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I thought I knew you. Looking back, I realize that was a silly assumption on my part.

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Signs of an Unhealthy relationship

You see, there are people who hide who they truly are. Then later on, that monster takes over the person you thought you knew. Things you once loved slowly turn into things you can’t stand. All because that monster picked it’s ugly head out. It seems nothing makes it happier than to catch you off guard. Once that happens, it make you feel uncomfortable and seemingly unwanted.

Once that happens there’s no reason to stay, or try to work things out. Unless you want to spend your days convincing someone who isn’t even on your level to love you and choose you. I don’t know about you… but I have way more life to live. I don’t have time, nor the energy or patience to cater to someone else’s insecurities.


Years ago I remember watching a YouTube video. At the time I didn’t take it too seriously because it was meant to be a joke, but in all honesty that video carried a lot of weight. I didn’t know it at the time, but I was suppose to heed that message.

Image result for controlling boyfriendThe video was one warning women of what types of men to stay away from. The one closest to mine was the guy that was overly controlling and untrusting. I hadn’t realized it yet, but the longer we dated the more and more controlling and untrusting he became. In the beginning I believed it to be a sweet quality, because I never had someone care about my whereabouts & safety before; know one but my family. So naturally I basked in the attention. It wasn’t until much later I realized it was more about control than actual care.

Like they say you live and you learn. I have to say, I’ve learned plenty from this relationship. It taught me a very valuable lesson. Which is; “Never alter yourself to meet anyone else’s requirements, but your own.” It never works in the end if you do.

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5 Rules to Live by

This are some of my rules I live by. I’m not perfect. So I admit sometimes it’s a struggle. I believe one day I’ll get the hang of it.

Be you, because no one else can

 No matter if someone is doing something else or a whole group of people are doing the same thing, you have the right, scratch that; it’s your duty to always be true to you.

There are so many people walking around today saying to themselves, “I wish I did it when I had the chance.” Sometimes it’s a situation other times it could be a really important part of life you missed out on, because you were worried about what the next person was going to say about it. As you know and I know; No one can live for you. So you have to always do what is going to help you live your best life.

Be Humble

It’s something that has the ability to make you relatable to almost anyone. It’s also just a great quality to have.

Many times when people are humble they also have a large capacity to be extremely empathetic.

Another great quality.

Love often

I believe loving people is one of the things we were put here to do. As a lot of people say, “There is no life without love” and I truly believe that. Relationships are what makes life great! I’m sure there isn’t one person who could say they were better off alone. The only reason I could see someone saying that, is if they were hurt by someone and that person scarred them from ever wanting to experience that feeling again.

So love hard and love often.

Have fun

We get so busy with our day to day lives, we forget to have fun. I understand you have to work, take care of your family and other obligations. But treat fun as another thing on your to do list. Even if it’s 10 to 15 min a day, get it in. Life will be less drab if you do.

Also having fun is great for your brain. When you have fun certain chemicals are released; chemicals such as serotonin, and dopamine. Serotonin helps make you feel happy and dopamine makes you excited.

But that’s not the only reason you should have fun. Another is to have great memories to look back on. Having great memories helps to produce a great life.

Live each Day as if it were your last

This is important!! Living each day this way helps you realize what is most important to you. If we truly lived each day this way, I think there would be a lot more happy adults. But we have been taught to water ourselves down to fit into society and what is deemed normal. But you and I know, we all have things we do or think of that makes us different from the average person. Always know you have more in common with the next person than you think.

So, be open to meeting new people and doing new things.

You Only Live Once

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As Always….