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Therapy!

Good Afternoon!

  I hope everyone is being careful and spending time with those they love.

Let me start by saying, “I love therapy!” I’ve always known I needed it. But to finally get it is a high like no other. There are things that have happened through my life I couldn’t make sense of or just needed some help working through. With therapy I feel that little girl in me coming alive. I’m still not exactly sure if I’m completely happy about that. One thing I am happy about is, getting to understand myself a lot better, being able to understand my behaviors and why I feel what I feel in certain situations.

I had not realized until yesterday that I’ve been in some really uncomfortable and toxic situations. All this time I thought the things I went through were normal. Mainly because all I really know is toxicity; when it comes to male female relationships. So in my adult life that is what I expected and deep down accepted.

Through this process I’ve been made aware struggle love isn’t necessary. I am capable of being in a relationship that serves me and not the other way around. I’m sure I’ve written about this before, but I’m writing about it again because I feel I understand it a little better.

We go through struggle love because it’s all we know. This is why a lot of unhealthy decisions are made; because whether we realize it or not, we’re making the same choices our parents made. It didn’t work for them and most likely it won’t work for us. But we continue to go around and around in a circle, until we receive help to learn there is a better way to go about life.

Codependency is a silent killer, and if you continue to put others before yourself you will always get the same result time and time again.

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Boundaries?

Good morning!!!!

Hope you’re having fun. Remember everyday is a new opportunity to have a better one.

 

Boundaries Self Love Necklace Set | Bryan AnthonysWhat I wanted to get into with you today is; “Boundaries or the lack there of”. What are healthy boundaries? How do you know when you don’t have any boundaries? What happens as a result of not having them?

 

When you have boundaries you have the strength to say “No” without feeling you’re doing the other person a disservice. Also you have less stress, and as a result of being less stressed you typically are less angry. Which are all great things. The other great things are  you have the tendency to take better care of yourself and you’re very self aware. These are things that can help you live your life more affectively.

Maintaining Healthy Boundaries - KWSO 91.9As for what healthy boundaries look like; taking responsibility for your actions and emotions. Non-healthy boundaries are when you blame someone else for what was not in their control. Also when you take responsibility for something you had nothing to do with. Living this way isn’t going to be easy in the least, that’s why you have to develop boundaries.

Without them we absorb other peoples’ energy without intending too. This in turn cases us to stress. As a result of stressing we also agree to things we really want to disagree with, feel responsible for other peoples actions and continue to be mistreated or abused.

If you haven’t noticed, boundaries are a very important when it comes to selfcare. They have everything to do with the way we perceive ourselves and those around us. 

Something else that may happen because of your lack of boundaries is; getting taken advantage of. Some of you may not realize this but this happens a lot. Let’s say, you have someone who has no boundaries and will do anything for the next person. Many times people do this because they feel they haven’t done enough unless they’ve given their all. When in reality someone who has boundaries will not go above and beyond because they understand and know how much they’re whiling to give.

Where as people who lack boundaries get angry with people who have healthy boundaries because they’re expecting that same level of selflessness. People with boundaries understand their self worth and are less likely to be taken advantage of because of their understanding of their value. Tattooforaweek.com on Twitter: "When you're trying to love people ...

Question of the Day:

“How has not having boundaries effected your life?”

 

 

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Ride or Die

There is a concept that many women have been introduced to over the years, and that is being a ride or die for the man their with.

 

To be honest I fell into the trap of thinking that was the way to be. But as you grow up a light goes off, and you realize you can do better by yourself. I mean really; who wants to be with someone that isn’t even trying to get themselves together? Not me, I know that for sure. I know women aren’t the only ones who deal with this; but it is more expected for a woman to deal with a man’s shortcomings then it is for a man to deal with a woman’s.

Decade after decade, we see these women who spend their whole lives trying to help a man get on his feet; only to be left for someone who is the complete opposite of her; It’s getting old. Not to mention, she can’t get back all those years she gave to you. Those years are forever gone. True there was a lesson that came from it; but once someone has been through something like that it’s hard for them to trust and love again. I’m not saying it’s impossible, it’s just hard.

Then you have other women it fazes, but they don’t let that instance or instances stop them from finding love; they just become more cautious about the type of person they choose to entertain. To those women, I take my hat off to you because it takes a lot to give all you believed you had. Then muster up the courage to go out here and try it again. 

Relationships aren’t easy. I always say they’re like a job. 

Just because you haven’t doesn’t mean you don’t have to work to keep it.

Many times you have to work harder to keep it, than you did to get it.

 

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