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Treasure Hunt

Good Morning Everyone!!!!

If you are one of the lucky ones like myself and are allowed frequent paid breaks from your job; I hope you’re enjoying this free time with every fiber of your being.

As for me, I want to enjoy myself. I just don’t know how.

Question: What childhood behavior or fear followed you to adulthood?

I’m not so sure I’ve written about this in depth, but I know I’ve written about it before.

Some may already know I have many fears. But the one I’ve developed from childhood is fear of authority figures ( especially men).

All though I’m grown and I have no one around me wanting to hurt me; it’s still a fear that lives in the back of my mind.

During this break all kinds of things have been going through my mind. Some good, some not so good. One thing’s for sure, I’m becoming more unmotivated as the days pass.

I’m sure this is happening because I’m back home. Don’t get me wrong I love being back home. I just hate the comfortability it gives me being here. It makes it hard to want to accomplish anything because I am provided the things I had to work so hard for, while I wasn’t here. I know that motivation should still be there. I have to be honest; it’s dwindling.

I know she loves me and wants me to stay a baby forever. But this struggle of being an adult with unresolved issues and childhood traumas and fears, are the things I hide behind when it comes to trying something new and exciting.


The Turn Around

After spending so many years living in my past I’m going to approach this coming year differently. Instead of holding on to past hurts and traumas I’m going to find new and creative ways to let them go.

A long time ago I realized I remain stagnant because I constantly listen to my own opinions, also the person I hang around the most is myself. How am I really suppose to change if I won’t allow new experiences to happen because I’m afraid of the possible outcome?

This is gonna be a real struggle, but it’s definitely something that needs to happen. I can’t have my inner world be richer and more vivid than my actual reality. I’m not going for it. I need and will only tolerate the type of life I would accept in my wildest dreams.

This is something I’ve been feeling for a long while, but have only had the courage to say up until recently.

I bring up courage because it takes courage to change and admit to yourself you live in the hurt because that’s what you know. Not only that it’s what you’ve become accustom and started to crave. This happens when hurt is what you’ve experienced the most. Over time you begin to crave it because it’s all you know.

Please keep in mind, hurt may have been what you’ve experienced and know better than happiness; but it doesn’t have to be. You can take that power back. Make life into what you believe it should be for you, at any point.

Never forget: How you choose to live is a mindset that can be changed at anytime. It’s like have a chest of treasure with a thousand keys. You know one fits, but you have to try them all till you find the one that fits.

That’s pretty much how life works. You have to go through life trying different (keys) until you find the one that unlocks the key to your treasure (happiness).

I hope you found something you can take away from this post.

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Confidence?

Good Morning!!!

Hope you all are doing great!!!

Today is going to be a great day!!! I was finally able to get internet service in the classroom 🤯!!! I can’t believe it!!!

Well let me get to the subject at hand.

Being 100 and 10% YOU.

This is something that seems to be next to impossible for most of us to do. We’re able to accomplish it; but it seems to only be when we’re around people we know and love. Many because we know they love us and we could never do anything too weird or out of the way that would make them want to take their love away. In other words; We trust them.

That’s all well and good, but we me included need to always be the person we are truly. It’s a hard task to manage, but I believe it is something that needs to be done.

That changes when you have people who come from different countries. I don’t know what it is, but many of them have learned to walk with confidence and stand in their truth; so it seems. I might be wrong. But I love the confidence and boldness of people who come from places like Puerto Rico, Haiti, The Dominican Republic and so on.

What makes the people so attractive and attention grabbing is their ability to behave or react freely. The whole time staying true to themself. Something I would really love to learn.

If you have found that spark and have learned to live as your 100 and 10% self, please pass the secret along.

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To marry or not to marry; that is the question

Question of the day: If married is it the other half’s  responsibility to pay the other’s child support?

  I know that question might come out of left field for some of you, but there’s a lot of people these days getting married to folks who have not paid their child support ever; or if they have aren’t paying what the parent who has custody feels they should pay. This post is going to hit home for a lot of people.

Recently I came across a post on Derrick Jaxn’s page. The post read a little thirsty. It was stating a Baby’s Mother dilemma of whether she should try to get more money out of the Baby’s Father; all because his wife makes close to $1 million a year. At the time he was already providing her with $900 a month. That amount was determined before she found out the wife made close to a million a year.

