative ways to let them go.
A long time ago I realized I remain stagnant because I constantly listen to my own opinions, also the person I hang around the most is myself. How am I really suppose to change if I won’t allow new experiences to happen because I’m afraid of the possible outcome?
This is gonna be a real struggle, but it’s definitely something that needs to happen. I can’t have my inner world be richer and more vivid than my actual reality. I’m not going for it. I need and will only tolerate the type of life I would accept in my wildest dreams.
This is something I’ve been feeling for a long while, but have only had the courage to say up until recently.
I bring up courage because it takes courage to change and admit to yourself you live in the hurt because that’s what you know. Not only that it’s what you’ve become accustom and started to crave. This happens when hurt is what you’ve experienced the most. Over time you begin to crave it because it’s all you know.
Please keep in mind, hurt may have been what you’ve experienced and know better than happiness; but it doesn’t have to be. You can take that power back. Make life into what you believe it should be for you, at any point.
Never forget: How you choose to live is a mindset that can be changed at anytime. It’s like have a chest of treasure with a thousand keys. You know one fits, but you have to try them all till you find the one that fits.
That’s pretty much how life works. You have to go through life trying different (keys) until you find the one that unlocks the key to your treasure (happiness).
I hope you found something you can take away from this post.
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How have you all been?! I hope you have good news for me.
First off, I am sincerely sorry for not posting on the regular. But I’m back and getting better as we speak.
We are finally on Winter Break. THANK YOU GOD!!! There is something that comes over you when you know that you’re going to get a full 2 weeks to yourself. As many may know, it’s mainly about the freedom that comes with the break. Especially if you don’t have any obligations to anyone or anything.
One thing I have to admit though; I’m so thankful I’m here with my family. After spending so many years with someone who didn’t want to do anything for any occasion, this is a real change. I have to admit, my Mom is doing it up for the holidays. I’m a little out of practice when it comes to getting in the Christmas spirit. But I can’t wait to start having fun with revisiting it.
What’s special about this time of YEAR
I forgot how fun this time of year could be. Many of us rush around so much that we find ways to rush right through life. Forgetting the people, things and places we love, because we’re so engrossed in other things we have no control over. We get mad at those who may have made a simple mistake, many times because we’re mad with something we don’t have the power to change.
If you haven’t noticed this time of year is for giving and being thankful for the people you love who are your ‘ride or dies’. I’m sure over the years the number changes; but if you even have one person in your corner that is willing to go to bat for you, that’s all that counts.
Too often we think if we’re nice to this person and do everything they ask us, that we’ve made a new friend. Many times when we gain friends like that they don’t turn out to be friends, they turn out to be users. It took me a long time to figure this out, but people use you because you set yourself up to be used. It’s your job to let that person know what you will and won’t take. The other thing is, you have to remember in many cases people are like children; if you constantly give them what they want they’re going to act like a spoiled child when it comes to you and demand the same treatment you started out giving them. It’s not that they don’t care about you, it’s only that they’ve becomes accustomed to treating you like a doormat (because you allowed it.)
Back to what makes this time of year so special. For a lot of us, we get to spend time with family and friends. Picking out things we know they’ll love and expecting that perfect gift from that someone special. Knowing they have know choice but know what to get you for Christmas because you dropped hints over a thousand times. Even aside from that, the great memories that’ll be made with some of the most special people in your life.
I hope you all have a beautiful Winter Break, plenty of fun and you have more than enough chances to make new memories with those you love.
I know I’ve been M.I.A for a good while now. That was do in part to my health. But as the days pass I’m feeling better.
Well let’s get to the blog; shall we?
I’m sure this isn’t the first time I’ve written about it or you’ve read something else from someone else regarding the same topic. But, I want to give you my viewpoint.
We always want someone who’s gonna do for us what the next person won’t.
But….. have you ever thought of it from the viewpoint of; “I’m that person who won’t do those things for myself?”
We hear it over and over again about self worth. How we’re not suppose to allow someone to come in and take up space if they have no respect for us. But we never think of; Why does it happen in the first place?”
Many of us allow these time wasters and cum critters to waste our time because we weren’t taught from young how to spot and what to do when they come your way. That’s why you have so many Good women and men out here marrying and wasting decades with ain’t s*** people.
As I’ve gotten older I’ve learned; If you can’t have a great time by yourself, how the hell are you supposed to have fun with somebody else?!
So many of us are looking for another person to save us. Many of us go whole life times expecting to find that one person who’s going to take us away from all the sad, upset, confusing things or people that are our life. Not realizing we are who we’re looking for.
See, one of the saddest things to learn when you’ve lived all your days and still haven’t found happiness is;
You are your own hero. You had the power to change your reality all along.
So to those who don’t believe happiness begins with self worth and discovery. Please reevaluate your values and morals.
I’m really just trying to save those of us out here who have the mindset of, “If he/she leaves me, what kind of life will I have without them?”
There are people everyday taking their own life or someone else’s because the person they chose made a different choice and decided to be with someone else.
I understand love makes us do some crazy things while we’re in it. That’s why the best person for you to fall for first and always is YOU. One thing’s for sure, you’re never leaving YOU.
Might be a little corny but as long as you keep this in mind breakups will be way easier. “Self Worth Makes the Dream Work”.
Remembering that and really practicing it will put people on high alert as to how to handle you. What that means is; once people realize you’re good with them in or out of your life, they’ll either straighten up real quick or exit stage left. Keep in mind no love lost. It’s just you have found your voice and realized your worth; and you’ve realized you’re not down for the Tom Foolery anymore.
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