Some Wives Are “Pissed” That Coronavirus Stimulus Checks Were ...I don’t know about you, but to me she seemed a little greedy. Also how is it okay to dig in the Wife’s pocket because you’re struggling? I don’t mean to sound insensitive, but you’re taking money away from her babies. Not even that, she worked hard for what she has and that was (I’m guessing) before her and the Baby’s Father got together.

In no way do I want to tear anyone down. I just feel that relationships or situationships shouldn’t lap over into one another. So… if the child is being taken care of and the father or mother is doing all they can on their end, there’s nothing for the other to be complaining about. That’s my 2 cents.

I know everyone is not going to agree with this, but that’s just how I feel on the matter. I know cause a friend of mine who is the mother of 2 beautiful girls (My Goddaughters)  doesn’t feel there’s anything wrong with what the mother is trying to do. She feels it’s both of their responsibility; meaning the Wife and Baby’s Father to provide for the child outside of their marriage.

Her reason for thinking this way seems to be strictly based off of what she’s gone through being a single mother. I understand where she’s coming from. But why should responsibilities he had before become mine?

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Trust You!

GOOOOD MORNING BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE!!!!!

 

 

As always, I hope all is well and you are following the road less traveled, but the one that you feel in your heart belongs to you. Like I’ve said may times before; “You aren’t living unless you’re living a life of freedom and remain to be uninhabited by your surroundings.

Too many times we have been stopped from doing things we really have wanted to do because we were listening to the opinions of others. Sometimes it’s good to listen to others, but sometimes it’s not.

Let Your Brain Take the Road Less Traveled - The Human FactorMy whole life has been dictated by others. Mainly because I was afraid to take accountability for the things I chose. Cause this way I could sometimes do what I wanted, because someone suggested it and not get blamed for the outcome. But the only thing with that is sometimes people choose what you would have chosen, then other times they don’t. When that happens you’re focused with making the decision whether you are going to do what they suggest, or are you going to follow your own mind and do what you want to do anyway?

That’s why I’ve learned to follow my own advise. Don’t misunderstand me, I still ask people their opinion; but I don’t fall for the peer pressure of doing something because someone told me too. 

It’s gonna be a struggle at first, but you’ll be so happy once you learn to trust yourself. Cause what happens when you finally start following your own mind is; you stop being a follower and become a leader. In becoming a leader you also unlock you mind and finally give yourself the permission to be you, unapologetically. That is when the true beauty of living comes in to play.

 

Question of the day:What is something you’ve always wanted to do but haven’t because of the opinions of others?

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Go away Rona?

Good Morning!!!

Hope you all are remaining happy and healthy through out this thing.

Coronavirus Memes To Help You Get Through These Scary TimesIs it me or does it seem like the Coronavirus is the only thing that seems to be the topic for everyone these days? Don’t misunderstand me, I am fearful of it too. But there are way more things to be concerned about than this virus. How about the fact that there are going to be millions upon millions of people out of work once this thing blows over? There are so many people who are worried about how they are going to keep a roof over their head when those bills come. For some this has already begun to happen.

I myself won’t have to worry about that because I am a salary employee, so no matter what I still get paid even if I don’t attend work. For other people though this isn’t the case; if they don’t work they don’t get paid. I’m sure many business owners are concerned with the profit their business or business’ are bringing in, but just incase they forget there are people who work with and for your business that aren’t profiting nearly as much as you. I just ask that you be a little more compassionate when making your hiring and firing decisions.

Toilet paper shortage memes are everywhere amid coronavirus ...Unlike the 1%ers most people don’t have the time nor luxury of being in between work. I understand you may have some who may not take work or your company seriously, so they won’t work at the capacity they should. Therefore you have to make that dreaded decision to let them go. But what about those who have been with the company for years and have broken their backs to make sure their shows how much they appreciate their job?

Recently my mother’s mother in law got laid off from a job she had been working for close to 30yrs. I couldn’t believe it. She was really close to retirement. I have my own thoughts on that whole situation.

I can’t stand when the rich continue to get richer and the poor get poorer. I know there have been plenty of entrepreneurs who have begun to emerge through the years because things are not as hard as they use to be. But what about those who aren’t business savvy or have a freethinkers mindset? What are they suppose to do? For example a couple years back I told a woman I wanted to get a job online. She looked at me like I hade three heads. Even though I explained to her why, she still couldn’t understand it. I’m sure it was because she was an older woman close to retirement. Also I’m sure in her day they didn’t have that option, they had to work regardless if they were sick or whatever the case. They had to prove their worth. We’re lucky that it isn’t as hard as back than.

The other thing is some people have a hustler/ entrepreneurs  mentality and others don’t. Should we continue to punish the ones who don’t or leave them alone, let them live their life and wait on that 401k?

Just a question.

What are your thoughts?

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The Beginning

Good Afternoon!!

How long have you been Loc’D? (It’s been 2 years for @homegrownlocs Gorgeous!
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#iamlocd #locs #locjourney #locd #starterlocs #interlocs #microlocs #interlocks #interlocjourney #homegrownlocs #locs #dreads #teamlocs #womenwithlocs #locstyles...Another day done in this quarantine. Y’all I got so bored and was thinking so much, that I decided to start my loc journey. I’ve been wanting to do this FOREVER. Given the amount of time we have off from work, I was like, “Why not?” I debated for a long time if I was going to get someone else to them, but eventually I decided I would do it myself. Not because of different energies; mainly because of convenience and expenses.

I have to admit, it was a lot easier than I thought it was going to be. I’m sure actually going through with the beginning process is the easy part. Everything that comes after is going to be the most challenging. For the people reading this who have locs they know what they had to endure during the beginning stages.

I don’t know exactly what I have ahead of me, but I am really looking forward to the ride. One thing I know for sure is there are going to be stares; partly because people are people and they’re always going to have an opinion if they don’t like something. But one thing I know I’m going to have to continue telling myself is, “I’m doing this for me, not for anyone or any other reason”. It’s going to be tough but I’m completely aware and ready.

Image result for two strand loc journeyAlso I’ve chosen to begin my journey with two strand twists. How it’ll look in a year I’m not sure but I’m excited to find out.

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New Age Manipulators

Good Morning!!!

As always, I hope your day has been going well and things have continued to get better in this trying time. But truth be told we all need a little something to distract us from the things going on around us.

   Question: How many of us have dated someone we thought had our best interest at heart just to find out they were really looking out for themselves?

Image result for a woman giving a man moneyIt’s a shame but it happens to a lot of us. We think the person has taken a real interest in us, only to find they were way more interested in what we could provide. I know women have been raised and bred to take the husband with the most to offer. It’s sad though, most us still think like this.

I’m not sure if you know, but we are able to go out and get it for ourselves these days. I get it, most of us want to take a shortcut and have wealth and everything else we need in a short amount of time. But the reward comes when you’ve worked for what you want, rather than trying to scam someone out of what they have worked so hard to build.

Image result for woman taking care of a man memeAlso, it isn’t only women doing the scamming these days, it’s the men. They do the typical good guy things, wait till you fall for them, then their true colors start to show. In a since, they have become better manipulators then most women. The sad part is a lot of these men look to their women to take care of them in every sense of the word. Many don’t see anything wrong with it. They feel because women have been the ones being taken care of since the beginning of time, that it should be their turn to get cared for.

In this since I don’t see that as a justification for roles to change. When you think about it women have endured so much just to be where we are right now. Many of our female ancestors have been beaten, raped, had no rights and the list goes on. So for a man to want to come up off the back of a woman is a little suspect in my eyes.

Granted you have those who have done their fair share of caring for the women they’re with, and just getting sh***** on repeatedly. I can understand why they may have a mentality to use a women for everything she has, because it’s been done to him. Don’t get me wrong; just because I can understand doesn’t mean I’m agreeing with it, because I’m not.

All I say is make sure you can really trust the man or woman you’re with before you start giving them access and spending upseen amounts of money on them or on their behalf. Otherwise you’re going to feel like a real fool if you were to find out they were only with you because of what you could do for them.

If you’ve ever dated or are dating someone you believe has or is currently doing this to you or someone close to you. Make sure to drop a comment below.

I would love to read about some of you alls experiences.

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Medicinal Daily Dose

 Disclaimer: I am not a medical professional.

 

Looking for ways to stay healthy through this health scare?

 

Healthy Eating

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There are things you can do to make your immune system stronger. Exercise, and keeping your hands clean have been two main things I’ve been hearing over and over again. But there are other things you could do in this time of stillness. What you should do is take time to read about different herbs, fruits, and veggies that have the ability to potentially save your life.

Image result for herbsSome of us know this, but many of us have not taken the time to realize just how powerful our immune system could be once given the right sustenance. People who are real vegetarians understand they have to do way more then eat healthy some times or most of the time; they have to do it all the time.

To be honest I know living a lifestyle like this is a stretch for a lot of us, myself included. But it is something we should strive for. Just thinking about all the benefits of eating healthy makes me happy and motivated to do better. There are so many things that come with eating better.

Below are some of the benefits I know of first hand.

  • Energy all day long
  • Healthy more stable mental state
  • Weight lose
  • frequent bowel movements
  • Positive emotional state

 

Aside from the things I’ve listed, I’ve also heard eating this way 100% of the time has the ability to cure life threating illness’. I believe this to be true. The only thing about this is so many of us are food addicts that it would be extremely difficult to eat only what has grown from the ground for the rest of our lives. I’m not saying it isn’t possible, I’m only saying it would taking a lot of determination to put down everything manufactured and grow your own food.


Environmental Changes

 

This one is simple in theory, but is not so simple for those of use who do not have the means to have a choice.

A lot of use know that it would be better for the planet if we did away with all unnatural substances like plastic; This is one material that is causing the deterioration of the Earth. Many of us don’t think about it, because we feel like what we’re doing isn’t on a catastrophic level. Just imagine how much damage is being done when there’s over 5 billion people doing the same thing. It’s kind of scary when you think about it.

They say we have a few years before we really start to see the affects of our carelessness. I believe that it’ll start showing its self long before we begin to expect it.

But to avoid that from happening, wouldn’t you like to take a step in the right direction today?

Remember everything you do affects everyone and everything. You are never alone, no matter how much you feel you are. We are all one.

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Overall goal

Hey y’all,

Hope your day has gone they way you envisioned it.

I was thinking of a goal I believe maybe a little outlandish; but I’m here for it. I have set a goal of a $50,000 profit. That is how much I plan to make by the end of this year. I know to a lot of people reading this, you may think 50,000 is a little low. It might be to most, because many have made this amount or are currently making it.

I just know it would be extremely rewarding to accumulate this much being strictly my owner boss. By accomplishing this goal it’ll give me that much more certainty that I am supposed to be my own boss.

I also would like to invite you to do the same. Think of something that you want sooo bad; then learn the steps you need to take in order to manifest it. For me I know I most likely am going to have to pull all the tricks out of my bag to get close to this goal.

I also want to say; DO NOT WAIT!!! GET STARTED NOW!! There is no better time than the present.

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Social Anxiety!!!!

Hey everyone. Hope you’re having a lovely productive day.

My topic if choice today is social anxiety. I chose this topic because it is something I battle with on a day to day basis. I can’t say that I have been medically diagnosed, but I’m sure that is what this is.

Everyday I dread going outside of my house. Not because I hate going outside, because I love nature. I’m just not a fan of meeting and speaking to new people. Don’t get me wrong I would love to expand the number of friends I have. I just become very frustrated, flustered and uncomfortable when meeting new people.

I wish socializing came easy to me like breathing, but it doesn’t. My mind is constantly filled with negative thoughts of how my interaction with the next person is going to play out.

It’s not as if I’m asking them to do something. That is definitely not the case. It’s more of wanting them to except and love me for who I am.

I never understood it, but I always have strived for approval of every person that has ever entered my life; from my Mom all the way done to the cashier at the grocery store. I know that no one has a great relationship with everyone they every met. If they do it’s usually because they are not being true to themselves, in most cases.

So at the current moment I’m working on me and taking steps to having a better quality of life.

Who has felt like this?

If you have, it would be nice to know I’m not alone.

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